Govern Yourself

Govern Yourself…You already do!

Yes, you drive on the correct side of the road…whether right or left.

Hmmm… says something about politics too…right or left…govern yourself.

In other words, make sure you are “right” before you correct the other side…

and do it with compassion. Not everyone thinks like you do.

Now onto other things.

Tony Robbins is asking what your life is going to like when this “situation” is over. How are you going to act…to survive…in this “new world?”

My answer is…you must make yourself new, because the world will go back to the way it was.

Too much has happened.

Too many people have realized the way it was…is not going to last.

So it’s going towards total totalitarianism…or self determination and feedom.

Each of us…you included…has to choose, and therefore unconsciously contribute to that “future.” (I don’t believe in a “future.” Everything is now. You can read about in a previous blog post Here.)

If you want the self determination…you will have to learn how to govern yourself. To determine your life, you need to create it. That means knowing what you want, setting a plan to get it, and being brutally honest on what you are doing to implement it. No excuses.

Self determination is a form a freedom that is not necesarily “free” as you normally see it. It means delaying self gratification, and much self evaluation…which does not seem like freedom at all.

So, Govern Yourself is work! Just like everthing else.

If you don’t go to work, go lose you house, probably your family, and everythings else you value.

But you don’t like to go to work!!!

Don’t even tell you like work…can see thru that excuse a mile away.

I don’t like writing this blog either….it’s work!!!

But I do it because it’s necessary.

What would happen if everyone really governed themselves…like drove on the correct side of road in everything they did.

No more lies, cheating, stealing…excuses.

Can you imagine if that was only true 90% of the time.

Wow!!!

What if you were that way? Don’t blame the world unless you ARE!!!

I’m not asking for perfectness…just 90%.

Another reason to Govern Yourself is to look at what government has given us.

The current situation is good example…and certainly isn’t the answer…so look for a new one.

What if you drive on a road you pay for it…you consume online content you pay for it. If it cost you a small amount each time, you would be much more selective what you looked at. Also you voted with your opinion. If you didn’t like it, you don’t view it anymore. And the stuff you like you view more of.

Apply this everywhere…so if the road is bad you drive on a different one…which means someone (the private owners) would have to fix it…or lose money. It would decrease in value until someone would buy it and fix it, because they could make money at it.

Other ways that are being used is that if you view, share and contribute, you actually GET paid.

All agreements, or contracts could be put on the blockchain…so there is a permanent record… and secured by a bond. The party that is paying is putting a small amount as security, and the paid party is guaranteeing quality work…and is also bonded by a company…which is based on previous results.

There are platforms that are trying to do this right now.

In other words, all financial transactions are permanent and immediate…no more fraud and movement of money is freely done.

Can you see how this would work?

People say that with “no government” it would be chaos.

It isn’t chaos now???!!!

Another concept is “consent.”

Do I consent to my taxes to be used in ways I do not agree with.

Is it right to take money from another under the threat of bodily harm….no matter who does it…a person or a government?

Is not government like the mafia…just with more power. With the mafia I get something back…like protection…or something. The streets “protected” by them are safer than government controlled ones, because there is always someone there that wants to take over…and will if he can gain popularity.

Actually sounds like a better way to me, although the same thing happens to those who rebel…

Consent is the innate right to chose…to create…to live…to Find Your Dream!!!

That’s enough for now. I might add more later!

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Thoughts on Relationships…

First of all, is to understand the primal urges of our instinctive brain.

Women look for security and safety. They are hypergamous (sp?), which means they are always looking for the better man…and they will monkey branch…they will latch on to that superior man while still with the other one. It’s a basic survival instinct.

Men want to copulate with as many women as possible…to ensure the survival of the species. They also want to conquer and move on.

It’s no wonder there’s a 60+ divorce rate.

So you have to realize that this is happening and know how to combat it if you want to sustain a committed relationship. You will always have the urge to stray, but the question to ask is, after the betrayal…that’s what it is…WHAT THEN? What will you do? Will you hide it and deal with the guilt? Will you be honest and risk losing the relationship? None of those options are positive. That’s what you are left with.

