The Value of Being Utterly, and Gloriously Wrong

Here’s a good article on learning…by being wrong. Sometimes that’s the only way we grow! You can go to Beyond Wealth to see more…

Friday, February 20, 2015
The Value of Being Utterly, Gloriously Wrong
Alexandar Green
When I took my first job as a stockbroker back in 1985, I was as green as a Granny Smith apple.
Although I was confident that I could make boatloads of money in the market in a short period of time, I quickly got my head handed to me.
Over and over again.
My investment strategy was a completely blinkered market-timing approach. (I was certain I could be in for the rallies and out for the dips.) And while I believed in its heart and soul at the time, it never had any real chance of success. Things never got better for me – or my clients –
until the day I recognized that fact.
No one relishes the idea of being utterly and profoundly wrong. But discovering we are can be one of life’s most rewarding experiences.
For reasons of pride, ego, hubris, or fear, however, we have trouble accepting this. That means we miss some of the best lessons life has to offer.
After all, when you admit you’re wrong, all you’re essentially saying is that you know more today than you did yesterday.
Yet studies show that we glom onto ideas early and resist letting them go. Psychologists call it “confirmation bias.” That is, we seek evidence
that confirms our beliefs and ignore or reinterpret evidence that
refutes them.
It’s easy to see how this happens. We all gravitate toward like-minded
individuals, listen primarily to those who share our opinions, and read books and articles by writers who confirm our points of view.
But the narrower our sources of information, the more error-prone
our thinking becomes. When it comes to puzzling things out, instead of doing the heavy lifting, we take a nifty shortcut: jumping to a
conclusion.
In a 1989 study, for example, psychologist Deanna Kuhn found that when subjects were exposed to evidence inconsistent with a theory they preferred, they failed to notice it. When they did recognize the contradictory evidence, they simply reinterpreted it in favor of their preconceived belief.
In a related study, Scientific American columnist Michael Shermers
writes, “Kuhn played an audio recording of an actual murder trial and discovered that instead of evaluating the evidence first and then
coming to a conclusion, most subjects concocted a narrative in their
mind about what happened made a decision of guilt or innocence then riffled through the evidence and picked out what most closely fits the story.”
Knowing this, is it terribly surprising that there have been 325
post-conviction DNA exonerations in the U.S.? Maybe Woody Allen wasn’t kidding when he said he’d hate to leave his fate in the hands of 12 people who weren’t smart enough to get out of jury duty.
In every arena – politics, religion, science, investing – if we look at the evidence with an open mind, we have nothing to lose but our ignorance. Our views are more likely to be accurate when we are better informed.
In his book Confessions of a Philosopher, Bryan Magee writes that he became a skilled debater by identifying his opponent’s weak points and then bringing concentrated fire to bear on them, a tactic used by successful polemicists since ancient times.
Yet he was blown away when he discovered that philosopher Karl Popper did just the opposite:
“He sought out his opponent’s case at its strongest and attacked that. Indeed, he would improve it, if he possibly could, before attacking it. He would remove avoidable contradictions or weaknesses, close loopholes, pass over minor deficiencies, let his opponent’s case have the benefit of every possible doubt, and reformulate the most appealing parts of it in the most rigorous, powerful, and effective arguments he could find – and then direct his onslaught against it. The outcome, when successful, was devastating. In the end, there would be nothing left to say in favor of the opposing case except for tributes and concessions that Popper himself had already made.”
Magee said it was thrilling to witness. Yet no one reaches this level of understanding without taking the time to thoroughly investigate an opposing view rather than dismissing it out of hand. It takes time to weigh the evidence, consider it, and allow for the possibility that we could be mistaken. This is something that most of us – if we’re honest with ourselves – are reluctant to do.
When you bring an open mind to a conflict, one of three things will happen. You will strengthen your existing convictions. You will become more sympathetic to the opposing view. Or you’ll end up smarter today than you were yesterday. (And get a lesson in humility in the bargain.)
That’s why we should never lose our temper in an argument. If you’re right, you don’t need to. If you’re wrong, you can’t afford to.
As the French enlightenment philosopher, Voltaire said, “Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is an absurd one.”
Carpe diem,
Alex

Be Well

Vince

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Why Visualizing Doesn’t Work!!

