The Differences in Relationships between the East and West

I just saw video about how single motherhood occurs in the East.

It seems that most of the mothers were very young and innocent when they had their babies. They thought that having a baby instilled a sense of responsibility in the father, but a 20 year man is not ready, capable or willing to do that. They don’t have a way to support a wife and child, so they become a deadbeat dad.

In the West it’s more like the women think they can experience life without being controlled. They have more info, but still have to deal with their biological urges. The government helps them out as well.

In the East it is more of education and awareness, where in the West feminism has influenced women’s choices.

Eastern women want good men who are respectful to them. They want to be stay at home wives and moms. They want children and a family.

Western women want that too, but are not “allowed” to admit it. They have more choices, such as careers and independence, but regret taking them when it’s too late to find a man that they want.

In the East children outside of marriage is looked down upon much more, and no government help is available. They become strong independent women out of necessity, but still want a relationship, and are willing to be feminine to get it.

Western women have lost the concept of what being feminine is and are losing the interest of men.

Let’s say it again, women control access to sex and men the access to relationships.

Women allow men to sleep with them and then expect accountability when it goes wrong. I personally know of an instance that having sex one time produced a baby!!!

I will have to admit when I was young I let my emotions and need for sex overwhelm my ability to ask, “And then What?”

I am very fortunate to not have any unknown or unwanted children running around.

As I grew older my need lessened, but still controlled my circumstances, I never progressed past the teenage phase until I took a deep look at myself.

That is when I received the “Realize that I am Loved, and therefore Love Myself” inspiration.

The reason I could not control myself is that I didn’t think I was worthy, so was filled with shame and guilt. Now I consider sex and relationships in a much different way.

I think that’s why I am comparing the East and West. There are good points and bad between the two, but for men they are not wanting to have relationships the Western way.

Let’s also remember that 80% of women are going after the “top” 20% of men, so most men get nothing and women can’t find a good man…because they are competing for the same man. A man who knows that will just sleep around as he has plenty of choices. A good example of this is in college where women flocked to the sports stars, and didn’t even “see” the good students. So it was just one drunken dysfunctional mess. That has expanded culture wide in the West, and it’s breaking down Society.

I really have compassion for Eastern women because of how little education and support they have….But they need to own their choices! And mostly they do, but they are now faced with the reality of raising their children on their own. Their pragmatism precludes their need for philosophical discussions. So they just want a man to take care of them. They don’t focus on blaming men, but just want food and a home for their children…A very different attitude and reality than the West.

The solution, of course, is control your urges. It’s that way with everything. You can’t build a business by just doing what you feel. Unfortunately, the majority of people just get a job and spend everything they made in 5 days at the local mall in 2 days. There goes success!

Relationships and Life are the same. The principles work…in both areas.

So restrain your urges to achieve Your Dream through Realizing You Are Loved, and Loving Yourself!

 

Have no Idea what the Title of this Post should be!

Let’s see what I am thinking about???

I heard about someone said we need to write every day.

Ideas will flow more that way. Doesn’t mean they will be good…LOL.

Oh yeah…

The idea of “God.”

God is everything, everywhere, all at once!!!

Does that mean “he” created everything…I don’t know. I’m not Him. I’m using the masculine because I can’t use “It.” I could use the feminine, but what’s the difference. How do you characterize “everything?”

So just put up with me. Use whatever term you want. You won’t even be close…just like me.

There are no words to describe Him. All we can do is try to innerstand (I do not use under-stand, because I do not stand under anything.) His attributes.

I saw a “prayer” the other day where they talked about the AI as being outside of God. How can that be? God is Everything!!!

So quit trying to divide up the Universe into separate entities. Yes, one could say that God created the negative. Seems like it but I don’t know.

Again, I’m not Him, and I get…some kind of negative emotion…when people do that. It’s what most religions do. Some have a pretty good handle on it, like the Supreme God created this entity who created that entity and so on…which is reasonable…so long as they don’t divide up “Creation.”

The closest I can get is that there is positive and negative so one can tell the difference, and the optimal “place” (again, I have no word for it.) would be the balance…the null center. Neither left nor right, up or down, good or bad, positive or negative. Just be balanced.

I know we will never actually get there, but will be rotating around it. The goal should be to rotate closer and closer to the center…balance… as we “grow.” (Again, what’s the right word for that? It’s making me think.)

OK, a little aside…Someone said that as soon as one puts things into words, it corrupts metaphysical things. So we probably need to be using telepathy…LOL

Until then I will struggle with words. Maybe some of you can help with different words…or make up our own!!!

Wouldn’t that be cool?!!!

So, back to balance…it means that we don’t have big highs and lows. We do not get so angry, and depressed, and also so in love that we see the other thru rose colored glasses.

Some say the Universe is Love…ie the “God is Love” quote. So the closer we get to balance the more Love we experience from God and in ourselves, for ourselves and somehow for others. We just know Love more intimately!!!

Sounds good to me.

That’s why I say in my 3 Pillars to Realize that You are Loved, Learn to Love Yourself and Find Your Dream!!

The Find Your Dream is the experiencing, growing and creating part of you!

The first 2 are the basis for which you can build and find your Dream.

It all comes from seeing what God is, and quit thinking about all the extraneous, don’t make a difference things. You need to be focusing on having the best experience that you can.

Well that’s my rant for today! Wow 500 words…not bad.

Vince

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

Let Yourself be Loved

Step number one of the 3 step process to Finding Your Dream is Realize that You are Loved.

The first thing is to get to the point of non-judgment.

We have to start with a life review. Go through you life and catalog all the bad things you did and all the good things too. It seems easy to say but it’s about being honest with yourself. You don’t have to get into those places where you have deep trauma, just do an overview, but go as deep as you can.

This can take some time, as you will have a tendency to gloss over your faults or blame other people. It’s not about them, it’s about you.

You are not judging yourself, just cataloging.

Once you have the list, see if you can come up with a percentage of good to bad. Is it 50% good, or 70%, or 30%? Can you put a number on it? You will find out that you can’t do it. You really don’t know if the good outweighs the bad, because you don’t know how bad or good each item on the list is.

How do you know if you are good or bad then? There is no way to tell…or, in other words…judge yourself. You might have this feeling that you are bad, somehow, but confront it. Tell it that you don’t know…and can’t know.

So why not just forgive yourself for all the bad in you life. You might say that you can’t because of all the bad, but what about all the good? Maybe they equal out…

Maybe it doesn’t make any difference, because you don’t know. So why not just let it go…both the good and the bad…and just let things be as they are. It’s called self-forgiveness…the letting go!!! You have basis and the reason to do so now!

So you are neutral. I would call it clean! That makes you loveable.

Now who loves you? Well your family and friends do. They love for who you are. They made a judgment about you and decided that you are more good than bad and are worthy of love.

How about God, or the Universe, or whatever you want to call it? It does the same thing…deciding that you are worthy of love, and doing it ultimately, and unconditionally. IT LOVES YOU!!!

What if it didn’t? Would you still be alive, or would it just absorb you back into itself and make a new soul….one that is better? Well, it didn’t, so you must be ok!

Now you are Loved in spite of all the bad. You can’t judge yourself, and your friends think that are good enough to be loved and the Universe does too.

That is something that can be thought about and meditated on for the rest of your life.

Leave a comment or email me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com to find out more!!!