A Follow-Up to the “Gentle Reply” Post

I’ve so many requests to add more substance to the A “Gentle” Reply to How to Love Yourself.

The Gentle Persuasion to “Love Yourself” is a good technique, because it is not an easy thing to do.

But just asking if it is “better to Love Yourself than hate yourself” is an easily answered question….Of Course!

So let’s run with that…why is it so hard to Love Oneself?

Because we have done so many “wrong” things…and people have let us know about it…many times.

So if you think about what they said to you, was it reality, or did you have a different perspective on it.

I would say most of the time you did.

That means that they weren’t inside your head…they were inside theirs…and judging you from there.

So if they don’t know your motivations and reasons why you acted in a certain way, why did you give any credence to their criticism?

The answer is, “I don’t know. Hmmmm.”

The second reason why it’s so hard to Love Yourself is that Your MIND is telling you “bad” things. Just listen to it for awhile…Like:

  • Boy you didn’t sleep very well last night. You are tired.
  • Why are you are hungry? You so fat and useless.
  • Why don’t you get up and do something?

Those are just some examples from my Mind?

Yours are probably similar…or worse!

So, how about using the same technique as listening to others?

Your mind is coming from a different perspective than you are!!!

Wait, my mind is me!!!

Is it? Do you agree with what it is saying?

I don’t really accept that I am Fat and Useless!

So your mind is not really You!!!

You are separate from it.

So what is YOU?

You are a “Spiritual Creator with a Spark of Divinity.”

That’s the REAL You, and the best reason to Love Yourself!!!

Blessings

Vince

PS. Please let me know if this helps. I have much more inside of me bursting to get out. LOL!

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Step 1…You are Loved!

You Are Loved! How can that be?

Recent blog posts “Today is the Day” (you can read it here) and “There is no Tomorrow” (here) lay the ground work for Being Loved.

I talked about that today seems to be going pretty good, since I changed my attitude about the past, and the Future is only in my mind, so I can create any one I want, as all the “Guru’s” say.

The way we do that is by having a positive outlook on our Future.

And the way we have it is believing that the Universe is positive and benevolent!

I call it Love!

So something out there Loves You!!!

And so does your family, friends and colleagues….and so do I!

That means at least one physical person Loves You….ME!!!

That takes away the excuse of, “Nobody love me!”

Not true, I do!!!

And, more importantly, so does all Creation!

Think of that…All That There Is has your best interest at heart!

If not, the “Creator” will want to destroy some things, and it might be you!

What Creator wants to destroy it’s Creation?

And Yes, Creation implies Order!

It’s always Order out of chaos. Not sure who “created” chaos, but I think it’s just the default…like darkness…and it is our duality. Can’t have Order without chaos!

So there is Order, that is a great Love for you  working on your behalf and for your highest best!!!

Isn’t that beautiful?

Think about Being Loved!!!

It might began to separate you into Who You ARE…and What You DO!

Remember, we live in a duality, so some of our actions keep the dark side side operating….lol.

I also talk about are our actions really bad? We can’t know that until we can see the consequences…maybe years down the road. We also do change our perspective on what they actually were. spce

It’s our basic self that is being Loved and Supported! That way down deep being…that little child in us!

Feel that!!!

Isn’t it good to know that no matter how we prop up the negative, we are still OK?

This is something that we can dwell on for days and days…and should be thought about, meditated on and prayed about for the rest of our Lives!

There are so many stories that tell of how it changed people’s lives.

It is the basis for any successful person’s story, so when you read one, look for the self acceptance, the realization of being worthy, and Loved!

So realize that You ARE Loved.

If you need more help…

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com is the place to ask!

Blessings

Vince

So…Are You Good or Bad?

I think there are 2 kinds of thinking. I am naturally good, and I am a fallen creature.

The naturally good people say that I am not there but trying to recover that totally good self…and will eventually.

The original sin people say you need someone to make you good, and then you live out that goodness…again until you eventually get there.

Both are basically on the same track. They know that we are going to “get there.”

And that it actually takes “walking it out.”

The people who say you need someone to make you good again implies that you were originally good…so are they really so different?

The “naturally good” know that we are separated from that good…for whatever reason…so both are implying what we are not perfect in our actions.

But underneath….our core, our source….is Perfect!!! And we are striving for that all time. It’s built into us.

It’s just we live in a duality, where choice is available, and we choose “bad” things because we mistakenly believe that they are somehow “good.”

What a strange dichotomy!!!

Thinking something good when we inherently know it’s not…and then being suck in doing it over and over…and more and more…is total irrational and insanity!!!

But that’s the way it is in having Choice. We do chose the negative, or it wouldn’t be available.

So you’re just keeping the duality going…so go for it…then I can have more ability to chose positive….lol.

Hey that’s the way it works.

If you want help to chose more positivity write me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com.

There are lots of negative people that open up great new possibilities for us!!!

Vince

There is NO Tomorrow!

This the follow up to “Today is the Day.”

Since it’s always Today, how can there be Tomorrow?

It never comes, so never exists. It’s all in our mind…

and we live there…wishing for things to be different.

