Category: Finding a Healing God

The Differences in Relationships between the East and West

I just saw video about how single motherhood occurs in the East.

It seems that most of the mothers were very young and innocent when they had their babies. They thought that having a baby instilled a sense of responsibility in the father, but a 20 year man is not ready, capable or willing to do that. They don’t have a way to support a wife and child, so they become a deadbeat dad.

In the West it’s more like the women think they can experience life without being controlled. They have more info, but still have to deal with their biological urges. The government helps them out as well.

In the East it is more of education and awareness, where in the West feminism has influenced women’s choices.

Eastern women want good men who are respectful to them. They want to be stay at home wives and moms. They want children and a family.

Western women want that too, but are not “allowed” to admit it. They have more choices, such as careers and independence, but regret taking them when it’s too late to find a man that they want.

In the East children outside of marriage is looked down upon much more, and no government help is available. They become strong independent women out of necessity, but still want a relationship, and are willing to be feminine to get it.

Western women have lost the concept of what being feminine is and are losing the interest of men.

Let’s say it again, women control access to sex and men the access to relationships.

Women allow men to sleep with them and then expect accountability when it goes wrong. I personally know of an instance that having sex one time produced a baby!!!

I will have to admit when I was young I let my emotions and need for sex overwhelm my ability to ask, “And then What?”

I am very fortunate to not have any unknown or unwanted children running around.

As I grew older my need lessened, but still controlled my circumstances, I never progressed past the teenage phase until I took a deep look at myself.

That is when I received the “Realize that I am Loved, and therefore Love Myself” inspiration.

The reason I could not control myself is that I didn’t think I was worthy, so was filled with shame and guilt. Now I consider sex and relationships in a much different way.

I think that’s why I am comparing the East and West. There are good points and bad between the two, but for men they are not wanting to have relationships the Western way.

Let’s also remember that 80% of women are going after the “top” 20% of men, so most men get nothing and women can’t find a good man…because they are competing for the same man. A man who knows that will just sleep around as he has plenty of choices. A good example of this is in college where women flocked to the sports stars, and didn’t even “see” the good students. So it was just one drunken dysfunctional mess. That has expanded culture wide in the West, and it’s breaking down Society.

I really have compassion for Eastern women because of how little education and support they have….But they need to own their choices! And mostly they do, but they are now faced with the reality of raising their children on their own. Their pragmatism precludes their need for philosophical discussions. So they just want a man to take care of them. They don’t focus on blaming men, but just want food and a home for their children…A very different attitude and reality than the West.

The solution, of course, is control your urges. It’s that way with everything. You can’t build a business by just doing what you feel. Unfortunately, the majority of people just get a job and spend everything they made in 5 days at the local mall in 2 days. There goes success!

Relationships and Life are the same. The principles work…in both areas.

So restrain your urges to achieve Your Dream through Realizing You Are Loved, and Loving Yourself!

 

Miracles and mundane Things!

As I was reading the Gospel of Mark, I noticed it was filled with miracles…one right after the other. Then I thought of all the controversy and the lack of them in our churches and our lives. Doesn’t seem like there’s much Glory on us…Wonder what it would take to get a taste of that again…maybe being with the Master…intimately…like He wants. There’s something about His Love we don’t understand, because if we really knew how much He did, we would never want to be away from him..doing it on our own. Looks like that’s key…finding and resting in His Love. Really knowing what Jesus did on this earth, and for us individually, is a lifelong pursuit of the greatest God Thing there is.

GOD Things from a New Perspective

I have written only very occasionally over the last 4-5 years…I think mostly because i didn’t know what to say. I had something on the inside of me that wanted to come out, but I was unsatisfied with what I was learning.

I was in a Christian church setting, which was good. I was learning about God, but I wasn’t seeing changes in me and in other people. I became disillusioned with the way things were going. Then I “ran into” someone who introduced me to an organization that was teaching the secrets of the “rich.” They began to open my eyes. There are thing we don’t know, and some are being hidden from intentionally, by people who want to keep their position. It’s a natural thing, protect our ego. It’s also known that most of the time (like 90% or more) that even with this “secret knowledge” the 90% don’t use it. So why not keep it secret….

Well the secret is out. It’s all over the place.Everyone and everything is trying to tell us what it is….and that is the start of the story that will take a lifetime to tell.

So here goes….

