Treatise on Control

This is for all of us “Control Freaks.” >)

What does it really mean to be in control. Most people think it’s to satisfy every desire…to not have anyone “telling them what to do.”

But it comes down to “who do you listen to.” I think we all are controlled by something….our income, our family, our upbringing and mostly our mind. It’s the way we think that controls us mostly. So are we really in control of anything?

Yes we are! We created the circumstances we are in. We did. Not anyone else. Again, taking full responsibility. The good thing about this is that we can create the life we want by TAKING CONTROL OF OUR MIND.  You know that little voice (yeah, right, little) that keeps talking to us all the time. That’s the one us control freaks need to master, and that could occupy us for quite a while.

So instead of trying to control our outer environment, how about controlling the inner one. Stop the chatter, stop the going over and over the past, and stop the fantasy of the future.

Start by admitting that you/I have problems that we can’t solve, so we need to be completely honest about them. State them..truthfully, and say I can’t control my guilt, my shame, my anger and the issues those things bring up….like drinking too much, waiting for the weekend, because we hate our job, or our spouse who is always telling us to do stuff, or exposing our faults. Admit them, and then they will respect you for it….and ask for help from them, from God of the Universe which resides in us.

Once we start being honest, we can begin to deal with issue as it manifests. As we let each one go….forgive ourselves, everyone involved and GOD…we can heal. It’s like peeling and onion…never a pleasant job….and it’s layer by layer. The more layers that come off, the more we SEE ourselves, and our power returns. That’s being the best control freak there is!!

The Important vs The Urgent

This one is about the Important and the Urgent!

Below is what has happened in our lives over the last few weeks. It really shows the difference between the Important and the Urgent.

The Urgent is what constantly is in front of us, that, supposedly has to be done…but does it really. It’s stuff like reading my email, reading posts on FaceBook, watching TV, or fixing our car….all the stuff that seems necessary, and it might be, but keeps us from doing what we really know we should be doing…the Important…like researching and starting that business, exercising, writing your story, or learning something new every day! My Important is to write every day about what I have learned about Healing and God, and how to develop that into a business online, so I can help people heal. It’s sharing what I have with all Creation.

My mentor said today that we always have time to eat and sleep. When we view the Important as that crucial, we will have the timeThe.

So first the Urgent…like car problems, it finally gave out. It went from bearings and brakes, to front suspension, the A/C, a gas line break, which almost started the car on fire, and finally, it starting only when it wanted to!! You thing maybe it was time!! It took 3 weeks of looking at cars to finally decide to buy a new one…a Kia Sportage, something that should last 5 or 6 years. The was urgent and important.

Getting money transferred to buy it has been an experience. One has to have all the account numbers right, and knowing which ones are right is not that easy. So the transfer was delayed, while we try to figure it out. I think we have it now, but have been without a car for over a week. That’s been interesting. We had to depend on friend or relatives and taxis.

Also Ryne and Natasha (my children) came to visit, and attend our wedding reception. And there’s always the mundane things like fixing the house.

This week we went to Deanie’s sister’s home for lunch and a swim in her pool…great fun, but no writing happened. Yesterday we decorated a Christmas tree and made a Christmas scene. It all takes time, and no writing happened again. The Important seems to get pushed back.

The Important…So last night I wrote some in a book that I am writing a chapter in. It’s about half done. The problem is what to write. I consider myself one who tries to say what I need to in as few words as possible (well maybe not, as you can see from this blog entry, ha ha.) So Deanie and I talked about it last night. She stayed up until 230 am and wrote. And this morning, after going for a nice long walk, I sat down and started writing. Now that’s getting to the Important!!!

So I am trying to tell you what life is like “down here.” What I wrote about above has been negative, but, for a reason. Life treats us as we treat it. If we just drift along, Life’s current will drag us down until we feel depressed and worthless. It takes changing our attitude and the way we look at things. One has to focus on one’s calling.

Now for the good part!! I have lost 15 lbs since I have moved here (Deanie says I am too thin!!) I have noticed that the stress here is almost non-existent. The pace here is slower, and it can be frustrating at times, but I am happier and much more content. I have been able to mediate, pray and listen to my inner self. And, most of all, Deanie and I are wonderfully in love. We look into each other’s eyes and just go deep into each other. What a feeling! What a life!