There is a fog that comes over you when you look outside your relationship. You justify your coldness and lack of intimacy because you are not getting what you want out of the relationship. Then it comes to a head eventually and the fog lifts and you realize that you want what you originally had…sometimes no matter how bad it was.

So to stay together you have to deal with these basic things. You can do it internally or together. Just be honest with yourself. Are you looking at other women/men? Always ask yourself…

What will I do then?

What are the consequences?

Even if you are not looking at another person, the same question can be asked. If this doesn’t work…WHAT THEN?

What will be the fallout? Who will get hurt? It will not only be you, of course but probably a lot of other people.

Another thing is that you can’t hide it. Your partner knows your vibe. If you are not feeling it they know.

And if you are looking for an “out,” no matter what kind, it gives you an excuse for not talking about your feelings and resolving issues.

Trust is intrinsic to any relationship and very valuable. You might only truly trust only 2 or 3 people in your WHOLE LIFE!!!

Once it’s destroyed, it can never be restored. A whole new relationship has to be developed…and you will have to become a new person to do it!!!

They say divorce is worse than death

What I can’t understand then, is why there is so much of it…divorce, not death, lol.

So those are the negative reasons why we act the way we do in relationships…and the negative way to combat those instincts.

But that really doesn’t create a good relationship.

Commitment, transparency, and accountability are crucial to your relationships and your life. You will never Love Yourself if you don’t absolutely incorporate these into your life.

It’s “hard”…

It seems hard to be honest with yourself and your partner…and let them be honest with you. What they say sometimes will not be what you want to hear, but it’s necessary. They know things about you that you don’t, so take it to heart…and change as a result.

It’s also “hard” to become accountable….do what you say…and admit when you’re not.

It’s difficult to trust someone enough to tell them what you are really feeling…maybe telling them things you never told anyone else.

It’s hard but no comparison to the destruction of your very soul.

How about being honest enough to apologize when you didn’t Love Yourself and took it out on them.

You blamed them for you not being the person you want to be.

It’s not them…it’s you. Doesn’t matter what they did. You could have acted differently!!!

They are not psychopathic. They are just reacting to what they thought you did to them, out of their own self-hate.

Yeah, that’s right, it’s either self-love or self-hate. There is no in-between.

Can you imagine going thru life not Loving Yourself?

Realizing that brings compassion…for them and you.

That controls your reaction.

If you get in a fight, think about what you did…not them.

You can only change yourself?

That is Loving Yourself!!!

 

Start Thinking for Yourself!

Are you frustrated with how things are playing out in the world today?

On one side there is just accept everything.

On the other, there are accusations of fraud and corruption.

What do you think?

I am sure you know that there is rampant fraud and corruption. Everyone does…

Some just choose to ignore it, so their worldview can be validated.

It is happening on both sides.

This is what happens when you want to see what you want to see…and don’t want to deal with “reality.”

It is also a result of You not Loving Yourself. You then have to accept what other people tell you, since you think you are not trustworthy to search out what you really think.

You are also unworthy of Love from others, so you take their opinion.

That means you follow the crowd…never thinking for yourself…and perpetuate “the matrix.”

In “the movies” reality is changed when someone challenges the status quo. It takes effort and is dangerous, but they eventually “win.”

And the world changes!!!

What’s the lesson?

Nothing changes unless you do!!!

You don’t have to win a war. You just have to quit accepting “the narrative” and start to think for yourself and go your own way.

Like I said in the previous post…

Govern Yourself!!!

So You don’t become a SLAVE!!!

Quit censoring yourself…just start to think differently…it spreads…

Just make sure you are Loving Yourself in the process, so you don’t end up in the negative.

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Recent Events!!!

The recent events have evoked a response from me.

Namely, government is total crap and unnecessary.

My take is…I can govern myself…and so can you…you drive on the correct side of the road don’t you?

This goes in line with Loving Yourself. You will have compassion and love for others, and this makes it work.

Loving Yourself also holds you accountable and transparent. You have no reason to hide anything and can deal with other people.

So almost everyone else drives on the correct side too. We all follow “the rules” that make sense.

