The Differences in Relationships between the East and West

I just saw video about how single motherhood occurs in the East.

It seems that most of the mothers were very young and innocent when they had their babies. They thought that having a baby instilled a sense of responsibility in the father, but a 20 year man is not ready, capable or willing to do that. They don’t have a way to support a wife and child, so they become a deadbeat dad.

In the West it’s more like the women think they can experience life without being controlled. They have more info, but still have to deal with their biological urges. The government helps them out as well.

In the East it is more of education and awareness, where in the West feminism has influenced women’s choices.

Eastern women want good men who are respectful to them. They want to be stay at home wives and moms. They want children and a family.

Western women want that too, but are not “allowed” to admit it. They have more choices, such as careers and independence, but regret taking them when it’s too late to find a man that they want.

In the East children outside of marriage is looked down upon much more, and no government help is available. They become strong independent women out of necessity, but still want a relationship, and are willing to be feminine to get it.

Western women have lost the concept of what being feminine is and are losing the interest of men.

Let’s say it again, women control access to sex and men the access to relationships.

Women allow men to sleep with them and then expect accountability when it goes wrong. I personally know of an instance that having sex one time produced a baby!!!

I will have to admit when I was young I let my emotions and need for sex overwhelm my ability to ask, “And then What?”

I am very fortunate to not have any unknown or unwanted children running around.

As I grew older my need lessened, but still controlled my circumstances, I never progressed past the teenage phase until I took a deep look at myself.

That is when I received the “Realize that I am Loved, and therefore Love Myself” inspiration.

The reason I could not control myself is that I didn’t think I was worthy, so was filled with shame and guilt. Now I consider sex and relationships in a much different way.

I think that’s why I am comparing the East and West. There are good points and bad between the two, but for men they are not wanting to have relationships the Western way.

Let’s also remember that 80% of women are going after the “top” 20% of men, so most men get nothing and women can’t find a good man…because they are competing for the same man. A man who knows that will just sleep around as he has plenty of choices. A good example of this is in college where women flocked to the sports stars, and didn’t even “see” the good students. So it was just one drunken dysfunctional mess. That has expanded culture wide in the West, and it’s breaking down Society.

I really have compassion for Eastern women because of how little education and support they have….But they need to own their choices! And mostly they do, but they are now faced with the reality of raising their children on their own. Their pragmatism precludes their need for philosophical discussions. So they just want a man to take care of them. They don’t focus on blaming men, but just want food and a home for their children…A very different attitude and reality than the West.

The solution, of course, is control your urges. It’s that way with everything. You can’t build a business by just doing what you feel. Unfortunately, the majority of people just get a job and spend everything they made in 5 days at the local mall in 2 days. There goes success!

Relationships and Life are the same. The principles work…in both areas.

So restrain your urges to achieve Your Dream through Realizing You Are Loved, and Loving Yourself!

 

Review of My Life…2011

2011

The blog was called “God Things” back then, so I wrote a lot about God from a Christian perspective.

The first post was about being recompensed. That all evil must be paid for…and we all know it because we beat ourselves up for our own evil. We create our own hell, thru our own guilt and shame. Then there is God who saves us from it, which is the most important thing.

Side note: the concept of an ultimate evil or hell is hard to reconcile with the Christian idea of “God.” God is all-knowing, everywhere, everything, and all-powerful. So where is there a place for “no God,” or hell, an interesting puzzle? The idea that God is Ultimate is, by definition, the only Ultimate there is…there can’t be 2 of them…heaven and hell. Otherwise, there are 2 Ultimates, and that’s a problem. Anyway, we will get into that later. See, I graduated.

Then I wrote about trying to educate a “fool,” who doesn’t listen. I wonder how many times I haven’t listened…and that makes me a fool! How about you? Let’s get real here!

Next, I wrote about a missionary having a crisis of faith in the face of the devastation in Haiti. He had a frank conversation with God, and how he needed to keep his faith. I then questioned how our faith is. Do we blame Him when times are bad…or run to Him to save us… and, otherwise, ignore Him. Or do we realize that Faith is rewarded, and, really, there is no other one to turn to… I like that!

