I just saw video about how single motherhood occurs in the East.
It seems that most of the mothers were very young and innocent when they had their babies. They thought that having a baby instilled a sense of responsibility in the father, but a 20 year man is not ready, capable or willing to do that. They don’t have a way to support a wife and child, so they become a deadbeat dad.
In the West it’s more like the women think they can experience life without being controlled. They have more info, but still have to deal with their biological urges. The government helps them out as well.
In the East it is more of education and awareness, where in the West feminism has influenced women’s choices.
Eastern women want good men who are respectful to them. They want to be stay at home wives and moms. They want children and a family.
Western women want that too, but are not “allowed” to admit it. They have more choices, such as careers and independence, but regret taking them when it’s too late to find a man that they want.
In the East children outside of marriage is looked down upon much more, and no government help is available. They become strong independent women out of necessity, but still want a relationship, and are willing to be feminine to get it.
Western women have lost the concept of what being feminine is and are losing the interest of men.
Let’s say it again, women control access to sex and men the access to relationships.
Women allow men to sleep with them and then expect accountability when it goes wrong. I personally know of an instance that having sex one time produced a baby!!!
I will have to admit when I was young I let my emotions and need for sex overwhelm my ability to ask, “And then What?”
I am very fortunate to not have any unknown or unwanted children running around.
As I grew older my need lessened, but still controlled my circumstances, I never progressed past the teenage phase until I took a deep look at myself.
That is when I received the “Realize that I am Loved, and therefore Love Myself” inspiration.
The reason I could not control myself is that I didn’t think I was worthy, so was filled with shame and guilt. Now I consider sex and relationships in a much different way.
I think that’s why I am comparing the East and West. There are good points and bad between the two, but for men they are not wanting to have relationships the Western way.
Let’s also remember that 80% of women are going after the “top” 20% of men, so most men get nothing and women can’t find a good man…because they are competing for the same man. A man who knows that will just sleep around as he has plenty of choices. A good example of this is in college where women flocked to the sports stars, and didn’t even “see” the good students. So it was just one drunken dysfunctional mess. That has expanded culture wide in the West, and it’s breaking down Society.
I really have compassion for Eastern women because of how little education and support they have….But they need to own their choices! And mostly they do, but they are now faced with the reality of raising their children on their own. Their pragmatism precludes their need for philosophical discussions. So they just want a man to take care of them. They don’t focus on blaming men, but just want food and a home for their children…A very different attitude and reality than the West.
The solution, of course, is control your urges. It’s that way with everything. You can’t build a business by just doing what you feel. Unfortunately, the majority of people just get a job and spend everything they made in 5 days at the local mall in 2 days. There goes success!
Relationships and Life are the same. The principles work…in both areas.
So restrain your urges to achieve Your Dream through Realizing You Are Loved, and Loving Yourself!