This is for all of us “Control Freaks.” >)
What does it really mean to be in control? Most people think it’s to satisfy every desire…to not have anyone “telling them what to do.”
But it comes down to “Who do you listen to.” I think we all are controlled by something….our income, our family, our upbringing, and mostly our mind. It’s the way we think that controls us mostly. So are we really in control of anything?
Yes, we are! We created the circumstances we are in. WE did. Not anyone else. Again, taking full responsibility. The good thing about this is that we can create the life we want by TAKING CONTROL OF OUR MIND. You know that little voice (yeah, right, little) that keeps talking to us all the time. That’s the one we control freaks need to master, and that could occupy us for quite a while.
So instead of trying to control our outer environment, how about controlling the inner one? Stop the chatter, stop going over and over the past, and stop the fantasy of the future.
Start by admitting that you/I have problems that we can’t solve, so we need to be completely honest about them. State them…truthfully, and say I can’t control my guilt, my shame, my anger, and the issues those things bring up….like drinking too much, waiting for the weekend, because we hate our job, or our spouse who is always telling us to do stuff, or exposing our faults. Admit them, and then they will respect you for it….and ask for help from them, from God of the Universe which resides in us.
Once we start being honest, we can begin to deal with the issue as it manifests. As we let each one go….forgive ourselves, everyone involved, and GOD…we can heal. It’s like peeling an onion…never a pleasant job….and it’s layer by layer. The more layers that come off, the more we SEE ourselves, and our power returns. That’s being the best control freak there is!!