The ones that don’t are psychopaths. They don’t care what happens to other people when they “drive on the wrong side of the road.”

And they don’t see that it will destroy them as well.

We all “get it.” We need to cooperate to survive.

So, who will fix the roads is a common question.

Well, look at the roads now. Are they doing a good job? I am sure a better system can be devised…like toll roads…if you use them you pay. Simple…

And the company that “owns” that road will be accountable…if he doesn’t keep the road up, fewer people will drive on it.

That goes for every part of infrastructure…if you use it you pay for it.

The contracts between people can be secured by bonds…payment occurs when both parties are satisfied. Disagreements are arbitrated.

There are many other questions, but can be worked out.

Right now government rules by law but is really at the end of a gun. Just try not complying if you don’t think so. Even a parking ticket can lead to jail time.

I go back to the Bible (1 Samuel 8) where it said thousands of years ago….saying the kings will take your sons and daughters to serve in the military, others to farm the land for him, make weapons of war (formerly people were called to war, but went back to regular tasks in peacetime). He will take a tenth of what you have and give it to his court…friends, and officials. He will take the best of your cattle…

AND…

YOU SHALL BECOME SLAVES!!!

Can it become any more clear!!!

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The Mindset of People Who Contact Me???

I get up to 10 contacts a day for something or other…crypto or “new fresh leads” or “marketing help” to get me more clients.

I have years of experience in internet marketing, financial markets, and intuition into people’s motives.

The crazy thing is how they interact with me. First, they ask me how I am doing, and add friend or dear or something like that. We just met???

How easy that is…huh!!!

I think it’s what you call connecting with your prospect. All it does is make me skeptical. Friendship takes time and trust. I certainly don’t trust them now…and I would never buy anything from them.

But I struggle through…they then give me the pitch…I decline, and attempt to tell them why I would never buy anything from them.

I then offer to help them solve those issues with my consulting and coaching services, which they mostly decline, although some are mildly curious.

But they are so focused on their program that they cannot even imagine they could use some help.

So they go on with their life and sometimes come back later to tell me that their program is the best…and to just “trust” them.

What a laugh!!!

I again try to help them, but it just doesn’t work.

This is how most people are…so convinced that their way of looking at things is right. They can’t see themselves.

I know because I have done and sometimes do it myself. It’s so ingrained in us. But I am overcoming my own habits, indoctrinations, and biases.

The thing that helps is my 3 step program

  1. Realizing that I am loved
  2. Because of that, I can love myself
  3. Find My Dream.

I have compassion for them, knowing that if they just knew they were loved things could change for them.

I also know all I can do is offer my help, and the rest is up to them.

Just as it is for you. You know things aren’t right. I don’t care how good you think you have it. There are always new things to create, but old things have to die first!

None of them will die if you learn how to live in a new way…the way of LOVE.

And I don’t mean the way love is normally thought of…like loving something outside of yourself…such as God, others, and things.

You can’t love them because you don’t really know them. You can only know yourself. The more you know yourself the more you have compassion for others, realize the Love of the Universe, and see things as what they are.

The greatest satisfaction in life is helping others but only thru the love you have for yourself. Then it becomes selfless with concern for the individual results. You just keep doing it…making the world a better place!

Do you want that?

Haven’t met one person who didn’t…

I can help, because of my compassion for you!

Blessings

Vince

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Is “Found” Money “Good” for You?

The evidence says, “Not so Much,” especially if you didn’t do anything to “Find It!”

For lottery winners, it is mostly a negative. They end up broke, and their friends do too.

The winners think that giving money to “deserving causes” helps them, so they give money to friends and family thinking they are doing good.

What happens is they spend the money…mostly foolishly…and then come back to the “trough.” Money does not grow on trees and most people will get fed up with others sponging off them, so there goes the friendship and family peace.

Now I’m not saying this happens to everyone, but the research says it happens the vast majority of the time.

You don’t know how to handle money if you never had it.

Even the rich lose their money, and they worked for it!!!

Their children are notorious for losing fortunes.

So how do people think that they are going to be any different?

