The Differences in Relationships between the East and West

I just saw video about how single motherhood occurs in the East.

It seems that most of the mothers were very young and innocent when they had their babies. They thought that having a baby instilled a sense of responsibility in the father, but a 20 year man is not ready, capable or willing to do that. They don’t have a way to support a wife and child, so they become a deadbeat dad.

In the West it’s more like the women think they can experience life without being controlled. They have more info, but still have to deal with their biological urges. The government helps them out as well.

In the East it is more of education and awareness, where in the West feminism has influenced women’s choices.

Eastern women want good men who are respectful to them. They want to be stay at home wives and moms. They want children and a family.

Western women want that too, but are not “allowed” to admit it. They have more choices, such as careers and independence, but regret taking them when it’s too late to find a man that they want.

In the East children outside of marriage is looked down upon much more, and no government help is available. They become strong independent women out of necessity, but still want a relationship, and are willing to be feminine to get it.

Western women have lost the concept of what being feminine is and are losing the interest of men.

Let’s say it again, women control access to sex and men the access to relationships.

Women allow men to sleep with them and then expect accountability when it goes wrong. I personally know of an instance that having sex one time produced a baby!!!

I will have to admit when I was young I let my emotions and need for sex overwhelm my ability to ask, “And then What?”

I am very fortunate to not have any unknown or unwanted children running around.

As I grew older my need lessened, but still controlled my circumstances, I never progressed past the teenage phase until I took a deep look at myself.

That is when I received the “Realize that I am Loved, and therefore Love Myself” inspiration.

The reason I could not control myself is that I didn’t think I was worthy, so was filled with shame and guilt. Now I consider sex and relationships in a much different way.

I think that’s why I am comparing the East and West. There are good points and bad between the two, but for men they are not wanting to have relationships the Western way.

Let’s also remember that 80% of women are going after the “top” 20% of men, so most men get nothing and women can’t find a good man…because they are competing for the same man. A man who knows that will just sleep around as he has plenty of choices. A good example of this is in college where women flocked to the sports stars, and didn’t even “see” the good students. So it was just one drunken dysfunctional mess. That has expanded culture wide in the West, and it’s breaking down Society.

I really have compassion for Eastern women because of how little education and support they have….But they need to own their choices! And mostly they do, but they are now faced with the reality of raising their children on their own. Their pragmatism precludes their need for philosophical discussions. So they just want a man to take care of them. They don’t focus on blaming men, but just want food and a home for their children…A very different attitude and reality than the West.

The solution, of course, is control your urges. It’s that way with everything. You can’t build a business by just doing what you feel. Unfortunately, the majority of people just get a job and spend everything they made in 5 days at the local mall in 2 days. There goes success!

Relationships and Life are the same. The principles work…in both areas.

So restrain your urges to achieve Your Dream through Realizing You Are Loved, and Loving Yourself!

 

The Problem with “Marketing!”

I just got a “revelation.”

We are all caught up with marketing.

What is it’s percentage of the retail price of a product?

65 to 70%

That’s right…the majority of the cost!!!

That’s why you hear so many commercials and pitches all day long. They say people are totally skeptical…of any offer. So they just continue on with their mediocre lives…in quiet desperation.

They miss the good ones that could change their lives too. It’s all in there mixed together, and hard to sort through the mess to find that needle.

Before social media we were just bombarded with ads on TV, radio, billboards and signs. Now it’s everywhere!!!

Even our friends are trying to get us into things that they know nothing about and are just excited about the money and “changing lives.”

I would say 99% of the contacts I have made online have tried to pitch me on something.

It is almost impossible to develop a new friendship, much less a relationship, nowadays.

So, instead of companies marketing to you, everyone is. That is good for companies. It lowers their cost of marketing…very little I might add… with the added issues of controlling their message thru thousands or millions of people inflating the benefits or other crazy stuff. But, at least “average people” get some of the pie.

Do you know what the biggest niche online is? Marketing!!! Everyone is selling it!!!

The truth is that there is nothing average about the people who succeed in marketing. They are special, and only 2% really make any money.

That’s the hard truth of today’s society.