Now that’s Important!!!

So if you have questions, or need help getting to the important and Finding a Healing God, just reply to this post!

Thanks, Vince

Good Quotes

Images in a Reflecting Pool Inspired by A Course in Miracles…by Elaine Hill which can be found at https://elainehill.wordpress.com/2011/08/27/images-in-a-reflecting-pool/

I think we plan our lives before we are born.  If so, given that I have always spent much time in thinking about what I should do next, I’m sure I planned carefully on the Other Side.  I once had an intuition that my growing-up years went just as intended.  I wanted to emphasize working hard on academic pursuits and developing the impetus to achieve.  Now when I question the advisability of all that, surely some balancing act is taking place.

The Value of Being Utterly, Gloriously Wrong

The Value of Being Utterly, Gloriously Wrong

Here’s a good article on learning…by being wrong. Sometimes that’s the only way we grow! You can go to Beyond Wealth to see more…

Friday, February 20, 2015
The Value of Being Utterly, Gloriously Wrong
Alexandar Green
When I took my first job as a stockbroker back in 1985, I was as green as a Granny Smith apple.
Although I was confident that I could make boatloads of money in the market in a short period of time, I quickly got my head handed to me.
Over and over again.
My investment strategy was a completely blinkered market-timing approach. (I was certain I could be in for the rallies and out for the dips.) And while I believed in it heart and soul at the time, it never had any real chance of success. Things never got better for me – or my clients –
until the day I recognized that fact.
No one relishes the idea of being utterly and profoundly wrong. But discovering we are can be one of life’s most rewarding experiences.
For reasons of pride, ego, hubris or fear, however, we have trouble
accepting this. That means we miss some of the best lessons life has to offer.
After all, when you admit you’re wrong, all you’re essentially saying is that you know more today than you did yesterday.
Yet studies show that we glom onto ideas early and resist letting them go. Psychologists call it “confirmation bias.” That is, we seek evidence
that confirms our beliefs and ignore or reinterpret evidence that
refutes them.
It’s easy to see how this happens. We all gravitate toward like-minded
individuals, listen primarily to those who share our opinions, and read books and articles by writers who confirm our points of view.
But the narrower our sources of information, the more error-prone
our thinking becomes. When it comes to puzzling things out, instead of doing the heavy lifting, we take a nifty shortcut: jumping to a
conclusion.
In a 1989 study, for example, psychologist Deanna Kuhn found that
when subjects were exposed to evidence inconsistent with a theory they preferred, they failed to notice it. When they did recognize the
contradictory evidence, they simply reinterpreted it in favor of their
preconceived belief.
In a related study, Scientific American columnist Michael Shermers
writes that, “Kuhn played an audio recording of an actual murder trial and discovered that instead of evaluating the evidence first and then
coming to a conclusion, most subjects concocted a narrative in their
mind about what happened, made a decision of guilt or innocence, then riffled through the evidence and picked out what most closely fit the story.”
Knowing this, is it terribly surprising that there have been 325
post-conviction DNA exonerations in the U.S.? Maybe Woody Allen
wasn’t kidding when he said he’d hate to leave his fate in the hands of 12 people who weren’t smart enough to get out of jury duty.
In every arena – politics, religion, science, investing – if we look at
evidence with an open mind, we have nothing to lose but our
ignorance. Our views are more likely to be accurate when we are
better informed.
In his book Confessions of a Philosopher, Bryan Magee writes that he became a skilled debater by identifying his opponent’s weak points and then bringing concentrated fire to bear on them, a tactic used by successful polemicists since ancient times.
Yet he was blown away when he discovered that philosopher Karl Popper did just the opposite:
“He sought out his opponent’s case at its strongest and attacked that. Indeed, he would improve it, if he possibly could, before attacking it… He would remove avoidable contradictions or weaknesses, close loopholes, pass over minor deficiencies, let his opponent’s case have the benefit of every possible doubt, and reformulate the most appealing parts of it in the most rigorous, powerful and effective arguments he could find – and then direct his onslaught against it. The outcome, when successful, was devastating. At the end there would be nothing left to say in favor of the opposing case except for tributes and concessions that Popper himself had already made.”
Magee said it was thrilling to witness. Yet no one reaches this level of understanding without taking the time to thoroughly investigate an opposing view rather than dismissing it out of hand. It takes time to weigh the evidence, consider it and allow for the possibility that we could be mistaken. This is something that most of us – if we’re honest with ourselves – are reluctant to do.
When you bring an open mind to a conflict, one of three things will happen. You will strengthen your existing convictions. You will become more sympathetic to the opposing view. Or you’ll end up smarter today than you were yesterday. (And get a lesson in humility in the bargain.)
That’s why we should never lose our temper in an argument. If you’re right, you don’t need to. If you’re wrong, you can’t afford to.
As the French enlightenment philosopher Voltaire said, “Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is an absurd one.”
Carpe diem,
Alex

