The Differences in Relationships between the East and West

I just saw video about how single motherhood occurs in the East.

It seems that most of the mothers were very young and innocent when they had their babies. They thought that having a baby instilled a sense of responsibility in the father, but a 20 year man is not ready, capable or willing to do that. They don’t have a way to support a wife and child, so they become a deadbeat dad.

In the West it’s more like the women think they can experience life without being controlled. They have more info, but still have to deal with their biological urges. The government helps them out as well.

In the East it is more of education and awareness, where in the West feminism has influenced women’s choices.

Eastern women want good men who are respectful to them. They want to be stay at home wives and moms. They want children and a family.

Western women want that too, but are not “allowed” to admit it. They have more choices, such as careers and independence, but regret taking them when it’s too late to find a man that they want.

In the East children outside of marriage is looked down upon much more, and no government help is available. They become strong independent women out of necessity, but still want a relationship, and are willing to be feminine to get it.

Western women have lost the concept of what being feminine is and are losing the interest of men.

Let’s say it again, women control access to sex and men the access to relationships.

Women allow men to sleep with them and then expect accountability when it goes wrong. I personally know of an instance that having sex one time produced a baby!!!

I will have to admit when I was young I let my emotions and need for sex overwhelm my ability to ask, “And then What?”

I am very fortunate to not have any unknown or unwanted children running around.

As I grew older my need lessened, but still controlled my circumstances, I never progressed past the teenage phase until I took a deep look at myself.

That is when I received the “Realize that I am Loved, and therefore Love Myself” inspiration.

The reason I could not control myself is that I didn’t think I was worthy, so was filled with shame and guilt. Now I consider sex and relationships in a much different way.

I think that’s why I am comparing the East and West. There are good points and bad between the two, but for men they are not wanting to have relationships the Western way.

Let’s also remember that 80% of women are going after the “top” 20% of men, so most men get nothing and women can’t find a good man…because they are competing for the same man. A man who knows that will just sleep around as he has plenty of choices. A good example of this is in college where women flocked to the sports stars, and didn’t even “see” the good students. So it was just one drunken dysfunctional mess. That has expanded culture wide in the West, and it’s breaking down Society.

I really have compassion for Eastern women because of how little education and support they have….But they need to own their choices! And mostly they do, but they are now faced with the reality of raising their children on their own. Their pragmatism precludes their need for philosophical discussions. So they just want a man to take care of them. They don’t focus on blaming men, but just want food and a home for their children…A very different attitude and reality than the West.

The solution, of course, is control your urges. It’s that way with everything. You can’t build a business by just doing what you feel. Unfortunately, the majority of people just get a job and spend everything they made in 5 days at the local mall in 2 days. There goes success!

Relationships and Life are the same. The principles work…in both areas.

So restrain your urges to achieve Your Dream through Realizing You Are Loved, and Loving Yourself!

 

Sooo Many Questions???

Yes. Questions. This might get a little dark, but it ends on a positive note, so please bare with me.

First, since we have the spark of “God” (I use that word, but substitute whatever one you want).

Since that spark is timeless, when were we born, created, etc? When we came into this world or before that? What happens when we die? Do we come back again?

If we do come back, why? Some say it’s karma. Some say we chose to do so to “learn things,” but we forget everything when we are born. Can’t quite figure out how we ever get anywhere then…luck maybe!

Maybe our inner self remembers or something.

And if we don’t come back, where do we go? Eternity is a long time…

Since this life is hard with suffering and struggle, how is karma released with more being generated all the time?  Maybe that’s why they say it takes billions of years to get anywhere.

Also that Spark is integral to us, are we good or bad? Guess it’s where you look…actions or being!!!

Actions…not so good. Being…good?

Another thing, can we “save” ourselves, or do we need someone to save us? Maybe if we accept help…and apply it…we might cut a few billion years off our journey?

I am really concerned with the vast majority of people that just exist….going to work, coming home, take care of the kids, house, and pay attention to the spouse. Then getting up the next day and doing it all over again.

Wow…no wonder it takes billions of years.

Then what about those that “make it?” Escape the monotony and have some sort of life? Maybe that proves the point. There is upward movement!!!!

But it’s less than 2%…not very good odds.

Been thinking about this for 30 years. Then I received some answers on how to be a part of that 2%.

Can’t say I’m there yet, but I was told to share them.

Hey don’t shoot the messenger!

Just giving you what I got and doing what I’m told.

Maybe you are searching too?

Hit me up. I’m on all the social media sites or reply with a comment, or at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

Do You Feel like This Sometimes?

Do your first thoughts in the morning just after waking up consist of:

This is the way my life is.

Accept it.

It sucks, but get real, it’s always been this way. My family is this way. My friends are this way.

Sorry, it’s just the way it is.

That progresses into: Well, just wait until it’s over…can’t wait.

It’s like you want someone to point the gun at you and pull the trigger…so it can be over…and you didn’t have to kill yourself.

Is that the truth? Ya…probably…

But somehow we get thru the day…lying to ourselves…wishing we were dead…but going thru the motions.