The 2% are truly trying to help, but the only thing they know about is marketing. They aren’t really producing anything of value…like products and services. Things like food, shelter and energy…even non-physical things like community and security.

I called these the 5 Essential Things!!!

Yes…Food, Shelter, Energy, Community and Security!!!

That’s all one needs for a good life!

There is one other thing that completes it though, but can’t even begin to manifest unless one has those 5 first.

It’s called CREATIVITY!

That’s when you go to the next level!!

The arts never developed until there was excess in society, and if it ever goes back to just survival the arts will disappear.

Creativity…growing and developing your talents…is where you were meant to be!

So to tie it all together, marketing is unfortunately necessary, because new products…creativity…will never be brought to the marketplace unless they tell people about it.

But it is completely over-emphasized today, and it has resulted the complete breakdown of relationships.

I always was taught that one-on-one marketing was the best way to bring a product to market. I changed my attitude when I realized that I cannot be creative in forming new relationships when EVERYONE is trying to sell me something.

It’s also hard to endure the sad pitches I see all the time. They couldn’t make it in marketing no matter how hard they tried, and would be better doing something like making a product.

I feel compassion for all the “Marketers” out there that are so sure that they will be rich some day.

Marketing…telling people about products is necessary, but only for those who can do it…morally and ethically.

The rest of us…the 99%…should get back to work…doing something of value…that benefits us…helps us survive…first…and  them thrive

It’s called Finding Your Dream!

Vince

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

 

 

 

Have no Idea what the Title of this Post should be!

Let’s see what I am thinking about???

I heard about someone said we need to write every day.

Ideas will flow more that way. Doesn’t mean they will be good…LOL.

Oh yeah…

The idea of “God.”

God is everything, everywhere, all at once!!!

Does that mean “he” created everything…I don’t know. I’m not Him. I’m using the masculine because I can’t use “It.” I could use the feminine, but what’s the difference. How do you characterize “everything?”

So just put up with me. Use whatever term you want. You won’t even be close…just like me.

There are no words to describe Him. All we can do is try to innerstand (I do not use under-stand, because I do not stand under anything.) His attributes.

I saw a “prayer” the other day where they talked about the AI as being outside of God. How can that be? God is Everything!!!

So quit trying to divide up the Universe into separate entities. Yes, one could say that God created the negative. Seems like it but I don’t know.

Again, I’m not Him, and I get…some kind of negative emotion…when people do that. It’s what most religions do. Some have a pretty good handle on it, like the Supreme God created this entity who created that entity and so on…which is reasonable…so long as they don’t divide up “Creation.”

The closest I can get is that there is positive and negative so one can tell the difference, and the optimal “place” (again, I have no word for it.) would be the balance…the null center. Neither left nor right, up or down, good or bad, positive or negative. Just be balanced.

I know we will never actually get there, but will be rotating around it. The goal should be to rotate closer and closer to the center…balance… as we “grow.” (Again, what’s the right word for that? It’s making me think.)

OK, I little aside…Someone said that as soon as one puts things into words, it corrupts metaphysical things. So we probably need to be using telepathy…LOL

Until then I will struggle with words. Maybe some of you can help with different words…or make up our own!!!

Wouldn’t that be cool?!!!

So, back to balance…it means that we don’t have big highs and lows. We do not get so angry, and depressed, and also so in love that we see the other thru rose colored glasses.

Some say the Universe is Love…ie the “God is Love” quote. So the closer we get to balance the more Love we experience from God and in ourselves, for ourselves and somehow for others. We just know Love more intimately!!!

Sounds good to me.

That’s why I say in my 3 Pillars to Realize that You are Loved, Learn to Love Yourself and Find Your Dream!!

The Find Your Dream is the experiencing, growing and creating part of you!

The first 2 are the basis for which you can build and find your Dream.

It all comes from seeing what God is, and quit thinking about all the extraneous, don’t make a difference things. You need to be focusing on having the best experience that you can.

Well that’s my rant for today! Wow 500 words…not bad.

Vince

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

A New Chapter in My Life!

Yes I am entering a new chapter in my Life!

I am Single…again!