Why Visualizing Doesn’t Work!!

That’s right visualization doesn’t work. It demotivates you, rather than empowers you. Keep reading to find out why!!

Joel F. Wade writes a great column in the Oxford Club called “beyondWEALTH, THE ROADMAP TO RICHES.” In the latest issue, “The Shift in Focus That Can Turn a Wish Into a Triumph,” he talks about the scientific reasons “visualization” doesn’t work.

Gabriele Oettingen, professor of psychology at New Your University found that when we ONLY Dream about reaching our Goals, it is Relaxing and Comforting, but when we run up against the actual work it takes to even get started, we “Lose the Dream.” You see, Dreaming doesn’t account for the struggle, the effort, it takes to do anything. And every Dream or Goal takes Work and Time, and when you realize that, you become disheartened and lose the Intense Desire and Focus that the Dream gave You.

Gabriele found a technique called “Mental Contrasting” that gives you Huge Leverage in Accomplishing Your Dreams. She asked people to Dream of Their Success, and then immediately confronted them with the Obstacles, they would become energized and ready to dive into the Tasks! She found that You need to START with a Dream, but it has to be grounded in Reality. You need to shift Your Focus and go right into the Challenges and what needs to be Done. Doing so connects the Future with the Present and Motivates You to Get Started. Every task and every obstacle then becomes The Dream!

When Olympians do not focus on winning a Gold Metal, but on performing at their highest level, and what it takes to get there, they have a much better chance of Winning.

That shift in Focus will make the difference between a Wish and a Triumph!

For more on How You Can Change Your Dream into Reality, contact me for a free session! You will learn the skills and habits that will build You a Successful LIFE!

Maybe Not So Foolish Comments!

Regarding my missives of yesterday, they were an overview of what I have been thinking about lately. Maybe today’s thoughts might be a little less foolish, as I will try to explain and elucidate the ones from yesterday.

I will start from the end of yesterday’s thoughts, and go to the beginning to get a perspective of how I am thinking, and how it can benefit you in Finding Your Dream.

The concept of connectivity is crucial to Finding Your Dream. How can you ever be in touch with yourself, if you don’t realize how you fit in? If you don’t, going to work, or running a business is all you can even conceptualize. You might be saying that you are Finding Your Dream in your present situation, you might be “happy” there, but the world is always creating, and you will soon have an inkling that there is something more. Sooner or later, you begin to realize that you are stuck in the rat race, knowing something is wrong, but have no idea what it is, or how to escape. You will begin to know your potential isn’t being even remotely fulfilled So finding that deep inner spiritual connection…going within.. is the first step. You must get to the point where you are comfortable with yourself and your circumstances…so you know where you are…so you can begin to see that you could even have a Dream. That unfulfilled potential is your Dream, and accessing it is the goal and the process of Finding Your Dream.

So what distracts you from knowing who we are and where we fit in. Thinking about all the social problems in the world, and how “someone” should fix them, is a big one. That’s why I talked about the role of government in our lives. If we can think about ways we can control ourselves… i.e. personal responsibility…less control is needed from the “outside.” Learning that anything outside ourselves is only a perception, and it keeps you from concentrating on what is important to you…YOUR Dream.

Another big distraction is the current political climate. Being all caught up in the Bernie or Trump issue is really intoxicating. Someone is going to do something!!!…and I am going to support them…again, abdicating self-responsibility, which keep you from focusing on what makes you happy and fulfilled. You might say that your support of one candidate is fulfilling and necessary..it might be…but how much have you thought of yourself while you are fighting for you candidate? It’s your mind’s way of keeping you safe and secure, which is its job.