I think like 98% of us live this way, because we never even come close to living up to our potential.

What a miserable existence!!!

I know this is dark, but, really, that is the way it is for almost all of us.

Wow!!! Not so good…huh?

Maybe just realizing that will compel us to move forward just a little today.

I really don’t know how or why. I just feel it.

It’s so bad and no one has come and pulled the trigger…yet…and so…somehow…we can move forward and change just one thing…for the better.

How does extreme fatalness generate a little progress?

No idea…

Maybe you can help, which will contribute to that little progress.

Thanks in advance!!!

The Reason the New World will come and What will it Look Like?

So I just copied some text that talks about how the new world will come about and how it will look.

If you read it, the first thing that come to mind is….HOW?

How will this work? The details are not there. It’s just a bunch of general things.

The question came to me….How does it work now? I had to answer…I really don’t have any idea how things work now.

They are so screwed up I can’t understand how they are holding together. With disease, supply chain, food, construction materials, energy and extreme political divisiveness. It’s a miracle that it’s not all burning down around us right now.

So the new earth might be a little fuzzy right now, because we have no idea how things will change. It’s all open…so many possibilities…that one cannot imagine more than some general visions of what could be.

So much has to come down before the new will appear. It will be so different it’s hard to imagine.

If you take the down the medical system, what will the new one look like.

How about the energy system…Free? Sustainable? Locally generated or worldwide? What will that look like?

Food…what will completely healthy food look like? How will be grown? Will it be done by huge tractors and combines, or by many people on small farms and lots of greenhouses?

What will the new housing look like. There are plenty of examples of people building differently, but really how do we house billions of people differently. I really don’t know how we do it now, much less how it could be done. We throw a bunch of sticks together and insulate with stuff that at extremely temperatures doesn’t work at all, and then throw a bunch of energy at it to keep it livable.

No wonder it’s…everything…falling apart.

Who likes sitting in their car alone for hours a day to get somewhere…and they don’t even like being there, and then do it day after day.

Maybe a change is needed and inevitable. It just can’t hold together anymore.

What will communities look like? Will they be small, intimate and self sufficient or large and concentrated for efficiency?

How will security be instituted? By members of community patrolling or by huge private security firms paid by people who want their services? Will they be accountable? How can it be worse than it is now?

What will people be like in this new earth? Will they be as disagreeable as they are now, or will there be a little more peace between us? Seems like it, but if we don’t change, maybe not, and then it all comes tumbling down. And we start over or we die as a species.

Who knows?

But do you think we MUST Try!!!

To make a new system to better ourselves…to create…to grow!

I think it’s worth it!

Come on…let’s do it together…for our own good!!!

 

So Many Good Things are Happening!

In the circles I run in so many people are excited about the positive changes that are happening.

It might look like it’s really negative, but the sentiment is that the negative is past its peak and the positive is on the upturn….massively.

I want to put this out there so you can feed off this vibration…and help the parabolic rise!!!

Don’t take this as, “Wow, everything is going to get better. I can sit back and watch the negative collapse, and the positive create.” It’s more like I need this positive message to renew my resolve to change, to realize that I am Loved, can Love Myself and keep moving forward.

Even if the positive is evident, and you don’t do anything, you will miss out on its effects. You can just sit and watch it…watch it run right by you!

This is a free choice reality. It’s your choice to create what you want. It will be easier in the near future, but only if you are prepared.

That’s what I do, help you prepare…to survive the current situation and thrive in the next one!

New Thoughts on Current Situation

So what are your latest thoughts???

Has anything changed in your thinking?

Are you buying the narrative…from either side?

What statistics can you believe? Is this really a virus? If not, how come people are dying, and what are they dying from?

Does quinine or hydroxychloroquine really work? And is it safe?

Lots of questions here, and fake news too!

So who do you believe?

May I posit a solution?

Believe yourself!!!

But to do that, you must know yourself first. Otherwise, your mind will “make up things.” It goes round and round and usually ends up opposite of what would be good for you!

And how do you know yourself???

By Learning that You are Loved.

How about this quote from a major religious text:

Nothing can separate you from the Love of God! Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow… No power in the sky above or the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God

Pretty clear isn’t it?

Next step, you have the right and ability to Love Yourself, because You Are Loved!

Remember Love Yourself as You Love Your Neighbor? I turned it around, but the meaning is the same.

So Love Yourself first, so You can have Compassion for Others!!!

It also turns the narrative around from outward to inward-looking. That way all the junk going on outside is in the background. Besides what can you do about all the confusing and unknowable stories out there?

The only thing you can really change is You!!!

And when you change, others have to react…and they do…both positive and negative, but it makes them make a decision. Do they like you or not? Decisions are the basis for growth!

So do you have to go out there and “change the world” or “have an impact?”

That shouldn’t be your main focus.

Loving Yourself develops compassion and empathy for yourself and then others. And then they notice and change happens.

That’s how it works…always!

So let’s change the World by Loving Ourselves!!!

 

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