It is so freeing! Maybe I am not meant to be in a relationship…or maybe I need to learn how to be in one. ;>)

Either way I have learned so much about myself and my relationships that I am a different person. I used get sullen and not talk when things went wrong. The internal dialogue was atrocious. I couldn’t communicate when I was not Loving Myself.

It got to the point where it was like that the majority of the time. That is why I haven’t been posting recently.

So now I am “coming out” and saying I feel better…getting closer to the Feeling that I am Loved, and Loving Myself more. It’s like taking my own advice.

We all get good thoughts sometimes, and we want to tell others when what we should be doing is applying them to our lives for awhile (which is what I have been doing.) Those thoughts are meant for us to manifest change, heal trauma and evolve. As we grow others will notice, and gather around us to “see us burn!” (evidenced by compassion, enthusiasm, and charisma.)

I have the freedom now to let my thoughts and feelings flow…so that will result in more intuition, and more posts.

Also other things have been happening, like having more things “line up,” connections with like-minded people, and abundance.

It will result in me coming back to the US for awhile and then who knows. Right now the possibilities seem endless, which means it takes a real focus to “see” which direction to go.

So focusing on what I want, and not resisting it is the current agenda. It’s more difficult than one thinks. First sorting out all the different scenarios, then narrowing it down and creating a complete blueprint for one’s life is a full time endeavor.

Getting rid of the distractions, recognizing trauma, and dealing with it always get in the way. Seems like what you want has a whole bunch of barriers.

Why is that? You want it…it’s the best you can imagine…but you can’t really “see” it, or keep it in your mind. There is so much distortion and interference.

“It’s the Matrix…man.” Well, yeah, what kind of world would it be if we all could be “Finding Our Dream!” How about that matrix!!!!

There’s always going to be a construct, because we can’t even imagine “nothingness…” and who want to be in that anyway.

So we should create the one we want!

BUT…remember, it is all about you, but there is an Organization, Source for Everything.

I was listening to an atheist, and how he talked about some religious guy contradicting himself. Well, I thought about how he himself was also  contradicting himself in the most ultimate way. He was talking about “God,” which he didn’t believe in, which is ok, but then he said there cannot be a god.

It’s like saying there cannot be something that we already conceived of…like love or faith or satisfaction. That fact there is a concept called “God” means there is One.

Why, because of the concept, which is:  That which is Everything, Everywhere, all at once!

Try not believing in that!!! Or saying it doesn’t exist!!!

So, just because we all think we create our reality, doesn’t mean that we can do as we please. That freedom can entice us to be so focused on us that we don’t realize the affect it has on others.

We need that Feedback! Otherwise we can justify anything.

So your purpose, your Dream, should be for YOUR Highest Good…which Truly is for Everyone’s good!!!

We can’t really know what that is, but Feedback will tell us. That’s how we interact with our environment.

So Finding Our Dream is the realization of Love…for ourselves, which is compassion for others!!!

Thanks for “listening!”

Vince

vsalzer@vincsealzer.com

The Delusion of the Illusion of Life

I posted about this in a recent Facebook post.

The post was “Are you believing in the Delusion of the Illusion of Life?”

Seems rather confusing or a word play. I don’t know, it’s just the way it was “given” to me.

So I should probably explain it…

The long version would be: Are you deluded into thinking that your view of life is actually the only one there is?

What would happen if you changed your “delusion?”

Is it even possible to not be deluded?

The “Illusion of Life” seems to indicate that.

Does that mean that “Life” is not real, or doesn’t exist?

Some say that the Illusion come in Layers, and we can move between when we realize what they are. There are “Creators” of these Layers called 3D, 4D, 5D and so on. They maintain them so beings can have a shared world. That way the ground is the same for everyone in that world…or vibration.

Actually who knows? That has been thought about, and written about for centuries.

We can say that we know WE exist, but cannot really explain how or why!!! But if the world or life exists is only through our perception.

The so often quote is, “We create the Life we want.” So if each one of us is creating our own reality, what is the Real one for all of us. Is it knowable?

Good unanswerable questions!!!

Let’s bring it down from the metaphysical to the personal. How can we create the Life we want?