The first secret I was told was that we are all responsible for where we are. Ever hear that before?? I mean really hear it. Do we complain about our life situation? Do we blame others for us not reaching our goals? Do distractions (TV, the internet) come against us. Do we “deserve a break.” Yep…I do. But then am I being responsible for my life, or am I giving it to someone….something else. More on that later (I don’t know when. I am following my heart. You’ll understand that later.)

The second thing, that relates to the first, is control, as in who is trying to control you? #1 is the “rich” the people in control of the media we all get distracted by (I know, bad grammar, but this a blog not a term paper, and its my style of writing.) Learning how they do that is part of becoming totally responsible…I mean totally….

So, since this about GOD things, we should talk about Him. He is the creator of the Everything That Is. So what does that mean. Well physics has come up with an explanation on how He did it. Simply put, he wanted a way to be self aware. It started with a void. A void is everything, but also nothing, because there is nothing to know (hard to describe, but stick with me.) So in order to “see Himself” he created the first form. The the circle that most basic, simplest form known. It can be seen as a planet, the sun, stars and many other things. Then created another circle on the edge of the first circle…and another….and another, until we get to today. If you want to know more about that, research Sacred Geometry, and we will talk more about it too.

Anyway since we know have a plausible solution to the creation issue, let’s move on to us. Since we all came from a circle, we are all the “same.” In other words we are made up of the same stuff. That not only means us, but everything…the trees and rocks and planet and stars and galaxies. It’s also known by science that everything has a vibration. In other words, everything has existence…is alive in one way or another. Jesus said he came to give life, not to take it. Sounds about right, doesn’t it. Now this is a deep subject that we will expanding on as we go.

So back to control and being 100% responsible. Does “giving our life to Jesus” sound like being 100% responsible, or maybe something like control. I never read in the Bible where Jesus said to do that, but that is what most churches that I attended said. Now that doesn’t mean we go our own way. We have a marvelous way of screwing things up, don’t we. It just means that we don’t depend on someone else to “save” us. I have seen too many people completely commit to Jesus that Christianity teaches, and then when things don’t work out as they plan, they blame HIM. Well what do you expect, when we all are taught to give ourselves to someone outside of us. In reality GOD…Jesus, if you like, is really in us…part of Him. We are self aware, just Him, and just like all creation…All That Is, is all self aware to some extent. When we realize that, it changes our perspective. We are all connected, so when you hurt yourself, or someone else, you are hurting All That Is….and that is you/me!!! We are the same, because we came from the same Creator….That is huge!!! More so we realize that we are creating our own reality…our own life, because that is a part of being self aware. That is why we are totally responsible for ourselves. It comes right back to the first point. God does not want us to give ourselves away. He want us to create our life the way we want it to be. That doesn’t mean selfishly getting money or possessions. They just end up controlling us. He want to be in our purpose…to be with Him!!!!

So how do we “be with Him?” Well, it started with a circle and went from there, there is a purpose for each of us…and it’s on the inside of us…coming from the first circle….built in…ready for us to fulfill, follow our destiny. That is also a huge subject..that we will definitely get more into, as we progress.

So that is it for now. Don’t want to overload with too much stuff. Just stay focused on the the 2 points…be totally responsible and realize control!

FINDING A HEALING GOD

Now we will relate the GOD within us to healing, because that’s what we all really want. Once we are healed, everything else falls into place…Right ?!We have the energy and ambition to go after what completes us and makes us happy!! 

So, first we are totally responsible, and, therefore, in control. Second, there is an element of control put upon us by internal and external forces.So if we start from the first place, we are the only one that can and will “Heal.” Second, we have to get rid of the internal and external controlling factors. They are our own mind, and other “minds.” Our own mind likes to have us thinking about the past and future and not the present, because if we stayed in the present, we would know who we really are, and not need the mind anymore. It’s a controlling force. Other minds are trying to keep our “vibration” down, so we think less of ourselves, and, therefore, serve them.

So the “trick” is to not let any mind keep us from being in the present, from where we see ourselves as we really are….Healthy, vibrant and creating a wonderful for ourselves and and the whole universe. The present is where God is, and what He made us to experience. So the more we are there, the closer we to Him. Simple isn’t it…All truth is.

Next time we will discuss how to control minds. Cool huh!