So how does talking about the political arena relate to Your Dream. Well, if you spend an inordinate amount of time participating in the irrelevant…in my view…discussions and distortions, you are taken away from focusing on yourself…what you want….which is, like I said, a peaceful life. So if we focus on that…the ideas behind all the rhetoric….dreams can come forth. Realizing that we are in this together gives you a perspective on how you relate and connect to everyone else, and, therefore, how you can contribute to the whole….humanity.

So how do you go about finding how you are connected? I have been studying some courses, like A Course in Miracles. It teaches you that the things you see and thoughts you think are meaningless, and you give them all attention that they deserve. Once that barrier is broken, real “reality” begins to show itself for what it is….a construct…that we construct…so now our Dream begins to become possible.

Another unique and powerful course is Crack Your Egg. In it you learn that your reality is your Egg and you need to ]Crack it to see your potential…to Find Your Dream. Your Egg is deeply planted; it pervades your reality and distorts your perception. It is a complete course on getting to your core beliefs, and changing them so actually having your Dream becomes not only possible but inevitable!! You can access the free introductory book here:  https://se123.isrefer.com/go/heart/salzer/ and, after that, the introduction series, here: https://se123.isrefer.com/go/aseries/salzer/  They are quite comprehensive and will give a good introduction into what you will experience in the course. It completely changed my perception, and my reality, once I realized the Egg I was in. I highly recommend it.

From these courses, and others that I will discuss in future missives, and my own research and experience, you can realize that Finding Your Dream is in your grasp!

For questions, comments, reply to this blog, on Facebook, email at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com or call me at 701-850-0560… and let’s talk!!

What is a Dream?

 

I have been receiving a lot of questions about what is a Dream, so I thought I would write a Primer on what it is.

First it’s not the one you had last night…while you were sleeping…lol.

It’s your Vision, Mission and all your Goals rolled into One Thing. It’s the way you want to Be…the State you want to be in…like being Happy.

Did you know you are living your Dream right now?

Yes, Your Dream is always in the Present. It’s the way you are…your Being!

Your Dream comes from your Decisions. They have taken you to where you are right now.

So, if you don’t like the one you have, get a new one, by doing these simple, exciting things:

You start by thinking…visualizing what you want your Dream to be.

So what do you really love to do? How do you want to feel?

Think about it…Feel it…by getting quiet…outside and inside.

There are techniques I can show you how to do that, and they unique to each one of you.

Next watch yourself live that Dream. Become the Watcher!!!

Separate yourself from all your past memories and all your future nightmares…and just be in Your Dream.

See it…Be it.

Third, see what ideas come up. They will things you can do to realize Your Dream.

Then do the first one you get. I call it the Next Right Thing…NRT.

It will be something that excites you…and easy to do.

After that, get feedback…and do the NRT that you get…from Being the Watcher!!!

Do that over and over…live your life like that…and You Will Find Your Dream!!!

How Grieving helps to reevaluate life…which moved me into the Metaphysical.

All these thoughts on grieving have helped me to reevaluate my life. It has given me a Purpose…to pass on my family traditions and values. It has also brought me think about the metaphysical and “God.”

I specifically have been thinking about how existence could have begun.

I really like the theory that in the beginning there was just “One.” There was no time or space, because everything was One…like all together…at the same time.

Then that One wanted to realize itself, so it created “Two,” which created the Universe…and here we are. Simple right…well getting to Two was, but after that…will take more analysis.

It is said that if you try to randomly solve a Rubik’s cute, it will take billions of years, but if you have only one feedback after every try…whether it was right or wrong…a 1 or a 0…it will only take hours.

So that is how the Universe went from Two to today. There was feedback…meaning the every action had a reaction…and someone kept track. We can call that Source, or God…what it has been traditionally called.

Some call the One as nothing…like zero…i.e. atheists and some scientists, but that does not make sense logically, or mathematically, or have any meaning in physics…at least to me.

Maybe some scientist can explain it, but it would have to make a lot of sense, and not be too complicated. Mathematics…the language of science…has problems with zero. It can’t be manipulated. So to start with zero creates a problem. Zero multiplied or divided by anything is undefined. So to divide nothing into something…like 2/0 doesn’t make sense.