Also the past is our memories…which we remember only in our Present.

So if there is only the Present, why can’t we change the past?

We can…if we perceive it differently.

You say but it happened that way. Ahh, that is your perception. Ask someone else about it and they will have a different perspective.

So change your memory!

It might be a bad one, but think about what that experience taught. Most of the time it’s “I’ll never do that again.”

That’s a great lesson, but have you done that again? Are you stuck doing it over and over?

If so, you are in your past. What a crappy way to live!

Change the memory to, “Maybe this was a good thing…looking back at it.”

So, next time that memory comes up, you just say, “Thanks, I know that one…it was for the best.

Now you associate a good feeling with it, so your evil mind doesn’t want to bring it up again.

This is a constant process, and soon “the devil will leave you for a more opportune time.” He’s not going away. He is licking his wounds, and looking for another to attack you.

This strategy works…most of the time, but he will always come up with a new way to get you…and you can always counteract him with a new one of your own.

It comes from you knowing that everything can be changed…or recreated…and that’s one of the things we were created for!!!

More tricks for you are coming!!!

If you need help…vsalzer@vincesalzer.com is the place to go

Blessings

Vince

 

What’s the Plan…For Your Life?

Ya…Really…

What is your Plan..Your Dream?

Do you have one?

Have you thought about it?

Maybe you should put some time into thinking about it.

Like how you would want to live.

Not just get up in the morning way before you want to, and go someplace you don’t really like and do things you don’t really want to for someone you don’t really like.

Like really think about it.

What do you want?

Are you afraid of Your Power?

Is that why?

Because if you admit that, you will begin to access things that you can’t even imagine.

Then there’s no one else to blame, and there’s no one else to congratulate when you actually move forward in accomplish it.

If you really think about it, there isn’t anyone out there for you to please, or even could satisfy, so why don’t you try satisfying yourself for once?

I know thins is tough, but that’s what I do.

Teach that You are Loved, You CAN Love Yourself, and Find Your Dream.

Sometimes it takes someone to tell you that in no uncertain terms.

So let’s start with a Plan

Call me…701-850-0560.

And let’s get started!

 

 

What DO You Want This New “Normal” to Look Like?

So I’ve been talking about change in this time of crisis.

But many people just want it to back to the way it was. But do they?

They have and will experience a Great Depression as our Grandparents did. It fundamentally changed their mindset. They experienced hardship like we can’t even imagine.

My mother grew up using water from a cistern, and it got pretty rank by the end of the summer. Can you imagine…they had to drink it…and they survived!

Survive is the crucial word here.

I think everyone is now thinking about the next catastrophe, and what they are going to do…have more toilet paper on hand that’s for sure!!

I’ve been saying create the new world, by going inside, realizing You Are Loved, then Loving Yourself and Finding Your Dream.

But what does that Dream look like?

I had to think about it..really think about it.

What would it look like?

Well I have been doing lots of research on various options, but let’s just go back to the general mindset.

It will be…as I said…in the back of everyone’s minds…”When will be the next one, and what will it be like?

Will there be food? Do I have to stay inside again? How about power and water?

We are beginning to think about how do I SURVIVE!

Well I better learn how to grow my own food, get my own source of power and water.

I better learn how to protect myself!!!

And, you know, that life sucking job in a cubicle in front of a computer no longer seems so important.

Actually I kinda liked not having to deal with the traffic, the stress, the long hours with no time for myself and my family!

Maybe I want to think about something I can do for myself and screw the boss…who has been screwing me for the last 20 plus years.

I’m sure there will be some of that….maybe a lot…since there are a lot of people who are beginning to think something is wrong in the matrix.

And it won’t take many to “disconnect” that will fundamentally change this world.

The other thing is that people are going to think twice about going out on the weekends to shop, party and generally spend their paychecks. They are going to become rainy day savers….just in case.

Suddenly, all the trinkets, bright lights and flashing signs won’t have the intended effect. They will buy what they need, probably meet with friends and go home and think about ways to prepare!!!

Some will really think and believe where we have been lied to…get up go to work and don’t think about anything.

New ways of doing things will emerge. New energy sources, and the expanding of alternate ones will manifest. It will bring in the greatest invention and innovation ever seen.

Yes the latest iPhone doesn’t seem so important now, does it? How about that 60 inch TV, or new game, or the latest fashion, or doing things to make other people like you?…probably not!

Learning how to plant a garden, have some chickens, dig a well, and buy that generator now come to the top of the list.

Gathering your family around you now seems important. Your children come back to live with you or in the home town and start to work doing things that matter…like fix infrastructure, return local manufacturing and power generation.

It will be a new world!!!

Think about how you would really like it?

What “job” you would really like?

What you would really like to create?

How you would want to “Pursue Happiness!”

What you can do to experience greater Love?

And we can go down the Rabbit Hole from Here!

A new way to realize that Your Love yourself

I got a new inspiration!

It came from a YouTube that came up in the recommended list. Things come up right when they are supposed to.

It’s called You are Loved!

I meditated on this all last night. It was pretty cool!