Then I talked about how St Paul called the Galatians poor, silly, thoughtless, unreflecting, and senseless. Whoa, pretty heavy… Am I, are you the same… with our 1 hour of church, 5 minutes of devotions, and then…what. I said God has many deeper things for us…actual miracles… to do. I like that too.

Next one was about becoming free of our addiction and constant temptations…that we give in to… and realizing that we are Sons and Daughters of the Most High…and the way to Freedom is having an intimate relationship with Him.

Then I wrote about not having a past…as relating to our sins. God doesn’t remember them, so why should we? We should be the person with “no past.”

The next one was a God Thing. He has a purpose for us. I wondered what that might be for me. I then said that all that needs to happen is to “rest in Him,” and that doesn’t seem like a lot of work. I then prayed the prayer of Peace. I feel better!!

Next was how do we get “There?” What, or where is “there” anyway. We all have an idea. Living a good life might be a good goal…but who has ever done that? Then there is the thing about being on your path. Well, that doesn’t work for psychopaths very well. We are too apt to become deceived…with the best of intentions. Then I said God has the right path and following Him will get us there. Brings up a lot of things that we can get into. Such as: how do we know the right path…and if we are getting it from God…and does any creed of religion know the right path…for us? We’ll talk about that.

Next, was Where is our Place? Where do we Fit In? Doesn’t it say that we are all part of One Body and we all “fit?” So we are part of The Plan, so we can have confidence and be Free, knowing the Creator is perfect and has a perfect place for us. That’s comforting, and also compelling and exciting!! So we all should get to know the Creator…intimately…overcoming the “I’m such a worm” mentality.

The Gospel of Mark…in the Bible…chronicles many miracles. They have caused much controversy, but they are there. The glaring absence of them in the “Church” is disturbing. Wonder what it would take to get a taste of that again. Again, intimacy and receiving love would make a very great impact.

The Review of My Life….You Should Try It!

I got the inspiration to go over the past few years of my life and see how I have changed. So I went to my blog at VinceSalzer.com and started reviewing the posts.

Then I got the idea to write about them…to “feel” how I felt at the time.

I began to write and was guided to divide it up into sections, by date, to show the progression (I call it “graduating.”) of my life. It is a big writing project, so it will be published in parts. I think it can resonate with you…and if it does, let me know.

First, back then I was a pretty staunch Christian…not so much now….staunch that is. I have been “graduating” from how I believe all my life. My beliefs helped me tremendously…got me thru a devastating divorce…but then I needed more…as I saw that a lot of the teachings I was hearing weren’t making a difference in my life and many of the lives that I saw. So I kept searching… But back to how I thought 5 years ago. It wasn’t all bad.

So let’s dig in…

Maybe Not So Foolish Comments!

4/2/2016

Regarding my missives of yesterday, they were an overview of what I have been thinking about lately. Maybe today’s thoughts might be a little less foolish, as I will try to explain and elucidate the ones from yesterday.

I will start from the end of yesterday’s thoughts, and go to the beginning to get a perspective of how I am thinking, and how it can benefit you in Finding Your Dream.

The concept of connectivity is crucial to Finding Your Dream. How can you ever be in touch with yourself, if you don’t realize how you fit in? If you don’t, going to work, or running a business is all you can even conceptualize. You might be saying that you are Finding Your Dream in your present situation, you might be “happy” there, but the world is always creating, and you will soon have an inkling that there is something more. Sooner or later, you begin to realize that you are stuck in the rat race, knowing something is wrong, but have no idea what it is, or how to escape. You will begin to know your potential isn’t even remotely fulfilled. So finding that deep inner spiritual connection…going within.. is the first step. You must get to the point where you are comfortable with yourself and your circumstances…so you know where you are… you can begin to see that you could even have a Dream. That unfulfilled potential is your Dream, and accessing it is the goal and the process of Finding Your Dream.