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Healing from a GOD Perspective

So, again, where does Healing come from? Again, from within ourselves. We are sick in ourselves, so it follows that healing must also be there. If it had to come from somewhere outside of us, we would be dependent on that external force. Our mind wants us to think…believe that some outside entity made us sick, so we would have to depend on it, to get what we want. That way it can remain in control. We need our minds, obviously, to live in this world, but it should not control us. Our healing comes from our Hearts, where God resides. It is our Eternalness that is Perfect and Complete, and if we really are, we will manifest it in our lives. That means healing, peace and abundance. It really comes from Love, the all powerful force in the Universe. All we need to do is access It and things begin to change.

We creators of our Existence..the Ultimate Creators….Sacred and Holy. We create what we think and know of ourselves, so if we know that we really are healed in our GOD-Self, it must happen, and so many other things also.

So search after the God within you, because that is where it all is. One sage the whole Universe is in the smallest particle, so everything is right there, where it should be.

That “where it should be” statement is very powerful. We must realize that everything as it is, is Perfect, because that’s the way it is, and Creation is perfect. We don’t need to know why or how, we just need to know, and once we do, we have the right perspective on who we are, and what we are made of…the Perfect Creation.

I know that’s hard to grasp, but just think about it for a second. If we are the example of a Perfect Creation, and a part of GOD within us, then healing isn’t a problem. It’s already there; we just need to make it a part of ourselves.

So begin to visualize that part of us that is GOD, and things will just fall into place. The more you realize the GOD within, the more you will know that the whole you is GOD. Cool, isn’t it. What else can you be, as He is everywhere, everything and throughout tim

“Mind Control”

So why do I keep repeating myself….God is within us…our healing comes from within…etc??

Well, that is the first thing that one needs to really know, who and where GOD IS, and where healing comes from. Once we get that … and that’s the most challenging, everything else follows.

So let’s discuss this “mind control” thing.

First of all, our mind created our present situation. This “present” situation is really all there is, but our mind is always taking us back into our past or projecting our past into the future. It makes our present reality based on things that happened in the past. It compares things that we are going through to things that happened in the past. It makes a judgment on those things and tells us how it will turn out, and they are mostly negative. That way it can remain in control, and the present reality can stay as it is. It doesn’t want change, and it doesn’t want you to “get better,” because then you won’t need it as much. It surely doesn’t want us to realize that there is something else but it..our Divine self…which is our real Self. Once we know that we don’t need the mind, except for making plans, everyday, mundane decisions, and to keep us breathing. We will never get well until we access our True Selves.

We do that by focusing on ourselves…what do we want…what is our “calling.” I don’t mean selfishly, like what I can get, no matter what happens to other people. It means to ask what is best for me and therefore, all of Creation. That begins to quiet the mind. Have you ever had a new idea, a new inspiration? Did that come from you thinking about it, or did it just appear? That’s our inner selves communicating with us. That’s where healing comes from.

So put the mind back where it should be, in second position. I’m not saying this is an easy task, but, as all Truth, it is very simple. Just begin to think on God. Think on Creation as everything there is. Begin to just watch ourselves think..all the thoughts, fears, guilt and shame that come bubbling up from our subconscious.  Just watch them, and then let them go. They are not yours. They are figments and they want to trap us. Just think of everything is as it should be. That will destroy mind control. Our mind traps us into thinking that it should be different. That this situation is not right..someone did us wrong….it their fault. It tells us that we did everything right, so its someone else responsibility to fix our lives. Remember we are totally responsible for where we are, and where we are going. It’s not someone, it’s us!!!!

Treatise on “Free Will”

Do we really have “Free Will?” Well, sort of, but only if we exercise it…and it’s not free. It takes a lot of effort and exercise.

If we think free will is doing “whatever I want,” we are right, but what do we really want? Do we want the money, the toys, the prestige? Does that bring us happiness? Not really…we want the happiness that true free will creates.  We limit our free will by thinking that the spiff, the bling… is what we want?

Free will comes from control…self control. Knowing what we want and controlling ourselves to get there, is the ultimate free will. Freedom means free from our controlling mind.  Being in our hearts or our God-self is the true freedom. We limit our free will by what we do. There are many forces that are trying to control us, and that is what is taking away our freedom.

The “will” of free will is our attention and intention..what we focus on. That becomes free when we control it. So for all of us control “freaks” this is something to focus our attention on…our will. To have an iron will means that we control our minds..by quieting it, and looking beneath all the advertisers and the media, (for one thing) that are trying to keep us in fear… and start living in love and compassion.

