Loving Yourself | How to Find Your Dream

What is a Relationship?

Don’t know what to say, because I have so much to say…LOL!

I watch a lot of content on relationships even though we are the only ones in our reality, We still deal with all the constructs we have made called other people, so how do we do that?

First, they are what we think they are. They are our reflections. So, since it is us, we have to learn to be compassionate towards them. It’s like Loving Ourselves. Part of it is forgiving ourselves and releasing the trauma. That’s why we created them!

It’s the details that matter. You have to know what to say to someone when conflict arises. If you react badly, you will reap the effects of resentment, shame guilt, and mostly, lack of peace!

If you keep in mind that those “other people” are just you, it changes everything in your life.

I said it before, you become unoffendable and non-offending. You still have to stand up for yourself, like not accepting non-accountability, by just not associating with that kind of people.

You can create people, and friends that are, so your life becomes what you want it to be. It takes some searching and allowing for that to happen, but they always show up.

If you are accountable, which is a growing process, others of the same kind can come to you, so if you aren’t attracting them, start with yourself!

That’s where Peace, being Over the Line, and listening to they becomes the most important thing in your Life.

It’s also called Finding Your Dream!

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The Differences in Relationships between the East and West

I just saw video about how single motherhood occurs in the East.

It seems that most of the mothers were very young and innocent when they had their babies. They thought that having a baby instilled a sense of responsibility in the father, but a 20 year man is not ready, capable or willing to do that. They don’t have a way to support a wife and child, so they become a deadbeat dad.

In the West it’s more like the women think they can experience life without being controlled. They have more info, but still have to deal with their biological urges. The government helps them out as well.

In the East it is more of education and awareness, where in the West feminism has influenced women’s choices.

Eastern women want good men who are respectful to them. They want to be stay at home wives and moms. They want children and a family.

Western women want that too, but are not “allowed” to admit it. They have more choices, such as careers and independence, but regret taking them when it’s too late to find a man that they want.

In the East children outside of marriage is looked down upon much more, and no government help is available. They become strong independent women out of necessity, but still want a relationship, and are willing to be feminine to get it.

Western women have lost the concept of what being feminine is and are losing the interest of men.

Let’s say it again, women control access to sex and men the access to relationships.

Women allow men to sleep with them and then expect accountability when it goes wrong. I personally know of an instance that having sex one time produced a baby!!!

I will have to admit when I was young I let my emotions and need for sex overwhelm my ability to ask, “And then What?”

I am very fortunate to not have any unknown or unwanted children running around.

As I grew older my need lessened, but still controlled my circumstances, I never progressed past the teenage phase until I took a deep look at myself.

That is when I received the “Realize that I am Loved, and therefore Love Myself” inspiration.

The reason I could not control myself is that I didn’t think I was worthy, so was filled with shame and guilt. Now I consider sex and relationships in a much different way.

I think that’s why I am comparing the East and West. There are good points and bad between the two, but for men they are not wanting to have relationships the Western way.

Let’s also remember that 80% of women are going after the “top” 20% of men, so most men get nothing and women can’t find a good man…because they are competing for the same man. A man who knows that will just sleep around as he has plenty of choices. A good example of this is in college where women flocked to the sports stars, and didn’t even “see” the good students. So it was just one drunken dysfunctional mess. That has expanded culture wide in the West, and it’s breaking down Society.

I really have compassion for Eastern women because of how little education and support they have….But they need to own their choices! And mostly they do, but they are now faced with the reality of raising their children on their own. Their pragmatism precludes their need for philosophical discussions. So they just want a man to take care of them. They don’t focus on blaming men, but just want food and a home for their children…A very different attitude and reality than the West.

The solution, of course, is control your urges. It’s that way with everything. You can’t build a business by just doing what you feel. Unfortunately, the majority of people just get a job and spend everything they made in 5 days at the local mall in 2 days. There goes success!

Relationships and Life are the same. The principles work…in both areas.

So restrain your urges to achieve Your Dream through Realizing You Are Loved, and Loving Yourself!

A New Chapter in My Life!

Yes I am entering a new chapter in my Life!

I am Single…again!

It is so freeing! Maybe I am not meant to be in a relationship…or maybe I need to learn how to be in one. ;>)

Either way I have learned so much about myself and my relationships that I am a different person. I used get sullen and not talk when things went wrong. The internal dialogue was atrocious. I couldn’t communicate when I was not Loving Myself.

It got to the point where it was like that the majority of the time. That is why I haven’t been posting recently.

So now I am “coming out” and saying I feel better…getting closer to the Feeling that I am Loved, and Loving Myself more. It’s like taking my own advice.

We all get good thoughts sometimes, and we want to tell others when what we should be doing is applying them to our lives for awhile (which is what I have been doing.) Those thoughts are meant for us to manifest change, heal trauma and evolve. As we grow others will notice, and gather around us to “see us burn!” (evidenced by compassion, enthusiasm, and charisma.)

