Tag: Forgiveness

Let Yourself be Loved

Step number one of the 3 step process to Finding Your Dream is Realize that You are Loved.

The first thing is to get to the point of non-judgment.

We have to start with a life review. Go through you life and catalog all the bad things you did and all the good things too. It seems easy to say but it’s about being honest with yourself. You don’t have to get into those places where you have deep trauma, just do an overview, but go as deep as you can.

This can take some time, as you will have a tendency to gloss over your faults or blame other people. It’s not about them, it’s about you.

You are not judging yourself, just cataloging.

Once you have the list, see if you can come up with a percentage of good to bad. Is it 50% good, or 70%, or 30%? Can you put a number on it? You will find out that you can’t do it. You really don’t know if the good outweighs the bad, because you don’t know how bad or good each item on the list is.

How do you know if you are good or bad then? There is no way to tell…or, in other words…judge yourself. You might have this feeling that you are bad, somehow, but confront it. Tell it that you don’t know…and can’t know.

So why not just forgive yourself for all the bad in you life. You might say that you can’t because of all the bad, but what about all the good? Maybe they equal out…

Maybe it doesn’t make any difference, because you don’t know. So why not just let it go…both the good and the bad…and just let things be as they are. It’s called self-forgiveness…the letting go!!! You have basis and the reason to do so now!

So you are neutral. I would call it clean! That makes you loveable.

Now who loves you? Well your family and friends do. They love for who you are. They made a judgment about you and decided that you are more good than bad and are worthy of love.

How about God, or the Universe, or whatever you want to call it? It does the same thing…deciding that you are worthy of love, and doing it ultimately, and unconditionally. IT LOVES YOU!!!

What if it didn’t? Would you still be alive, or would it just absorb you back into itself and make a new soul….one that is better? Well, it didn’t, so you must be ok!

Now you are Loved in spite of all the bad. You can’t judge yourself, and your friends think that are good enough to be loved and the Universe does too.

That is something that can be thought about and meditated on for the rest of your life.

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You Will Never Ascend Until You Deal With Your Stuff!

We all have traumas, fears, and guilt that limit our growth.

That is called “our stuff.”

We all want to ascend or, at least, evolve, and grow until we are ready to ascend.

We must truly Love Ourselves to let go of all the stuff.

I had an experience with greater power. It put me on the floor, unable to breathe. It said to me, “This is only the slightest movement of my little finger. You cannot handle my power.”

That is the Power that is available to help us.

I learned that you must rise up, and become the person that you know you can be!

That entails being accountable, admitting your fears, and dealing with those feelings and experiences that seem to overwhelm you.

You do that by realizing and repeating that you are not those traumas. That you are Loved, and You Love Yourself. You are a created, never-ending spirit. That is Your True Self.

Then you rise in Your Power!

This is just a short note on what it takes to Find Your Dream!

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How Can You Love Yourself

In a previous post, I talked about the “Why.”

Now it’s time to address the “How.”

If you have not internalized the Why, go back to the post here and review it.

I did talk a little about the How in that post too, but let’s go it again, with more Gusto!

Number 1:  This is an ongoing learning and growing process. You are always becoming a different person! Your past is no longer relevant to who you are today

Number 2:  As you grow, things come up. You could ignore them by focusing on the Present, and overwhelming them with the positive, like repeating I Love You {your name}, telling yourself that all day long, listen to this YouTube here, make a video of you saying it over and over, and send it to me!

Yes, send it to me! It makes it REAL when you involve someone else!

Number 3: When some things persist, so you need a way to respond to them.

They will manifest as an accusation. “You can’t do this. Look at all the things you did.” Even things like, “I don’t know how. It’s too much. I don’t have time.”

The response is: Yes that’s true, that happened, but I’m not that person anymore. I Love Myself.

Then your mind will resort to send you thoughts just to make you feel bad. Insane things that don’t make sense, but your response is, “Yes, I know that, but I Love Myself.”

Then wait for a response. Most likely there won’t be any. Just think if you responded that way to your friends. They wouldn’t know what to say. Think about what you would say if they said that to you!

So the mind “leaves you for awhile” to go conjure up some new memories or situations to accuse you. It will say, “No you don’t,” and then flash scenes in your mind, or just “talk in your ear.”

The response is: Do you want me to hate myself? Make it either Love or Hate! If the answer is Hate, there is a big problem. It is an entity, not the real you. The real you would never actually say that.

Number 4:  Know that “Being comes from Doing,” as my Shaman friend says.

The more you do it, the more you will believe it, and the more you will become it!

Number 5:  Know that you want to Love Yourself! You certainly don’t want to Hate yourself!!! It’s innate. It helps us survive, keeps us from suicide, and keeps us creating  and growing!

Number 6:  Actions and Being are 2 Different Things!  What you have done is not you. You are the Being in the Present! Separate your actions, which are only in the past, from who you are in the Present…the REAL You!

Your actions are always creating a New You all the time! That’s a great response to past accusations. “I’m a new me, Now!”

Number 7:  Some of these memories and accusations will be pretty emotional, so when after you are confident in Your Love for Yourself, you can take on the “Big One,” It’s called Forgiveness. 

You have to be ready to admit your “wrongs,” be sorry for them, and willing to go to who you have wronged and apologize. Then offer to make amends. It’s hard, but so freeing.

You will be surprised that most people don’t even remember the situation, or have already let it go. I wrote about that here. I was so surprised when they said that’s all in the past.

The other thing that could happen is that they won’t accept your apology no matter what you do, but you can’t do anything about that. Just know you did your part.

So let’s wrap this up by recapping How You Can Love Yourself.

  1. You are growing and becoming a new person all the time.
  2. Repeat “I Love You” in as many different ways and as many times as possible.
  3. Learn the responses to all the accusations. …I Love Myself Anyway. Then wait for the response. There won’t be one, but it so keep saying Yes, I know, I Love Myself!
  4. Being come From Doing
  5. You WANT to Love Yourself! Ask the question, Do you want me to hate myself?
  6. Who you Are and what you Do are separate.
  7. The Big One is most Freeing!

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