So what distracts you from knowing who we are and where we fit in? Thinking about all the social problems in the world, and how “someone” should fix them, is a big one. That’s why I talked about the role of government in our lives. If we can think about ways we can control ourselves… i.e. personal responsibility…less control is needed from the “outside.” Learning that anything outside ourselves is only a perception, and it keeps you from concentrating on what is important to you…YOUR Dream.

Another big distraction is the current political climate. Being all caught up in the Bernie or Trump issue is really intoxicating. Someone is going to do something!!!…and I am going to support them…again, abdicating self-responsibility, which keeps you from focusing on what makes you happy and fulfilled. You might say that your support of one candidate is fulfilling and necessary..it might be…but how much have you thought of yourself while you are fighting for your candidate? It’s your mind’s way of keeping you safe and secure, which is its job.

So how does talking about the political arena relate to Your Dream? Well, if you spend an inordinate amount of time participating in the irrelevant…in my view…discussions and distortions, you are taken away from focusing on yourself…what you want…which is like I said, a peaceful life. So if we focus on that…the ideas behind all the rhetoric…dreams can come forth. Realizing that we are in this together gives you a perspective on how you relate and connect to everyone else, and, therefore, how you can contribute to the whole…humanity.

So how do you go about finding how you are connected? I have been studying some courses, like A Course in Miracles. It teaches you that the things you see and thoughts you think are meaningless, and you give them all attention that they deserve. Once that barrier is broken, real “reality” begins to show itself for what it is….a construct…that we construct…so now our Dream begins to become possible.

Another unique and powerful course is Crack Your Egg. In it you learn that your reality is your Egg and you need to ]Crack it to see your potential…to Find Your Dream. Your Egg is deeply planted; it pervades your reality and distorts your perception. It is a complete course on getting to your core beliefs, and changing them so actually having your Dream becomes not only possible but inevitable!! You can access the free introductory book here:  https://se123.isrefer.com/go/heart/salzer/ and, after that, the introduction series, here: https://se123.isrefer.com/go/aseries/salzer/  They are quite comprehensive and will give a good introduction into what you will experience in the course. It completely changed my perception, and my reality, once I realized the Egg I was in. I highly recommend it.

From these courses, and others that I will discuss in future missives, and my research and experience, you can realize that Finding Your Dream is in your grasp!

To Your Best

Vince

For questions, and comments, reply to this blog, on Facebook, email at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com, or call me at 701-850-0560… and let’s talk!!

“Foolish” Ramblings

4/1/2016

On this April Fool’s Day, I will share some “foolish” thoughts. In other words, just some of the ramblings that have been going through my mind lately, are influenced by what I have been reading and seeing on the Web.

First, I have seen lots of vitriolic comments in the political arena, mostly due to the large differences in the perception of what each candidate is saying….namely Trump and Bernie, which seem to be on opposite ends of the spectrum. It amazes me how emotional people can get over what they think the other side is saying…mostly taken from the media. Bernie supporters never listen to what Trump is “saying,” and vice versa. Posts are made taking comments out of context and spinning each side’s viewpoint. They don’t get to the meaning of what is being said….the principles that the candidate stands for. I think we can all agree that we want “America Great Again” and that the Fat Cat Bankers and Wall Streeters are making all the money. It would seem a combination of the two views would be the best for the country and the world. And, since we are all in this together, it would be better if we cooperate. Right?

Second, I have been posting some about the role of government on FB. They are ideas to think about. Do we need the government to regulate “everything,” or should we be able to control ourselves? It calls for personal responsibility, which is what we think we all have. We get up, go to work, take care of our families, and generally want to live peaceful lives. I wonder if that would work in the political arena. Sure, there are disputes, but they could be taken care of on a case-by-case basis, but do we need anything else….other than roads, bridges, and other infrastructure….oh yea…a military…to defend ourselves…meaning if a country invades us. Other than that, wouldn’t we be much better off just letting ourselves enjoy our lives? It’s something to think about….

This all stems from my worldview, which is metaphysical. I have been studying world cultures and the similarities in their worldviews. They all seem to say we come from One Source, although, what happens after that is diverse. But the main idea is that we come from the same “Something,” and that is what we should be focusing on. The other differences are what is making the “mess” we are living in.