The title of this post suggests that we escape the Delusion, and realize Life is an illusion. I submit that it frees us up to construct our Dream! The most important part is the delusion. Freeing ourselves of that helps to participate more in the Illusion…even though it’s fake.

Knowing that it’s fake helps us to not take our Life to seriously, freeing us to create more spontaneously.

Another way to say it is to quit lying to ourselves, so we can respond more authentically. When others see that they become attracted to us.  Then our Dream becomes achievable, because we can’t do it alone, nor do we want to.

For more in-depth info, contact me by way of all the icons hovering above this post.

Many Blessings

Vince

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

Why Invest?

I just was on a chat with an “investor.” She was telling me that I could “make millions” with her platform.

First of all, any such claims are suspect. I said how could I make a million dollars from a $100 investment. She said it would only take months.

Huh???

Would you believe that?

So I asked her how much she has made. She said $2.7 million!!! Didn’t ask for proof, but just said if she made any withdrawals…answer…Yes.

So I asked her what her goal was…answer…$10 million!!!

Wow!!! Big Dreamer!

Then the question was has it made any difference in her lifestyle? She said no.

What???

I then asked what would  be the reason for investing. She responded by how much I could make.

Seems like circular thinking without any reasoning as to WHY!!!

WHY INVEST?

Like I said, one reason is to change your LIFESTYLE. Another is to create security…like having a backup plan.

There can be many other reasons too, but is it reasonable to just invest for investment sake…just to accumulate…hoard…money.

There is a story where a man had his “barns” full. He said he will tear them down and build bigger ones, but he was told that his life would be “required of him” that very night and his wealth would be for naught.

The way this world works is the transfer of good and services. That means you receive and you give…and there is always enough…actually more than enough!

You can keep some of it for the upgrades to your life, but if you strangle the moving of “money” it will ruin you…losing it all, because you are violating the laws that keep life alive!

The real reason for investing is to improve your life and teach others to do the same.

How much is necessary to do that? Actually we need very little to live  comfortably. Does one need all the big houses and cars and parties?

Not Really…but I am not putting down anyone who has those things. I am just saying that there are better things to with it that are much more satisfying. Those things just prop up something missing inside…most of the time.

To get to the real reason why you want wealth is addressed in my Coaching…The 3 Steps to Finding Your Dream.

If you want REAL WEALTH. Send me a message at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com. I am also on all social media at the icons following you down this message.

Blessings!

Vince

New Future…

We all know that there is something wrong with this world, and it’s not going back to the way it was.

I have to say this…Quit kidding yourself that “everything will be ok, even if it never goes back to the way it was.”

The reality is that IT WON’T!!!

Step into that reality and take a hard look at what you are doing. Are you just going about your regular life HOPING that things will be ok, or are you preparing, thinking about the future.

If not you will be a victim that might not survive the change.

This is SERIOUS!

I could go through all the things that are pointing to the collapse of the way things are now, but that’s not my focus.

If you don’t believe it, there’s nothing I can do to help you.

For those of you who know things have to change, but don’t have a clue how to do that, I have a program called 3 Step to Finding Your Dream! I have written about that lots in other posts, so go there to find out more.

The focus here is to get you to think…really think…about the how YOU want the future to be.

Then realize that it is up to YOU to bring that about. Also to realize that YOU have to make a decision…stay in the old world or graduate into the new one!

After that I can help with the details of how to get there, including strategies and techniques as outlined in the 3 Steps.

But first you have to realize the uncomfortable truth…it’s not going back…and what do I do about it.

That is becoming honest with Yourself. It’s the first step to Freedom.

Make that decision today to move into the new future. It will give you hope and a Dream that will make your life worth living…even in the present deteriorating one.

Leave a comment or email me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com to get more info!

Let Yourself be Loved

Step number one of the 3 step process to Finding Your Dream is Realize that You are Loved.

The first thing is to get to the point of non-judgment.

We have to start with a life review. Go through you life and catalog all the bad things you did and all the good things too. It seems easy to say but it’s about being honest with yourself. You don’t have to get into those places where you have deep trauma, just do an overview, but go as deep as you can.