That’s right visualization doesn’t work. It demotivates you, rather than empowers you. Keep reading to find out why!!

Joel F. Wade writes a great column in the Oxford Club called “beyondWEALTH, THE ROADMAP TO RICHES.” In the latest issue, “The Shift in Focus That Can Turn a Wish Into a Triumph,” he talks about the scientific reasons “visualization” doesn’t work.

Gabriele Oettingen, professor of psychology at New Your University found that when we ONLY Dream about reaching our Goals, it is Relaxing and Comforting, but when we run up against the actual work it takes to even get started, we “Lose the Dream.” You see, Dreaming doesn’t account for the struggle, the effort, it takes to do anything. And every Dream or Goal takes Work and Time, and when you realize that, you become disheartened and lose the Intense Desire and Focus that the Dream gave You.

Gabriele found a technique called “Mental Contrasting” that gives you Huge Leverage in Accomplishing Your Dreams. She asked people to Dream of Their Success, and then immediately confronted them with the Obstacles, they would become energized and ready to dive into the Tasks! She found that You need to START with a Dream, but it has to be grounded in Reality. You need to shift Your Focus and go right into the Challenges and what needs to be Done. Doing so connects the Future with the Present and Motivates You to Get Started. Every task and every obstacle then becomes The Dream!

When Olympians do not focus on winning a Gold Metal, but on performing at their highest level, and what it takes to get there, they have a much better chance of Winning.

That shift in Focus will make the difference between a Wish and a Triumph!

For more on How You Can Change Your Dream into Reality, contact me for a free session! You will learn the skills and habits that will build You a Successful LIFE!

Maybe Not So Foolish Comments!

Regarding my missives of yesterday, they were an overview of what I have been thinking about lately. Maybe today’s thoughts might be a little less foolish, as I will try to explain and elucidate the ones from yesterday.

I will start from the end of yesterday’s thoughts, and go to the beginning to get a perspective of how I am thinking, and how it can benefit you in Finding Your Dream.

The concept of connectivity is crucial to Finding Your Dream. How can you ever be in touch with yourself, if you don’t realize how you fit in? If you don’t, going to work, or running a business is all you can even conceptualize. You might be saying that you are Finding Your Dream in your present situation, you might be “happy” there, but the world is always creating, and you will soon have an inkling that there is something more. Sooner or later, you begin to realize that you are stuck in the rat race, knowing something is wrong, but have no idea what it is, or how to escape. You will begin to know your potential isn’t being even remotely fulfilled So finding that deep inner spiritual connection…going within.. is the first step. You must get to the point where you are comfortable with yourself and your circumstances…so you know where you are…so you can begin to see that you could even have a Dream. That unfulfilled potential is your Dream, and accessing it is the goal and the process of Finding Your Dream.

So what distracts you from knowing who you are and where you fit in. Thinking about all the social problems in the world, and how “someone” should fix them, is a big one. That’s why I talked about the role of government in our lives. If we can think about ways we can control ourselves… i.e. personal responsibility…less control is needed from the “outside.” Learning that anything outside ourselves is only a perception, and it keeps you from concentrating on what is important to you…YOUR Dream.

Another big distraction is the current political climate. Being all caught up in the current issue is really intoxicating. Someone is going to do something!! And I am going to support them!!! This tends to abdicate self-responsibility, which keep you from focusing on what makes you happy and fulfilled. You might say that your support of one candidate is fulfilling and necessary…it might be…but how much have you thought of yourself while fighting for your candidate? It’s your mind’s way of keeping you safe and secure, which is its job.