It’s the precursor to I Love Myself!

I noticed that so many people have trouble Loving Themselves, but I am hesitant of including anything outside of ourselves to help us, because too many people blame that outside force as the reason why they fail. But it could be viewed as we are loved by our Spirit, or our True and Higher Self., so that’s still “US.”

The main thing is to realize that You Are Loved…

Unconditionally, and Compassionately!!!

You are Loved because You are YOU! That’s it.

Now all you have to do is Accept It!

That seems easier than trying to convince yourself of your own worth, when you have all those memories and programming that are controlling you.

So I have added a step to the process: You Are Loved so You can Love Yourself, and that will Find Your Dream!

This is not a new concept. Actually I have seen it bring people to tears. It was a profound spiritual experience!

As you accept that you are Loved, you will be able to develop Self Love.

And remember you can only Love someone else as much as you Love Yourself! So it’s crucial that you accept as much Love as you can, because it will  make you “Bigger on the Inside,” and therefore, capable of Loving Others more, and becoming a Success!

I still have a question about Loving Others. Should that be a goal? Or should your goal be self realization. I think people that think they should help others end up disappointed or controlling, because they think that people should change, because of how good They are, and when they don’t they either get depressed or more aggressive. Also when you get the accolades, you get the pride and side effects…such as drugs and suicide. So I tend to stay away from the serving others thing.

I just think you develop yourself, and then tell others what you are receiving and let them decide. If they like you will be a success…in your own Spirit!

 

New Feedback from Talking to People!

Just recieved is some feedback from people on FB Messenger.

First, I get many friend requests per day…I am getting more and more restrictive, because it’s mostly a huge Time Waster.

Here’s Why:

Once I accept them most want to:

  • Sell me something, or
  • Want “free” consulting or coaching!

So I endure the really poor propaganda and, if they will listen, I try to tell them how to “sell.”

I try to help the “Freeloaders” for awhile. Then I suggest that free advice is not usually applied.

I just read a story about financial trading education. It said you will get your education from the market, losing most of your money, or you can buy it from someone who knows how the “Big Boys” trade.

Good lesson in life!

I also learned this a different way back in the 1990’s when someone started teaching about how the “Rich Cartel” thought and acted. It taught how to be like  they “are” without the negativity so You can Find Your Dream!

Another Good Lesson!

One even asked if I am happy after he bombarded me with 30 pictures and videos right after I responded to him.

Ahhh Yes…I am still happy, and I Love Myself…

No matter what he does.

Many others just ask a few questions, with really poor English, even though they say there are living in the US. (Says something about our education system, their ability to use Auto correct or Grammar checker and…their honesty.)

As an example, I replied to someone at 4 am their time, and they immediately responded. I asked them what time it was there? No response since then. Maybe they woke up to text me back, or maybe they are not really from where they say.

Then they all give the “Pitch.”

Most want me to join their Crypto-currency program that promises great returns, but provides no information about how those returns are generated.

So I do my “due diligence.” I run their company through a couple of scam checker sites. Here is one of them: https://www.scamadviser.com/. Then do a reverse image lookup to see if they stole any pictures. I show them my results and tell them to be careful.

They usually say they have been getting payouts, and I should “try” it with $1000!!!

Right!!!

The others want “help” to get something…

  • Money is the Big One,
  • Finding a partner is next,
  • Then is their Dream, or what they Really Want.

The young usually listen…one calls me “professor.” lol.

The religious people usually accept what I say about You Are Loved, and can Love Yourself. They usually Bless me and are gone when I tell them they can Listen to the Voice inside to be and have everything God intended.

The sellers just blow me off, and go on to other people. Some Do want to learn something about how to treat people. I tell them that no one is interested in what “You” want, only what “I” want.

Those people are Loving Themselves as best they can, and can’t connect with You, because there is no attraction there. It can only come from You being that person that Loves Yourself so much that they want what you have.

Then they will buy anything you have to offer!

Wanna Learn How to do That???

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I’M Sad!

I’m Sad, because my friends from the States just left after 9 wonderful, event filled days.

We had a great time reconnecting, and talking about our view on life. They came from a slightly different perspective, as all people do, but we still mostly agreed on most things.

The others we just let go. We concentrated on saying, “Yes, I can see how you think that way!”

What a wonderful to communicate!

We revealed how we felt about things openly and honestly, and we had a great time doing it!

 

My Shortcomings!

I got a couple comments on a FB post about my wife knows everything, or knows that I am her “shortcoming!”

I would like to expand on that, and apply it to everyone. We all think we have “the answer.” But when things don’t work out as expected, we blame others…such as my wife, and in her case, ME!

I do the same…blame her and show her, her failings. I don’t know why, but it makes me feel better. I feel justified, but really all it’s doing is keeping me from being aware of ME!

I feel sorry, but don’t apologize, because she did this, or didn’t that. Then I check out having guilt and shame feelings, because I know I am not aware of myself, or Loving Myself. And therefore incapable of Loving Her.

Sound Familiar!

Leave a reply saying what you do in these situations!!!