I have the freedom now to let my thoughts and feelings flow…so that will result in more intuition, and more posts.

Also other things have been happening, like having more things “line up,” connections with like-minded people, and abundance.

It will result in me coming back to the US for awhile and then who knows. Right now the possibilities seem endless, which means it takes a real focus to “see” which direction to go.

So focusing on what I want, and not resisting it is the current agenda. It’s more difficult than one thinks. First sorting out all the different scenarios, then narrowing it down and creating a complete blueprint for one’s life is a full time endeavor.

Getting rid of the distractions, recognizing trauma, and dealing with it always get in the way. Seems like what you want has a whole bunch of barriers.

Why is that? You want it…it’s the best you can imagine…but you can’t really “see” it, or keep it in your mind. There is so much distortion and interference.

“It’s the Matrix…man.” Well, yeah, what kind of world would it be if we all could be “Finding Our Dream!” How about that matrix!!!!

There’s always going to be a construct, because we can’t even imagine “nothingness…” and who want to be in that anyway.

So we should create the one we want!

BUT…remember, it is all about you, but there is an Organization, Source for Everything.

I was listening to an atheist, and how he talked about some religious guy contradicting himself. Well, I thought about how he himself was also contradicting himself in the most ultimate way. He was talking about “God,” which he didn’t believe in, which is ok, but then he said there cannot be a god.

It’s like saying there cannot be something that we already conceived of…like love or faith or satisfaction. That fact there is a concept called “God” means there is One.

Why, because of the concept, which is: That which is Everything, Everywhere, all at once!

Try not believing in that!!! Or saying it doesn’t exist!!!

So, just because we all think we create our reality, doesn’t mean that we can do as we please. That freedom can entice us to be so focused on us that we don’t realize the affect it has on others.

We need that Feedback! Otherwise we can justify anything.

So your purpose, your Dream, should be for YOUR Highest Good…which Truly is for Everyone’s good!!!

We can’t really know what that is, but Feedback will tell us. That’s how we interact with our environment.

So Finding Our Dream is the realization of Love…for ourselves, which is compassion for others!!!

Thanks for “listening!”

Vince

vsalzer@vincsealzer.com

So Many Good Things are Happening!

In the circles I run in so many people are excited about the positive changes that are happening.

It might look like it’s really negative, but the sentiment is that the negative is past its peak and the positive is on the upturn….massively.

I want to put this out there so you can feed off this vibration…and help the parabolic rise!!!

Don’t take this as, “Wow, everything is going to get better. I can sit back and watch the negative collapse, and the positive create.” It’s more like I need this positive message to renew my resolve to change, to realize that I am Loved, can Love Myself and keep moving forward.

Even if the positive is evident, and you don’t do anything, you will miss out on its effects. You can just sit and watch it…watch it run right by you!

This is a free choice reality. It’s your choice to create what you want. It will be easier in the near future, but only if you are prepared.

That’s what I do, help you prepare…to survive the current situation and thrive in the next one!

Nobody is Coming to Save You!

I have to say it…”Nobody is coming to SAVE You!!!

Let’s talk about Christianity first. It’s says that when the “church” is “white as snow” then will Christ return. The church is You…all of us. We have to become worthy of His return.

Other people who talk about the “ET’s” coming say that we need to “raise our vibration” first to allow them to appear.

They will not interfere with our Free Will!

Other religions and traditions say the same thing. It might be cloaked in terms of a “great savior,” but always has a qualifying condition…When We Are Ready!

So get ready…learn how to think…and save Yourself. Don’t worry about anyone else. You can’t help them if you are in trouble.

It says Love your neighbor as yourself. So if you don’t love yourself, how can you love them???

The negative forces are being revealed right now to let you see them as they are.

Reject them…Resist them…and become that person that rises about the fake, corrupt, current world, and be a part of the New World that is surely coming!

Allowance, Consent and Accountability

The 3 necessary things to create a better world.

Allowance…you/we need to allow ourselves to speak what we think, and, therefore, afford that same privilege to everyone else…even if we don’t like it.

When everyone feels free to express themselves, society can move forward.

When you feel free to speak, you can Find Your Dream!

Consent…you consent to what happens to you. Only you…not others, not society not God!

You have free will. That means you have given consent…even if it’s not “conscious.” (It is really because it’s the way you think…what you say to yourself all day long.)

The constant chatter in your mind gives consent to all kinds of “good and bad” situations in your life.

On the good side, when people or government try to get you to do things, you have the right…and responsibility to say, “I do not give consent.”

You might still have to do certain things…like pay taxes…but your mindset is what counts.

When you know you have the power of your consent, it changes how you look at life.