So how does talking about the political arena relate to Your Dream? If you spend an inordinate amount of time participating in the irrelevant…in my view…discussions and distortions, you are taken away from focusing on yourself. What do you want…a peaceful life? So if we focus on that…dreams can come forth. Realizing that we are in this together gives you a perspective on how you relate and connect to everyone else, and, therefore, how you can contribute to humanity.

How you are connected? I have been taking some courses, like A Course in Miracles. It teaches you that the things you see and thoughts you think are meaningless. Once that barrier of meaninglessness is broken, real “reality” begins to show itself for what it is….a construct…that we construct. Therefore our Dream can be created.

Another unique and powerful course is Crack Your Egg. In it you learn that your reality is your Egg and you need to Crack it to see your potential…to Find Your Dream. Your Egg is deeply planted; it pervades your reality and distorts your perception. It is a complete course on getting to your core beliefs, and changing them so actually Finding Your Dream becomes not only possible but inevitable!!

From these courses, and others that I will discuss in future missives, and my own research and experience, you can realize that Finding Your Dream is in your grasp!

Also, I do private one on one coaching. If you want to Learn that

You are Loved,

therefore You can Love Yourself and

Find Your Dream,

email me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com or on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/vsalzer

What is a Dream?

 

I have been receiving a lot of questions about what is a Dream, so I thought I would write a Primer on what it is.

First it’s not the one you had last night…while you were sleeping…lol.

It’s your Vision, Mission and all your Goals rolled into One Thing. It’s the way you want to Be…the State you want to be in…like being Happy.

Did you know you are living your Dream right now?

Yes, Your Dream is always in the Present. It’s the way you are…your Being!

Your Dream comes from your Decisions. They have taken you to where you are right now.

So, if you don’t like the one you have, get a new one, by doing these simple, exciting things:

You start by thinking…visualizing what you want your Dream to be.

So what do you really love to do? How do you want to feel?

Think about it…Feel it…by getting quiet…outside and inside.

There are techniques I can show you how to do that, and they unique to each one of you.

Next watch yourself live that Dream. Become the Watcher!!!

Separate yourself from all your past memories and all your future nightmares…and just be in Your Dream.

See it…Be it.

Third, see what ideas come up. They will things you can do to realize Your Dream.

Then do the first one you get. I call it the Next Right Thing…NRT.

It will be something that excites you…and easy to do.

After that, get feedback…and do the NRT that you get…from Being the Watcher!!!

Do that over and over…live your life like that…and You Will Find Your Dream!!!

How Grieving helps to reevaluate life…which moved me into the Metaphysical.

All these thoughts on grieving have helped me to reevaluate my life. It has given me a Purpose…to pass on my family traditions and values. It has also brought me think about the metaphysical and “God.”

I specifically have been thinking about how existence could have begun.

I really like the theory that in the beginning there was just “One.” There was no time or space because everything was One…like all together…at the same time.

Then that One wanted to realize itself, so it created “Two,” which created the Universe…and here we are. Simple right…well getting to Two was, but after that…will take more analysis.

It is said that if you try to randomly solve a Rubik’s cute, it will take billions of years, but if you have only one feedback after every try…whether it was right or wrong…a 1 or a 0…it will only take hours.

So that is how the Universe went from Two to today. There was feedback…meaning every action had a reaction…and someone kept track. We can call that Source or God…what it has been traditionally called.

Some call the One as nothing…like zero…i.e. atheists and some scientists, but that does not make sense logically, or mathematically, or have any meaning in physics…at least to me.

Maybe some scientist can explain it, but it would have to make a lot of sense, and not be too complicated. Mathematics…the language of science…has problems with zero. It can’t be manipulated. So to start with zero creates a problem. Zero multiplied or divided by anything is undefined. So to divide nothing into something…like 2/0 doesn’t make sense.

So I think we have decided that it has to be One. That’s what all the religions and mystery schools have told us too. Also, that is a confluence between Science and Faith.

To know oneself is a basic teaching of metaphysics. It’s also called self-awareness…I call it the God Quality in each of us. We can think about ourselves…referring to the past and the future. We understand there is something bigger than us. We can judge our actions by the result they created. That is the same way God operates…always seeing the result…in an ultimate way.