So where does our Dream come in? Well, maybe when we begin to think about how we are all connected through that Source, we will begin to connect to that Source…where our Dream originally came from. It would make sense that we could then manifest that Dream!

For questions and comments, reply to this blog, on Facebook, email at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com, or call me at 701-850-0560… and let’s talk!!

Decide What You Want, Set Your Goals and YOU WILL SUCCEED!

In the latest email from a personal development site
they discuss “Decide what you want, Set your goals and YOU WILL SUCCEED?”
Number One is to Define the Purpose of Your Life. Now that might seem like an impossible task. You might ask yourself, “How can I know my Purpose?” How about we start with…”To be the Best Person I can be.” Or “To be the Happiest Person I can be.” Aren’t we all here to be happy and fulfill our destiny? Some might say, “Do we have a specific destiny?” Of course, to be Happy!!!!
So what makes you happy? There’s your Purpose! Simple isn’t it??
Now you might say skiing or surfing makes you happy. That could be, but for how long. Skiing every day can get pretty boring after a while. So you must look deeper. What gives you that deep feeling of happiness? Could be great relationships.  Or solving a problem that could help you and the world.
Number Two is to Be Clear About What You Want. So do some soul searching on the way to work, to get exactly what you want….money, success, spirituality…doesn’t matter, just be clear about it.
Number Three is Wire It Into Your Brain. In other words, think about it all the time. On the way to and from work, on your breaks, while you are watching TV while playing with your kids, or talking to your wife (Yes, you can do both at the same time!)
Number Four is Get Going and Make It Real! What’s the first thing that comes to mind that would make you happy? Do it!!!! Why…cuz you will be Happy! That is 1 on a 1 to 10 scale, which means you are not at 0! You are on your way!!
To find out more on How To Be Happy, and Find Your Dreams, respond to this blog or PM me on my FB page.
It’s worth a Free Consult!!

New Revelation Today!!

I was just thinking about a problem I was having with someone. They were stuck, basically just reading and posting on Facebook and WhatsApp all day long. No, they didn’t have a job or a business, they just were on their phone, every spare minute they had. They were failing in life!!!

I thought how can they be happy?

Then my inner voice, said how can I be happy failing at what I am doing? (I always start by thinking about someone else’s fault, and the voice begins to ask me the same question.) Well, I am not happy failing. Then the voice said, “You will only be truly happy when you are happy when you are failing!!!! (Lots of when’s, I know, but don’t know how else to say it. My inner voice does not tell me how to write it, it just tells me.)

So, I need to be happy failing, because that is what I am doing right now, specifically, I have been learning lots of things, and failing!!! My voice said I needed to be happy losing to start winning. WOW!!!

Why??? It said I can only learn from my loss, by being happy I lost. Weird! If I am not happy about them, I block the information that is needed to gain the insight to trade positively.

I think I need to change my thinking, which has been a limiting belief.

Now how about you? Are you happy, or are you angry about the things in your life that aren’t working? How about being happy that they aren’t working, and seeing what you begin to learn?

There is a concept about being in the present, the NOW. You know, that’s where God is. And, that’s where you are Right Now, and you are failing. That’s a fact, right? So why is failing such a bad thing? That’s where God is. So if God is in your failing, maybe it’s not failing. Maybe it’s succeeding unless you believe God is against you, but how can that be? God is everything, in everything, everywhere, all the time. And if he wanted you to fail, all His creation would fall apart. Everything must progress, to part of creation. So is there failure…not really… can’t be!!!

Oh, you can have lots of arguments against what I just said, but what good would it do you? You can think I am failing and God is against me, or you can think that all the failures are there, so I can learn how to succeed!!

You pick which way you want to view things!!!

But I am going to be happy failing, and see what happens. There’s another thing when I get an inspiration, I usually implement it. It’s called taking Action, and the first Action is changing one’s mind.

Well, we’ll see what happens. Keep you updated. 

Another “Thing for You.”