It will even dictate where and how you live…like as far away from the things you do not consent to and closer to people that think like you do, and places that allow you the freedom you crave!

All this is dependant on your Accountability. You must allow other people that same freedom you want.

That means you are free only in as much as you don’t infringe upon their freedom to do what they want or to think the way they do.

That requires extreme accountability. You must be very cognizant of your own actions.

Are your biased opinions and condemnation of other points of view and lifestyles infringing on their freedom?

Remember, they will also do the same to you!!!

Striving for a just world does not include judging others.

It only happens when everyone does their best.

That’s why it’s so important to Learn:

That You are Loved,

Therefore You can Love Yourself!!!

When you do that, we are all closer to…

Finding Our Dream!!!

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

This ISN’T Going to End Well!

When one looks at today’s situation, there is no way it’s going to End Well.

We can’t keep going being in lockdown, and opening back up will never go back to the way it was…”Normal!”

So it looks like it will have to be a “New Normal!”

What that will look like is anybody’s guess.

So what can one do?

You can’t control the future, but you can control yourself!

That means that you must become your best self…to Survive!

Yes to survive at the most basic level…food, shelter, and power.

None of these are guaranteed anymore.

To do that it starts with the 3 principles I always talk about:

To realize that You Are LOVED!

Therefore You can Love Yourself, and

Find Your Dream!

This is the way to survive and even Thrive in the coming Change!

Loving Yourself will facilitate you knowing the truth from the lies.

There is so much conflicting information now, that it’s very hard to do that.

Also, because of the chaos, fear is also on the rise, and You can be spared all of its negative effects.

So become the person you can be thru Loving Yourself, escape the falseness and fear, and…

Thrive!!!

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Govern Yourself

Govern Yourself…You already do!

Yes, you drive on the correct side of the road…whether right or left.

Hmmm… says something about politics too…right or left…govern yourself.

In other words, make sure you are “right” before you correct the other side…

and do it with compassion. Not everyone thinks like you do.

Now onto other things.

Tony Robbins is asking what your life is going to like when this “situation” is over. How are you going to act…to survive…in this “new world?”

My answer is…you must make yourself new, because the world will go back to the way it was.

Too much has happened.

Too many people have realized the way it was…is not going to last.

So it’s going towards total totalitarianism…or self determination and feedom.

Each of us…you included…has to choose, and therefore unconsciously contribute to that “future.” (I don’t believe in a “future.” Everything is now. You can read about in a previous blog post Here.)

If you want the self determination…you will have to learn how to govern yourself. To determine your life, you need to create it. That means knowing what you want, setting a plan to get it, and being brutally honest on what you are doing to implement it. No excuses.

Self determination is a form a freedom that is not necesarily “free” as you normally see it. It means delaying self gratification, and much self evaluation…which does not seem like freedom at all.

So, Govern Yourself is work! Just like everthing else.

If you don’t go to work, go lose you house, probably your family, and everythings else you value.

But you don’t like to go to work!!!

Don’t even tell you like work…can see thru that excuse a mile away.

I don’t like writing this blog either….it’s work!!!

But I do it because it’s necessary.

What would happen if everyone really governed themselves…like drove on the correct side of road in everything they did.

No more lies, cheating, stealing…excuses.

Can you imagine if that was only true 90% of the time.

Wow!!!

What if you were that way? Don’t blame the world unless you ARE!!!

I’m not asking for perfectness…just 90%.

Another reason to Govern Yourself is to look at what government has given us.

The current situation is good example…and certainly isn’t the answer…so look for a new one.

What if you drive on a road you pay for it…you consume online content you pay for it. If it cost you a small amount each time, you would be much more selective what you looked at. Also you voted with your opinion. If you didn’t like it, you don’t view it anymore. And the stuff you like you view more of.

Apply this everywhere…so if the road is bad you drive on a different one…which means someone (the private owners) would have to fix it…or lose money. It would decrease in value until someone would buy it and fix it, because they could make money at it.

Other ways that are being used is that if you view, share and contribute, you actually GET paid.

All agreements, or contracts could be put on the blockchain…so there is a permanent record… and secured by a bond. The party that is paying is putting a small amount as security, and the paid party is guaranteeing quality work…and is also bonded by a company…which is based on previous results.

There are platforms that are trying to do this right now.

In other words, all financial transactions are permanent and immediate…no more fraud and movement of money is freely done.

Can you see how this would work?

People say that with “no government” it would be chaos.

It isn’t chaos now???!!!

Another concept is “consent.”

Do I consent to my taxes to be used in ways I do not agree with.

Is it right to take money from another under the threat of bodily harm….no matter who does it…a person or a government?

Is not government like the mafia…just with more power. With the mafia I get something back…like protection…or something. The streets “protected” by them are safer than government controlled ones, because there is always someone there that wants to take over…and will if he can gain popularity.