Money changes you…or rather brings out what’s on the inside. If you realize You Are Loved and can Love Yourself, you will see that “helping others” doesn’t really help them.

You will be able to resist, or “see-thru” all the requests, and give the money in a way that doesn’t hurt them.

I think it’s like buying them gifts instead of giving cash. You could pay off some debts, pay for education which is linked to maintaining grades, buying a car, house, or other necessary things.

How about helping them start a business, with much supervision, a loan, or equity stake.

How about using your influence to help people find jobs?

How about starting a “family bank,” where loans are given…at a low-interest rate? No other loans are given until paid.

Now, back to you!

The crucial thing is to “get used to the new money.” 6 months is a good time frame. You limit yourself to spending 5 or 10 percent of it, doing things like paying off debt, a nice dinner, and a small vacation…to get away from all the people hounding you…lol.

Your next objective is to learn about money and how to “keep it.” The rich know that it is harder to maintain…or rather grow…their wealth than create it.

The biggest reason is the fear of loss is bigger than the excitement of making it.

There are lots of people that specialize in helping them…you!

Remember, You are NOW RICH!

So go on a learning spree, getting courses and advice from everywhere you can…and pay for that advice. That way you will have some buy-in and be able to apply it.

Never accept just one person’s opinion. Learn and compare. Take what you resonate with and combine it into your own system.

That’s what the 6 months are for. You will still only a basic level of knowledge by then and, more importantly, you will be more accustomed to having money.

The system’s goal is always to generate enough profits from investing to give you the lifestyle you want.

So it’s more than learning about money…it’s learning how to invest it. First, find people and or programs that can do it for you.

You are not able to do it yourself, that will take several years.

Invest in at least 10 programs and start small, get your money back and then start to scale up…each time getting your initial investment back. It will increase the time to financial independence, but at least you will have your money.

One guy says, “I am more concerned about the return OF my money than the return ON it.

Good advice.

If you have grown your money by 10% in one year, you are doing very well. You have to limit the investing to a small part of the total amount. Then you can start to increase the risk.

So many people say they want bigger returns, but don’t realize that the risk goes up too. So always in terms of risk, not returns.

You can start to increase the risk by investing a larger percentage of your funds. Keep the programs you are using, but also keep researching and learning.

Move your funds around, to the better programs you find.

Pick different risks…like 10% to high risk, 50% to medium, and the rest to a guaranteed return.

Guaranteed can be savings accounts, but better would be annuities that guarantee a return after time…usually 10 years… that last for the rest of your life. The returns are usually 10% or better!

Also, life insurance can be structured to give you a secure income, plus a generous death benefit, but remember the “found money” principle. The beneficiary has to fulfill certain criteria…so the best beneficiary is a trust that is managed by someone that can judge criteria.

See, there is a lot to know…about money and keeping it…and there is so much more to learn.

But…none of this works unless you know that You Are Loved, You Love Yourself and you are in the process of Finding Your Dream!

I can help!

Email me for more info at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com!

Step 3 – Find Your Dream

So what is a Dream? It’s the experience you want to have, including the feeling of money, good relationships, and emotions like peace and confidence.

It’s not the house, car, travel, vacations, and “stuff” that will bog you down and make your life miserable. The more you have, the more you have to take care of it. And that’s not peace!!! That is a hassle, constantly fixing things, painting and just a drag on your creativity.

So focus on how you want to Feel, not what you want Have!

You can only Find Your Dream if You Love Yourself. Otherwise, the self-hate blocks will obscure it and keep from even seeing it.

So you have to see it, then you can get the process.

The steps will come from the inside, and you will be able to get them because there are no filters from the “survival” part of your mind.

You will be in creative mode. That’s where Dreams are found and realized.

The process is unique for everyone, but the need for accountability and feedback is crucial.

That’s where I come in. You have the benefit of my insight, intuition, and experience.

The chances of You actually Finding Your Dream without help is almost impossible.

Go ahead and try, I’ll be talking to you soon!!!

Blessings

Vince

Step 2 – Love Yourself

Only after you have “done the work” in realizing that You Are Loved can You even begin to Love Yourself.