Compassion comes from  accepting things just as they are. They may not be as we like them, but they are the way they are. We need to accept the present situation. Once we are not tied up in knots about how everything should change, we might be quiet enough to hear….from our hearts….how WE can change to make the situation better.

So just look at things as are, and quiet down and listen…for the solution..or maybe just the next thing that can be done.

Treatise on Control

This is for all of us “Control Freaks.” >)

What does it really mean to be in control. Most people think it’s to satisfy every desire…to not have anyone “telling them what to do.”

But it comes down to “who do you listen to.” I think we all are controlled by something….our income, our family, our upbringing and mostly our mind. It’s the way we think that controls us mostly. So are we really in control of anything?

Yes we are! We created the circumstances we are in. We did. Not anyone else. Again, taking full responsibility. The good thing about this is that we can create the life we want by TAKING CONTROL OF OUR MIND.  You know that little voice (yeah, right, little) that keeps talking to us all the time. That’s the one us control freaks need to master, and that could occupy us for quite a while.

So instead of trying to control our outer environment, how about controlling the inner one. Stop the chatter, stop the going over and over the past, and stop the fantasy of the future.

Start by admitting that you/I have problems that we can’t solve, so we need to be completely honest about them. State them..truthfully, and say I can’t control my guilt, my shame, my anger and the issues those things bring up….like drinking too much, waiting for the weekend, because we hate our job, or our spouse who is always telling us to do stuff, or exposing our faults. Admit them, and then they will respect you for it….and ask for help from them, from God of the Universe which resides in us.

Once we start being honest, we can begin to deal with issue as it manifests. As we let each one go….forgive ourselves, everyone involved and GOD…we can heal. It’s like peeling and onion…never a pleasant job….and it’s layer by layer. The more layers that come off, the more we SEE ourselves, and our power returns. That’s being the best control freak there is!!

The Important vs The Urgent

This one is about the Important and the Urgent!

Below is what has happened in our lives over the last few weeks. It really shows the difference between the Important and the Urgent.

The Urgent is what constantly is in front of us, that, supposedly has to be done…but does it really. It’s stuff like reading my email, reading posts on FaceBook, watching TV, or fixing our car….all the stuff that seems necessary, and it might be, but keeps us from doing what we really know we should be doing…the Important…like researching and starting that business, exercising, writing your story, or learning something new every day! My Important is to write every day about what I have learned about Healing and God, and how to develop that into a business online, so I can help people heal. It’s sharing what I have with all Creation.

My mentor said today that we always have time to eat and sleep. When we view the Important as that crucial, we will have the timeThe.

So first the Urgent…like car problems, it finally gave out. It went from bearings and brakes, to front suspension, the A/C, a gas line break, which almost started the car on fire, and finally, it starting only when it wanted to!! You thing maybe it was time!! It took 3 weeks of looking at cars to finally decide to buy a new one…a Kia Sportage, something that should last 5 or 6 years. The was urgent and important.

Getting money transferred to buy it has been an experience. One has to have all the account numbers right, and knowing which ones are right is not that easy. So the transfer was delayed, while we try to figure it out. I think we have it now, but have been without a car for over a week. That’s been interesting. We had to depend on friend or relatives and taxis.

Also Ryne and Natasha (my children) came to visit, and attend our wedding reception. And there’s always the mundane things like fixing the house.

This week we went to Deanie’s sister’s home for lunch and a swim in her pool…great fun, but no writing happened. Yesterday we decorated a Christmas tree and made a Christmas scene. It all takes time, and no writing happened again. The Important seems to get pushed back.

The Important…So last night I wrote some in a book that I am writing a chapter in. It’s about half done. The problem is what to write. I consider myself one who tries to say what I need to in as few words as possible (well maybe not, as you can see from this blog entry, ha ha.) So Deanie and I talked about it last night. She stayed up until 230 am and wrote. And this morning, after going for a nice long walk, I sat down and started writing. Now that’s getting to the Important!!!

So I am trying to tell you what life is like “down here.” What I wrote about above has been negative, but, for a reason. Life treats us as we treat it. If we just drift along, Life’s current will drag us down until we feel depressed and worthless. It takes changing our attitude and the way we look at things. One has to focus on one’s calling.

