I Had an Honest Moment the Other Day

The thought came to me that No One wanted to hear what I have been saying for the past 6 or 7 years!

That I had to admit I was speaking into the wind. And I was not relevant.

It was a very honest and revealing moment…

And it was very depressing…for a couple of days. I searched for answers.

You see, I am trying to “monetize” my thoughts into a coaching business.

My goal is to have my thoughts generate resonance with people that want to “pay” for my thoughts.

Honestly, do people really do that?

Not really.

They pay for things that help them.

So why aren’t the things I have been writing helping people?

Maybe I am coming from the wrong place, because I am not doing what I say…namely realizing that I am Loved, Loving Myself and Finding My Dream!

Maybe when I do that, people will then begin to “listen”

But, by my principles, it doesn’t matter if they listen…or want to pay me for my “wisdom.”

My responsibility and accountability is to Love Myself and to Finding MY Dream!

The question is…How do I keep from starving then?

Somebody once said you can have the best and most wisest content, but if no one knows about it, you will starve!

So can I really say that I have told enough people to find any that resonate with what I am saying.

Obviously not!

I mean, if I am just writing my thoughts for myself…no problem…but who really does that? They say things to others to have an effect…to affect change. But it’s a fine line to effect others and not try to control them.

This is a conundrum!

 

 

 

Responsibility, Accountability and Our Country’s Foundation

This is part of a conversation on social media that I had with someone who has had their account temporarily removed due to it needing verification!!!

I probably was talking to a fake person. I was told that by someone, but I kept talking to them…LOL

Maybe the next time I form a “friendship” online, maybe I should “trust, but verify!”

Lesson Learned!

So we were talking about changes necessary in society. They said that certain “influencers” should be “careful” what they say, because some people Might take what they say to hurt others.

Here is my edited response as I thought about it more since I originally wrote it.

What you are saying is that we are responsible for others’ supposed, or maybe in the future, actions. If that is true, then this is the basis for arbitrary censorship…determined by someone else. They can censor you, because it MIGHT cause harm. They foretell the future!

The principle is here is that you are accountable for your speech and actions…not anyone else’s. And your speech is curbed by the same code. You do not say or act in any way that will Directly harm someone else. That is already addressed by law. You do not slander or libel someone else.

But is the call for revolution restricted?

Let’s see:

Our country was founded by a revolution….a violent one…a war. The rhetoric that was used then was incendiary and radical. Patrick Henry said, “Give me Liberty, or Give Me Death.” How radical is that? That is calling for violence…for a just cause. The Declaration of Independence said that when tyranny becomes oppressive, then resistance is an obligation and necessary!

That is how our country was formed…by resisting control…by violence! You should read some of the articles of that time. How about…Let us Hang Together, or we shall all Hang Separately? This was do or die. And it was all voluntary! In fact, most people at the time were pro-British. Only a small minority DID something.

This goes right along with You Are Loved and Love Yourself. Be responsible and accountable…for yourself…and let everyone else do the same. If you think they won’t, what basis do you have to tell them what to do…other than protecting your rights, but not at the expense of theirs….A fine line, but can be clearly drawn…from the right mindset.

 

Some Good Sayings I Saw.

2k a day keeps the J. O. B. away.

Be Yourself…Everyone else is already taken

Are you contributing to civic enlightenment and national harmony?

Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean.

I am keeping busy with my own broom.

Am I waiting for someone else to do what I know to be right?

Is this problem my fault?

How truthful am I?

Is Jesus my answer, or the excuse that I am failing?

Do I truly Love Myself? What feedback do I get when I say, “I Love Myself?” Do I actually listen?

What would happen if I did Love Myself?

Would I still be in the situation I’m in?

What’s the Plan…For Your Life?

Ya…Really…

What is your Plan..Your Dream?

Do you have one?

Have you thought about it?

Maybe you should put some time into thinking about it.

Like how you would want to live.

Not just get up in the morning way before you want to, and go someplace you don’t really like and do things you don’t really want to for someone you don’t really like.

Like really think about it.

What do you want?

Are you afraid of Your Power?

Is that why?

Because if you admit that, you will begin to access things that you can’t even imagine.

Then there’s no one else to blame, and there’s no one else to congratulate when you actually move forward in accomplish it.

If you really think about it, there isn’t anyone out there for you to please, or even could satisfy, so why don’t you try satisfying yourself for once?

I know thins is tough, but that’s what I do.

Teach that You are Loved, You CAN Love Yourself, and Find Your Dream.

Sometimes it takes someone to tell you that in no uncertain terms.

So let’s start with a Plan

Call me…701-850-0560.

And let’s get started!

 

 

Deal With It!

Deal with what?