Actually sounds like a better way to me, although the same thing happens to those who rebel…

Consent is the innate right to chose…to create…to live…to Find Your Dream!!!

That’s enough for now. I might add more later!

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Thoughts on Relationships…

First of all, is to understand the primal urges of our instinctive brain.

Women look for security and safety. They are hypergamous (sp?), which means they are always looking for the better man…and they will monkey branch…they will latch on to that superior man while still with the other one. It’s a basic survival instinct.

Men want to copulate with as many women as possible…to ensure the survival of the species. They also want to conquer and move on.

It’s no wonder there’s a 60+ divorce rate.

So you have to realize that this is happening and know how to combat it if you want to sustain a committed relationship. You will always have the urge to stray, but the question to ask is, after the betrayal (that’s what it is) WHAT THEN? What will you do? Will you hide it and deal with the guilt? Will you be honest and risk losing the relationship? None of those options are positive. That’s what you are left with.

There is a fog that comes over you when you look outside your relationship. You justify your coldness and lack of intimacy because you are not getting what you want out of the relationship. Then it comes to a head eventually and the fog lifts and you realize that you want what you originally had…sometimes no matter how bad it was.

So to stay together you have to deal with these basic things. You can do it internally or together. Just be honest with yourself. Are you looking at other women/men? Always ask yourself…

What will I do then?

What are the consequences?

Even if you are not looking at another person, the same question can be asked. If this doesn’t work…WHAT THEN?

What will be the fallout? Who will get hurt? It will not only be you of course, but probably a lot of other people.

Another thing is that you can’t hide it. Your partner knows your vibe. If you are not feeling it they know.

And if you are looking for an “out,” no matter what kind, it gives you an excuse for not talking about your feelings and resolving issues.

Trust is intrinsic to any relationship and very valuable. You might only truly trust only 2 or 3 people in your WHOLE LIFE!!!

Once it’s destroyed, it can never be restored. A whole new relationship has to be developed…and you will have to become a new person to do it!!!

They say divorce is worse than death.

What I can’t understand then, is why there is so much of it…divorce, not death, lol.

So those are the negative reasons why we act the way we do in relationships…and the negative way to combat those instincts.

But that really doesn’t create a good relationship.

Commitment, transparency, and accountability are crucial to your relationships and your life. You will never Love Yourself if you don’t absolutely incorporate these into your life.

It’s “Hard”…

It seems hard to be honest with yourself and your partner…and let them be honest with you. What they say sometimes will not be what you want to hear, but it’s necessary. They know things about you that you don’t, so take it to heart…and change as a result.

It’s also “hard” to become accountable….do what you say…and admit when you’re not.

It’s difficult to trust someone enough to tell them what you are really feeling…maybe telling them things you never told anyone else.

It’s hard but no comparison to the destruction of your very soul.

How about being honest enough to apologize when you didn’t Love Yourself and took it out on them.

You blamed them for you not being the person you want to be.

It’s not them…it’s you. Doesn’t matter what they did. You could have acted differently!!!

They are not psychopathic. They are just reacting to what they thought you did to them, out of their own self-hate.

Yeah, that’s right, it’s either self-love or self-hate. There is no in-between.

Can you imagine going thru life not Loving Yourself?

So imagine the Opposite.

That results in compassion…for them and you.

And controls your reactions.

If you get in a fight, think about what you did…not what they did.

You can only change yourself?

That is Loving Yourself!!!

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Start Thinking for Yourself!

Are you frustrated with how things are playing out in the world today?

On one side there is the view of just accept everything.

On the other, there are accusations of fraud and corruption.

What do you think?

I am sure you know that there is rampant fraud and corruption. Everyone does…

Some just choose to ignore it, so their worldview can be validated.

It is happening on both sides.

This is what happens when you want to see what you want to see…and don’t want to deal with “reality.”

It is also a result of You not Loving Yourself. You then have to accept what other people tell you since you think you are not worthy to find out what you really think.

You are also unworthy of Love from others, so you have to prove yourself to them and take their opinion as your own.

That means you follow the crowd…never thinking for yourself…and perpetuate “the matrix.”

In “the movies” reality is changed when someone challenges the status quo. It takes effort and is dangerous, but they eventually “win.”

And the world changes!!!

What’s the lesson?

Nothing changes unless you do!!!

You don’t have to win a war. You just have to quit accepting “the narrative” and start to think for yourself and go your own way.

Like I said in the previous post…

Govern Yourself!!!

So You don’t become a SLAVE!!!

Quit censoring yourself…just start to think differently…it spreads…

Just make sure you are Loving Yourself in the process, so you don’t end up in the negative.

Also, I do private one on one coaching. If you want to Learn that

You are Loved,

therefore You can Love Yourself and

Find Your Dream,

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