So I think we have decided that it has to be One. That’s what all the religions and mystery schools have told us too. Also that is a confluence between Science and Faith.

To know oneself is a basic teaching of metaphysics. It’s also called self-awareness…I call it the God Quality in each of us. We can think about ourselves…referring to the past and the future. We understand there is something bigger that us. We can judge our actions by the result they created. That is the same way God operates…always seeing the result…in an ultimate way.

Now I have a question about the feedback of the result of each move of the Rubik’s Cube. I said that each move will have a 1 or 0 feedback…right or wrong. Well, who knows what is right or wrong, unless you know the outcome… the completed Rubik’s Cube. So one must have solved it at least once to know if each move is moving towards the goal.

Hmmm. Then I thought about God. How does He know what is right or wrong unless He has been through all of Existence already? So he started as One…became self-aware by becoming Two…and then what?

It says in the Bible, that He knows the end from the beginning. That must be why He is God. That is way over my head!

To know right and wrong…ultimately…means you know the outcome. Wow! That is True Self-Awareness!

So how does this work for Us? In the same way we must realize…visualize… an outcome, and then we can judge our performance against reaching that Goal. That is what is called How to Find Our Dream!

First we must access that God Part of us that knows our Outcome…our Dream…and then start taking steps to create it.

Ahhh…another thing…create it. What does that mean?

It is the result of self-awareness and free will. They change our decisions and actions based on feedback and our Dream! And that creates a new reality!

So what is Reality anyway? It follows that it is the sum total of our results. As is said, change our actions, which create results, which changes how we perceive and interact with the feedback. That’s why a positive outlook is the best way to view the results, because it allows for seeing the possibilities in Finding Our Dream.

And it always starts with the first thing we do. It’s called the Next Right Thing. We really don’t know if it’s right until we do it, and the feedback gives us the answer.

So if the result took us away from our Dream…some would call it failure…we know we must make a change. It doesn’t mean we abandon our Dream. We change how we react, or our strategy, and do the Next Right Thing. It might be doing the same thing, with modifications, over and over, until we are shown another Next Thing.

So failure, or the “wrong” result, isn’t really a big thing. It’s just showing us how and where we need to change.

That should help overcome fear…what other people say…and procrastination.

Just as in solving the Rubik’s cube, the awareness of ourselves creates a path that we can follow through feedback.

Feedback from other people is crucial, as we can sometimes get too caught up in our own reality, and then cannot see the “obvious.”

That’s where I come in. Using my tips, techniques, strategies and intuition developed over 40 years of business, coaching and consulting, I can help you find Your Next Right Thing and show you How to Find Your Dream.

Reply to this post, PM me on Facebook, or email me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com to find out more and to get a free consultation!

 

Another Thing for You…

My FaceBook page name is Finding Your Dream. You can see it at Finding Your Dream.
I wrote this on that page….
What can I say about Finding Your Dream…
Well, if you are like most people, you would like to be one of those Rich Online Guys…you know…they click a few times…or send you lots of emails…which probably bother you… and, POOF…they are RICH…
Sounds like Hype doesn’t it?
Well…guess what…you are getting “Hyped” everyday through all the advertising on TV, and in all the stores you shop in.
Do you believe what they say in the TV commercials, or on the packages or signs in the grocery store…Probably not…I don’t…
But…they work…it’s been proven over and over…how…we all buy the things that are the most Hyped!!
Now a better word could be “Promoted”…maybe aggressively..but still, it works. It’s called compelling content, and it gets Results!
In other words, You Buy It!! And Rich Guys…the Guys who know how to do it…make money from that “Promotion.” And yes they Are RICH!!
So, how does that relate to you?? Want to learn how they do it?
Ethically and Honestly, of course.
So do I!! I have seen enough to know that real Money is being made…both online and off. It’s much easier and simpler to do it online.
If this resonates with you…I have found a “Rich” Guy who is willing to train you to do the same thing He does…and if you do DO it…you can be Rich also.
It’s much better than the job or business you have now..boy how I detested mine….long hours…limited pay…
So I’m going to Learn from the Rich Guy, and be the same as him!
Why don’t you come along…We’ll do it together….
Go to: Online Income…and Find Out How…
and…let’s GET STARTED!!
To OUR SUCCESS
Vince
PS… See the picture below…Could be in YOUR FUTURE!!
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