I’ve so many requests to add more substance to the A “Gentle” Reply to How to Love Yourself.
The Gentle Persuasion to “Love Yourself” is a good technique, because it is not an easy thing to do.
But just asking if it is “better to Love Yourself than hate yourself” is an easily answered question….Of Course!
So let’s run with that…why is it so hard to Love Oneself?
Because we have done so many “wrong” things…and people have let us know about it…many times.
So if you think about what they said to you, was it reality, or did you have a different perspective on it.
I would say most of the time you did.
That means that they weren’t inside your head…they were inside theirs…and judging you from there.
So if they don’t know your motivations and reasons why you acted in a certain way, why did you give any credence to their criticism?
The answer is, “I don’t know. Hmmmm.”
The second reason why it’s so hard to Love Yourself is that Your MIND is telling you “bad” things. Just listen to it for a while…Like:
- Boy, you didn’t sleep very well last night. You are tired.
- Why are you are hungry? You are so fat and useless.
- Why don’t you get up and do something?
Those are just some examples from my Mind?
Yours are probably similar…or worse!
So, how about using the same technique as listening to others?
Your mind is coming from a different perspective than you are!!!
Wait, my mind is me!!!
Is it? Do you agree with what it is saying?
I don’t really accept that I am Fat and Useless!
So your mind is not really You!!!
You are separate from it.
So what is YOU?
You are a “Spiritual Creator with a Spark of Divinity.”
That’s the REAL You, and the best reason to Love Yourself!!!
PS. Please let me know if this helps. I have much more inside of me bursting to get out. LOL!
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