From

Vince Salzer

For a free coaching session, on how to be happy failing, and other things to succeed, email me at Vsalzer@vincesalzer.com.

Another Thing for You…

My FaceBook page name is Finding Your Dream. You can see it at Finding Your Dream.
I wrote this on that page…
What can I say about Finding Your Dream…
Well, if you are like most people, you would like to be one of those Rich Online Guys…you know…they click a few times…or send you lots of emails…which probably bother you… and, POOF…they are RICH…
Sounds like Hype doesn’t it?
Well…guess what…you are getting “Hyped” every day through all the advertising on TV, and in all the stores you shop in.
Do you believe what they say in the TV commercials, or on the packages or signs in the grocery store…Probably not…I don’t…
But…they work…it’s been proven over and over…how…we all buy the things that are the most Hyped!!
Now a better word could be “Promoted”…maybe aggressively…but still, it works. It’s called compelling content, and it gets Results!
In other words, You Buy It!! And Rich Guys…the Guys who know how to do it…make money from that “Promotion.” And yes they Are RICH!!
So, how does that relate to you?? Want to learn how they do it?
Ethically and Honestly, of course.
So do I!! I have seen enough to know that real Money is being made…both online and off. It’s much easier and simpler to do it online.
If this resonates with you…I have found a way and am willing to train you. If you do DO it…you can be Rich like them!
It’s much better than the job or business you have now…boy how I detested mine….long hours…limited pay…
You can do it!
Contact me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com to Find Out How…
and…let’s GET STARTED!!
To OUR SUCCESS
Vince
PS… See the picture below…Could be in YOUR FUTURE!!
Beach Background 6

On Christianity…

Not sure what to write in this entry. Have been learning lots about just writing anyway, and things will come. It’s been slamming doors and moving things around. So maybe I should listen….

First of all….who are we? We are an everlasting spirit that never dies. That brings up some things about Christianity that I have questions about. If we are a spirit, but we have one life to live, what happened(s) to us before we were born and after we die? We must have had an existence somehow, somewhere. Christianity doesn’t allow for that unless it’s heaven or hell, but how can we be in either place before we were born? How could we “accept Christ” before we were born? No one ever said anything about that. So where were we…in heaven or hell? Does that make any sense?

Another thing, since we are an immortal spirit, what have we been doing for 14 billion years, as scientists, and many other religions, say….or even 6000 years…as Creationists say. We will live forever but only has less than 100 years of experience. Doesn’t make sense. There is a story in the Bible where Lazarus, in Abraham’s bosom, (What does that mean, and where is it?) is talking to someone suffering in “hell.” So that means there is experience after death, and it’s a lot longer than life here on Earth. Maybe we should spend some time thinking and researching that!

Maybe that’s why some religions say that we reincarnate, or have many lives. Seems to make sense, since we must be doing something. That could also mean that we could be anywhere in the Universe, wouldn’t it? That would be a “life” too. It just isn’t explained very well, and when there are unanswered questions, we begin to wonder and research…and learn.

Another question is that if we don’t accept Christ in this life; we spend the rest of our existence in hell. Wow, that’s a long time!  And what does “accepting Christ” mean? Every denomination has a different definition. Some say you have to be “reborn” and some say you have to be baptized, go through some sort of training, and be made a “Christian.” So what is the answer, and do we decide what it takes, or does Christ?? It says in the Bible that our faith is shown by our works. Well, Christians are not doing so well in that area. They have as many or more divorces, and generally have about the same life, as “non-Christians.” So, even most of the Christians are not even “saved,” as shown by their works, and are not going to heaven. So that leaves at least 90% of all the people that ever lived in hell, or are going to be.

Doesn’t sound good for God, does it?

Looks like the devil is winning. Is that possible? It says not in the Bible…that in the end, God wins. That’s not much of a victory, since they can’t ever leave hell! (as evidenced by the Lazarus story..the man in “hell” could not escape. ..Luke 16:19-31.)

