In a previous post, I talked about the “Why.”
Now it’s time to address the “How.”
I did talk a little about the How in that post too, but let’s go it again, with more Gusto!
Number 1: This is an ongoing learning and growing process. You are always becoming a different person! Your past is no longer relevant to who you are today
Number 2: As you grow, things come up. You could ignore them by focusing on the Present, and overwhelming them with the positive, like repeating I Love You {your name}, telling yourself that all day long, listening to this YouTube here, making a video of you saying it over and over, and send it to me!
Yes, send it to me! It makes it REAL when you involve someone else!
Number 3: When some things persist in your mind, you need a way to respond to them.
They will manifest as an accusation. “You can’t do this. Look at all the things you did.” Even things like, “I don’t know how. It’s too much. I don’t have time.”
The response is: Yes that’s true, that happened, but I’m not that person anymore. I Love Myself.
Then your mind will resort to sending you thoughts just to make you feel bad. Insane things that don’t make sense, but your response is, “Yes, I know that, but I Love Myself.”
Then wait for a response. Most likely there won’t be any. Just think if you responded that way to your friends. They wouldn’t know what to say. Think about what you would say if they said that to you!
The mind then “leaves you for a while” to go conjure up some new memories or situations to accuse you. It will say, “No you don’t,” and then flash scenes in your mind, or just “talk in your ear.”
The response is: Do you want me to hate myself? Make it either Love or Hate! If the answer is Hate, there is a big problem. It is an entity, not the real you. The real you would never actually say that.
Number 4: Know that “Being comes from Doing,” as my Shaman friend says.
The more you do it, the more you will believe it, and the more you will become it!
Number 5: Know that you want to Love Yourself! You certainly don’t want to Hate yourself!!! It’s innate. It helps us survive, keeps us from suicide, and keeps us creating and growing!
Number 6: Actions and Being are 2 Different Things! What you have done is not you. You are the Being in the Present! Separate your actions, which are only in the past, from who you are in the Present…the REAL You!
Your actions are always creating a New You all the time! That’s a great response to past accusations. “I’m a new me, Now!”
Number 7: Some of these memories and accusations will be pretty emotional, so when you are confident in Your Love for Yourself, you can take on the “Big One,” It’s called Forgiveness.
You have to be ready to admit your “wrongs,” be sorry for them, and be willing to go to who you have wronged and apologize. Then offer to make amends. It’s hard, but so freeing.
You will be surprised that most people don’t even remember the situation, or have already let it go. I wrote about that and was so surprised when they said that’s all in the past.
The other thing that could happen is that they won’t accept your apology no matter what you do, but you can’t do anything about that. Just know you did your part.
So let’s wrap this up by recapping How You Can Love Yourself.
- You are growing and becoming a new person all the time.
- Repeat “I Love You” in as many different ways and as many times as possible.
- Learn the responses to all the accusations like I Love Myself Anyway. Then wait for the response. There won’t be one, but when it comes up with another one keep saying Yes, I know, I Love Myself!
- Being comes From Doing.
- You WANT to Love Yourself! Ask the question, Do you want me to hate myself? when another thought comes.
- Who you Are and what you Do are separate.
- The Big One, Forgiveness, is most Freeing!
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Vince