Teaching you “the work” is my part. Doing is Yours!

And all those “gurus” that say it is effortless are doing you a disservice.

It only becomes effortless after you have reached a certain mindset.

On the way, you will encounter many insights and blocks. Each will come after the other.

It’s an exciting journey! I know, I’m on it too!

I will get you thru the blocks and celebrate the insights with you!

Once you realize that You Are Loved…partially…it’s an ever-increasing revelation…you will understand why you can Love Yourself.

I can tell you why but your insights are always unique.

They will propel you into new heights of peace, calm, confidence, and ease of taking action.

You DO know that you could achieve anything you set your mind to, but there is always something holding you.

Wouldn’t it be nice to find out?

Like maybe you wouldn’t spend so much in front of the TV or on the computer getting nothing of value done, and just getting more and more frustrated.

To know that you Can accomplish anything you set your mind to does “Find Your Dream!

And it’s done through Loving Yourself!

There are many other benefits that I have talked about in other posts, such as becoming “unoffendable”, gaining new friends that resonate with you, and finding love in your relationships.

It’s the whole package!

You know you need help doing this, so contact me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com and let’s get started!

Blessings

Vince

 

 

A Follow-Up to the “Gentle Reply” Post

I’ve so many requests to add more substance to the A “Gentle” Reply to How to Love Yourself.

The Gentle Persuasion to “Love Yourself” is a good technique, because it is not an easy thing to do.

But just asking if it is “better to Love Yourself than hate yourself” is an easily answered question….Of Course!

So let’s run with that…why is it so hard to Love Oneself?

Because we have done so many “wrong” things…and people have let us know about it…many times.

So if you think about what they said to you, was it reality, or did you have a different perspective on it.

I would say most of the time you did.

That means that they weren’t inside your head…they were inside theirs…and judging you from there.

So if they don’t know your motivations and reasons why you acted in a certain way, why did you give any credence to their criticism?

The answer is, “I don’t know. Hmmmm.”

The second reason why it’s so hard to Love Yourself is that Your MIND is telling you “bad” things. Just listen to it for a while…Like:

  • Boy, you didn’t sleep very well last night. You are tired.
  • Why are you are hungry? You are so fat and useless.
  • Why don’t you get up and do something?

Those are just some examples from my Mind?

Yours are probably similar…or worse!

So, how about using the same technique as listening to others?

Your mind is coming from a different perspective than you are!!!

Wait, my mind is me!!!

Is it? Do you agree with what it is saying?

I don’t really accept that I am Fat and Useless!

So your mind is not really You!!!

You are separate from it.

So what is YOU?

You are a “Spiritual Creator with a Spark of Divinity.”

That’s the REAL You, and the best reason to Love Yourself!!!

Blessings

Vince

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There is NO Tomorrow!

This the follow up to “Today is the Day.”

Since it’s always Today, how can there be Tomorrow?

It never comes, so never exists. It’s all in our mind…

and we live there…wishing for things to be different.

Also the past is our memories…which we remember only in our Present.

So if there is only the Present, why can’t we change the past?

We can…if we perceive it differently.

You say but it happened that way. Ahh, that is your perception. Ask someone else about it and they will have a different perspective.

So change your memory!

It might be a bad one, but think about what that experience taught. Most of the time it’s “I’ll never do that again.”

That’s a great lesson, but have you done that again? Are you stuck doing it over and over?

If so, you are in your past. What a crappy way to live!

Change the memory to, “Maybe this was a good thing…looking back at it.”

So, next time that memory comes up, you just say, “Thanks, I know that one…it was for the best.

Now you associate a good feeling with it, so your evil mind doesn’t want to bring it up again.

This is a constant process, and soon “the devil will leave you for a more opportune time.” He’s not going away. He is licking his wounds, and looking for another to attack you.

This strategy works…most of the time, but he will always come up with a new way to get you…and you can always counteract him with a new one of your own.

It comes from you knowing that everything can be changed…or recreated…and that’s one of the things we were created for!!!

More tricks for you are coming!!!

If you need help…vsalzer@vincesalzer.com is the place to go

Blessings

Vince