Now for the good part!! I have lost 15 lbs since I have moved here (Deanie says I am too thin!!) I have noticed that the stress here is almost non-existent. The pace here is slower, and it can be frustrating at times, but I am happier and much more content. I have been able to mediate, pray and listen to my inner self. And, most of all, Deanie and I are wonderfully in love. We look into each other’s eyes and just go deep into each other. What a feeling! What a life!

Now that’s Important!!!

So if you have questions, or need help getting to the important and Finding a Healing God, just reply to this post!

Thanks, Vince

On Christianity…

Not sure what to write on this entry. Have been learning lots on just writing, and things will come. Deanie said my higher self is here trying to help me write. It’s been slamming doors and moving things around. So maybe I should listen….

First of all….who are we. We are an everlasting spirit that never dies. That brings up some things about Christianity that I have questions about. If we are a spirit, but we have one life to live, what happened(s) to us before we were born and after we die? We must have had an existence somehow, somewhere. Christianity doesn’t allow for that unless it’s heaven or hell, but how can we be in either place before we were born. How could we “accept Christ” before we were born. No one ever said anything about that. So where were we…in heaven or hell? Does that even make any sense?

Another thing, since we are an immortal spirit, what have we been doing for 14 billion years as scientists, and many other religions, say….or even 6000 years…as Creationists say. We will live forever, but really only have less than 100 years of experience. Does that make sense? There is a story in the Bible where Lazarus, in Abraham’s bosom, (What does that mean, and where is it?) is talking to someone suffering in “hell.” So that means there is experience after death, and it’s a lot longer than life here on Earth. Maybe we should spend some time thinking and researching that!

Maybe that’s why some religions say that we reincarnate, or have many lives. Seems to make sense, since we must be doing something. That could also mean that we could be anywhere in the Universe, wouldn’t it. That would be a “life” too. It just isn’t explained very well, and when there are unanswered questions, we begin to wonder and to research…and learn.

Another question is that is if we don’t accept Christ in this life; we spend the rest of our existence in hell. Wow that’s a long time!  And what does “accepting Christ” mean. Every denomination has a different definition. Some say you have to be “reborn” and some say you have be baptized, go through some sort of training, and be made a “Christian.” So what really is the answer, and do we decide what it takes, or does Christ?? It says in the Bible that our faith is shown by our works. Well, Christians are not doing so good in that area. They have as many or more divorces, and generally have about the same life, as “non Christians.” So, even most of the Christians are not even “saved,”as shown by their works, and are not going to heaven. So that leaves at least 90% of the all the people that ever lived in hell, or are going to be. Doesn’t sound good for God, does it? Looks like the devil is winning. Is that possible? It says not in the Bible….that in the end God wins. That’s not much of a victory, since they can’t ever leave hell! (as evidenced by the Lazarus story..the man in “hell” could not escape. ..Luke 16:19-31.)

And there’s the unanswered question of what if Christ was never preached to them, how will they know. (Romans 10:14) Someone explained it this way. Everyone has a chance to accept Him, because He will appear to them, and then they have to make a decision. Well there goes the need for a church and teaching and living a good life, because for some Hindu, Christ will appear to them and they just have to decide one way or the other. My head hurts from that logic…or illogic!!!

So this is why I have been doing much research into what is really “true.” Since we have a long time to live, what is our purpose here on Earth, or wherever else we may be before and after? Since we have God living on the inside of us (The Bible says the Kingdom of God is within us, Luke 17:21.), wouldn’t a better way to think about it is that we are here to learn about realizing more of God in us…and the more we learn, the more God grows within us. God might be “out there,” but what difference does that make since the whole Kingdom is within us! Maybe we should pay more attention to what’s happening inside of us. Maybe should be totally responsible for our lives, and our “salvation.” Maybe we should be aware of who is trying to control us. There are many forces saying, “My religion is the only way to God.,” and they go out and kill all others who don’t “believe.” (All religions have done this.) That’s their definition of Love, because “God is Love.” It’s like they know God better than God does! Some have said, “We create God in our own image,” instead of the other way around!

So Christianity has some holes in it….it can’t answer all the questions, such as….What really gets us into “heaven,”  or 90% of the people in hell…come on!!! These questions have to be answerable, or we walk around in doubt, which is the opposite of faith. That does not work in our lives. We live by faith…having no doubt about our destiny…our “ending.” The questions need to be answered.

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