This can take some time, as you will have a tendency to gloss over your faults or blame other people. It’s not about them, it’s about you.

You are not judging yourself, just cataloging.

Once you have the list, see if you can come up with a percentage of good to bad. Is it 50% good, or 70%, or 30%? Can you put a number on it? You will find out that you can’t do it. You really don’t know if the good outweighs the bad, because you don’t know how bad or good each item on the list is.

How do you know if you are good or bad then? There is no way to tell…or, in other words…judge yourself. You might have this feeling that you are bad, somehow, but confront it. Tell it that you don’t know…and can’t know.

So why not just forgive yourself for all the bad in you life. You might say that you can’t because of all the bad, but what about all the good? Maybe they equal out…

Maybe it doesn’t make any difference, because you don’t know. So why not just let it go…both the good and the bad…and just let things be as they are. It’s called self-forgiveness…the letting go!!! You have basis and the reason to do so now!

So you are neutral. I would call it clean! That makes you loveable.

Now who loves you? Well your family and friends do. They love for who you are. They made a judgment about you and decided that you are more good than bad and are worthy of love.

How about God, or the Universe, or whatever you want to call it? It does the same thing…deciding that you are worthy of love, and doing it ultimately, and unconditionally. IT LOVES YOU!!!

What if it didn’t? Would you still be alive, or would it just absorb you back into itself and make a new soul….one that is better? Well, it didn’t, so you must be ok!

Now you are Loved in spite of all the bad. You can’t judge yourself, and your friends think that are good enough to be loved and the Universe does too.

That is something that can be thought about and meditated on for the rest of your life.

Leave a comment or email me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com to find out more!!!

Don’t Believe the Narrative – It’s in Your Mind!

The Narrative is telling you that the world is going crazy, and that somehow you are too!

It’s saying that whatever everyone else is telling is the “truth.” The news, your friends and neighbors and your family are all saying things, and they influence you.

Even your own mind is telling you things.

And they aren’t positive. It’s all doom and gloom.

It disconnects you from who you are and what You want.

So don’t believe it. It’s only in your mind.

The real you is the one you need to access. It’s the one underneath all the chaos “outside.”

Understand there is no “outside.” Everything is happening to you internally. It’s your perception and your judgment that makes it appear outside.

So take some time today and go inside underneath that created, fake chaos and tap into the peace that is there.

It comes from the Creator, the Order, that is present everywhere. Feel that presence. It will relax you and make you more confident.

It’s called Love!!!!

You Are Loved. Connect with that today!

Also, the real narrative going on inside is Your Dream. It’s what is pushing and compelling to get up and do it again.

We all have a Dream, but if it’s clouded by our belief in the narrative, it is not serving our best interests.

So go deep and Find Your Real Dream.

I can help…contact me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

I Had a Dream

I was pacing in my front patio the other morning, and this just came to me. What I mean is that I get inspirations…or downloads…as I call them. I have received them for years. Finding Your Dream came this way too.

I intend to tell you about them more in the future too.

This one said, “The earth will be changing…to a new higher frequency. All those who want to be a apart of this “new earth” will have to raise their frequency as well. Those who do not wish to will go “somewhere else,” and it will be like it is here now.” I was not shown where, but it didn’t look pleasant.

I said that I wanted to stay here, and I am working to raise my vibration. Then I asked for help to do that. “It” answered, “Do the Finding Your Dream program we gave you (first time I heard we) and help others implement it as well. ”

I am doing both of those things here in the blog and on social media.

A short summary of the “program” is below.

Realizing that You Are Loved is our way of showing you who you really are, and that you are worthy.

Then it’s up to you to make that the reason to Love Yourself. As you do Your Dream will be revealed as a state of being, and you will get the “next right thing” to do.

Then you get feedback,  and do the next right thing!

It is a creative process that gives you the “I love what I do” feeling. It’s no longer work…just joy and peace…knowing that you are Finding Your Dream.

I’m doing what I am being told. I am in the process myself, and am extending a hand to you to do the same.

If this resonates with you, just respond to this post…and if you are really serious about changing you life, email me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com.