And there’s the unanswered question of what if Christ was never preached to them, how will they know? (Romans 10:14) Someone explained it this way. Everyone has a chance to accept Him, because He will appear to them, and then they have to make a decision. Well, there goes the need for a church and teaching and living a good life, because for some Hindus, Christ will appear to them and they just have to decide one way or the other. My head hurts from that logic…or illogic!!!

So this is why I have been doing much research into what is really “true.” Since we have a long time to live, what is our purpose here on Earth, or wherever else we may be before and after? Since we have God living on the inside of us (The Bible says the Kingdom of God is within us, Luke 17:21.), wouldn’t a better way to think about it is that we are here to learn about realizing more of God in us…and the more we learn, the more God grows within us. God might be “out there,” but what difference does that make since the whole Kingdom is within us? Maybe we should pay more attention to what’s happening inside of us. Maybe should be responsible for our lives, and our “salvation.” Maybe we should be aware of who is trying to control us. Many forces are saying, “My religion is the only way to God,” and they go out and kill all others who don’t “believe.” (All religions have done this.) That’s their definition of Love, because “God is Love.” It’s like they know God better than God does! Some have said, “We create God in our own image,” instead of the other way around!

So Christianity has some holes in it….it can’t answer all the questions, such as….What gets us into “heaven,”  or 90% of the people in hell…come on!!! These questions have to be answerable, or we walk around in doubt, which is the opposite of faith. That does not work in our lives. We live by faith… not doubt our destiny…our “ending.” The questions need to be answered.

To Your Best

Vince

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

The Important vs The Urgent.

This one is about the Important and the Urgent!

Below is what has happened in our lives over the last few weeks. It really shows the difference between the Important and the Urgent.

The Urgent is what constantly is in front of us, that, supposedly has to be done…but does it. It’s stuff like reading my email, reading posts on FaceBook, watching TV, or fixing our car….all the stuff that seems necessary, and it might be, but keeps us from doing what we know we should be doing…the Important…like researching and starting that business, exercising, writing your story, or learning something new every day! My Important is to write every day about what I have learned about Healing and God, and how to develop that into a business online, so I can help people heal. It’s sharing what I have with all Creation.

My mentor said today that we always have time to eat and sleep. When we view the Important as that crucial, we will have the time.

So first the Urgent…like our car problems, it finally gave out. It went from bearings and brakes to the front suspension, the A/C, a gas line break, which almost started the car on fire, and finally, it starting only when it wanted to!! You think maybe it was time!! It took 3 weeks of looking at cars to finally decide to buy a new one…a Kia Sportage, something that should last 5 or 6 years. That was urgent and important.

Getting money transferred to buy it has been an experience. One has to have all the account numbers right, and knowing which ones are right is not that easy. So the transfer was delayed, while we try to figure it out. I think we have it now, but have been without a car for over a week. That’s been interesting. We had to depend on friends or relatives and taxis.

Also, Ryne and Natasha (my children) came to visit and attend our wedding reception. And there are always the mundane things like fixing the house.

This week we went to a friend’s home for lunch and a swim in her pool…great fun, but no writing happened. Yesterday we decorated a Christmas tree and made a Christmas scene. It all takes time, and no writing happened again. The Important seems to get pushed back.

The Important…So last night I wrote some in a book that I am writing a chapter in. It’s about half done. The problem is what to write. I consider myself one who tries to say what I need in as few words as possible (well maybe not, as you can see from this blog entry, haha.) This morning, after going for a nice long walk, I sat down and started writing. Now that’s getting to the Important!!!

So I am trying to tell you what life is like “down here.” What I wrote about above has been negative, but, for a reason. Life treats us as we treat it. If we just drift along, Life’s current will drag us down until we feel depressed and worthless. It takes changing our attitude and the way we look at things. One has to focus on one’s calling.

Now for the good part!! I have lost 15 lbs since I moved here. I have noticed that the stress here is almost non-existent. The pace here is slower, and it can be frustrating at times, but I am happier and much more content. I have been able to mediate, pray and listen to my inner self. What a feeling! What a life!

Now that’s Important!!!

So if you have questions, or need help getting to the important and Finding a Healing God, just reply to this post or send me an email.

Thanks, Vince

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com