Now I have a question about the feedback of the result of each move of the Rubik’s Cube. I said that each move will have a 1 or 0 feedback…right or wrong. Well, who knows what is right or wrong, unless you know the outcome… the completed Rubik’s Cube. So one must have solved it at least once to know if each move is moving towards the goal.

Hmmm. Then I thought about God. How does He know what is right or wrong unless He has been through all of the Existence already? So he started as One…became self-aware by becoming Two…and then what?

It says in the Bible, that He knows the end from the beginning. That must be why He is God. That is way over my head!

To know right and wrong…ultimately…means you know the outcome. Wow! That is True Self-Awareness!

So how does this work for Us? In the same way, we must realize…visualize… an outcome, and then we can judge our performance against reaching that Goal. That is what is called How to Find Our Dream!

First, we must access that God Part of us that knows our Outcome…our Dream…and then start taking steps to create it.

Ahhh…another thing…create it. What does that mean?

It is the result of self-awareness and free will. They change our decisions and actions based on feedback and our Dream! And that creates a new reality!

So what is Reality anyway? It follows that it is the sum total of our results. As is said, change our actions, which create results, which changes how we perceive and interact with the feedback. That’s why a positive outlook is the best way to view the results because it allows for seeing the possibilities in Finding Our Dream.

And it always starts with the first thing we do. It’s called the Next Right Thing. We really don’t know if it’s right until we do it, and the feedback gives us the answer.

So if the result took us away from our Dream…some would call it failure…we know we must make a change. It doesn’t mean we abandon our Dream. We change how we react, or our strategy, and do the Next Right Thing. It might be doing the same thing, with modifications, over and over, until we are shown another Next Thing.

So failure, or the “wrong” result, isn’t really a big thing. It’s just showing us how and where we need to change.

That should help overcome fear…what other people say…and procrastination.

Just as in solving the Rubik’s cube, the awareness of ourselves creates a path that we can follow through feedback.

Feedback from other people is crucial, as we can sometimes get too caught up in our own reality, and then cannot see the “obvious.”

That’s where I come in. Using my tips, techniques, strategies, and intuition developed over 40 years of business, coaching, and consulting, I can help you find Your Next Right Thing and show you How to Find Your Dream.

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Another Thing for You…

My FaceBook page name is Finding Your Dream. You can see it at Finding Your Dream.
I wrote this on that page….
What can I say about Finding Your Dream…
Well, if you are like most people, you would like to be one of those Rich Online Guys…you know…they click a few times…or send you lots of emails…which probably bother you… and, POOF…they are RICH…
Sounds like Hype doesn’t it?
Well…guess what…you are getting “Hyped” everyday through all the advertising on TV, and in all the stores you shop in.
Do you believe what they say in the TV commercials, or on the packages or signs in the grocery store…Probably not…I don’t…
But…they work…it’s been proven over and over…how…we all buy the things that are the most Hyped!!
Now a better word could be “Promoted”…maybe aggressively..but still, it works. It’s called compelling content, and it gets Results!
In other words, You Buy It!! And Rich Guys…the Guys who know how to do it…make money from that “Promotion.” And yes they Are RICH!!
So, how does that relate to you?? Want to learn how they do it?
Ethically and Honestly, of course.
So do I!! I have seen enough to know that real Money is being made…both online and off. It’s much easier and simpler to do it online.
If this resonates with you…I have found a “Rich” Guy who is willing to train you to do the same thing He does…and if you do DO it…you can be Rich also.
It’s much better than the job or business you have now..boy how I detested mine….long hours…limited pay…
So I’m going to Learn from the Rich Guy, and be the same as him!
Why don’t you come along…We’ll do it together….
Contact me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com to Find Out How…
and…let’s GET STARTED!!
To OUR SUCCESS
Vince
PS… See the picture below…Could be in YOUR FUTURE!!
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