Step number one of the 3 step process to Finding Your Dream is Realize that You are Loved.
The first thing is to get to the point of non-judgment.
We have to start with a life review. Go through you life and catalog all the bad things you did and all the good things too. It seems easy to say but it’s about being honest with yourself. You don’t have to get into those places where you have deep trauma, just do an overview, but go as deep as you can.
This can take some time, as you will have a tendency to gloss over your faults or blame other people. It’s not about them, it’s about you.
You are not judging yourself, just cataloging.
Once you have the list, see if you can come up with a percentage of good to bad. Is it 50% good, or 70%, or 30%? Can you put a number on it? You will find out that you can’t do it. You really don’t know if the good outweighs the bad, because you don’t know how bad or good each item on the list is.
How do you know if you are good or bad then? There is no way to tell…or, in other words…judge yourself. You might have this feeling that you are bad, somehow, but confront it. Tell it that you don’t know…and can’t know.
So why not just forgive yourself for all the bad in you life. You might say that you can’t because of all the bad, but what about all the good? Maybe they equal out…
Maybe it doesn’t make any difference, because you don’t know. So why not just let it go…both the good and the bad…and just let things be as they are. It’s called self-forgiveness…the letting go!!! You have basis and the reason to do so now!
So you are neutral. I would call it clean! That makes you loveable.
Now who loves you? Well your family and friends do. They love for who you are. They made a judgment about you and decided that you are more good than bad and are worthy of love.
How about God, or the Universe, or whatever you want to call it? It does the same thing…deciding that you are worthy of love, and doing it ultimately, and unconditionally. IT LOVES YOU!!!
What if it didn’t? Would you still be alive, or would it just absorb you back into itself and make a new soul….one that is better? Well, it didn’t, so you must be ok!
Now you are Loved in spite of all the bad. You can’t judge yourself, and your friends think that are good enough to be loved and the Universe does too.
That is something that can be thought about and meditated on for the rest of your life.
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