Whatever is bothering you!

Whatever is holding you back?

“They” are called Traumas by many people.

Why?

Because those are the things that keep you from growing, evolving, ascending…

from Finding Your Dream!!!

So what are Traumas?

They are misinterpretations of experiences, or memories. Those wrong judgements have negative emotions attached to them, and raise a flight, fight or freeze reaction in your primitive brain.

That’s what keeps you Stuck!

The judgement of the experience!

Remember, memory is experienced in the present. You bring it back up and that’s where it affects you. If it stayed in the past…on the shelf…it wouldn’t be a problem.

Our mind keeps bringing them though, because we attached an emotion, an importance to them.

It becomes a Trauma whenfear, guilt and shame become attached to it.

This builds a construct, a matrix, which means it can be looked at, evaluated and even discarded for a new interpretation…which forms a new matrix.

I would like to think that we can live “outside the Matrix,” but we can’t. We need have structure to be able to have tables, chairs, beliefs and the possibility of growth.

So we reconstruct those Traumas into beneficial things we learn from and set back on the shelf, with no emotion tied to them.

It would be nice not to have any emotions, but memories are where emotions come from, so one will always have them, but we can greatly reduce their affects.

We can use the technique of saying, “I know that happened”…or rather…”Thank you for bringing that up again. You brought it up for a reason. What can I learn from it?”

Once you get an intuition why it’s there and what can be learned, you can set it back on the shelf.

You can’t eliminate of memories, so they can only be put back in the database. You do that and lower their importance. If they come up again, it means you can learn more from them. Then they go back and sit there. You just keep doing that over and over.

The process is letting the memories come up, thanking them, learning from them and categorizing their importance.

Most of them happened long ago, and really have nothing to do with the way you are today?

I have a very charged memory of spraining my ankle when I was a teenager. It surprised me and hurt so bad. I was running with wet shoes on a guy floor. It was my first experience with intense pain, so a quick and negative emotion was attached to it. I still shudder to this day when it comes back up. I need to see what I can still learn from it. One thing is to be able to deal with surprising and painful experiences, and knowing I will make a judgement about life because of it. I have been living in fear of having new and potentially negative experiences. They could just as easily been positive too, but I judge…construct…my perspective based on that first experience! (I am discovering some of this just by writing about it…a reason to write your thoughts down. They become “concrete” and it’s harder for the memory to assert influence over you, because you have dealt with it.)

The lesson is: “Don’t Do That.” LOL! (The answer for everything!) Also be aware of your environment. Learn the beneficial way to react with it.  Also, that it happened so long ago that it has nothing to do with my present experience, but it surely does affect it.

But it still brings up a shuddering reaction, and I must deal with it on a consistent basis. Maybe just writing this will release it more so that I can look at it every time it comes up, learn from it and consciously release it.

When you truly learn everything you need to know about it, and, then commit to acting differently…being in a different state…taking a different perspective…the Trauma resides.

This must be a big subject since I already wrote 700 words about it.

These emotions…perspectives…developed matrix’s…can be deep seated…like a death or divorce…and can be hard to deal with. Just letting the experience resurface can elicit so much trauma that we can’t do it.

It then just stays beneath the surface…sometimes deeply buried…that we don’t even recognize they are there. Those are the ones affect us the most, but we work on the ones we can.

Once we learn how to deal with Traumas that are at the surface, the deeper ones will be able to come up.

We have to deal with them from the Matrix of I Am Loved, (Nothing can separate me from the Love of God! My parents Love me just like I Love my children…unconditionally!)

And because of that…I can Love Myself. Also, I am a created, eternal spirit by that God that Loves Me…ultimately and unconditionally!

That I am worth it…worthy…deserving…powerful, and able to Deal With It!

So we start from the Point of Love and deal with what comes up from That Construct!

Since Nothing can separate me from Love, I can deal with Pain, Fear…Trauma…anything.

I form my New Reality.

I call it Finding My Dream!

 

 

New Thoughts on Current Situation

So what are your latest thoughts???

Has anything changed in your thinking?

Are you buying the narrative…from either side?

What statistics can you believe? Is this really a virus? If not, how come people are dying, and what are they dying from?

Does quinine or hydroxychloroquine really work? And is it safe?

Lots of questions here, and fake news too!

So who do you believe?

May I posit a solution?

Believe yourself!!!

But in order to do that, you must know yourself first. Otherwise your mind will “make up things.” It goes round and round and usually ends up opposite of what would be good for you!

And how do you know yourself???

By Learning that You are Loved.

How about this quote from a major religious text:

Nothing can separate you from the Love of God! Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow… No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God

Pretty clear isn’t it?

Next step, you have the right and ability to Love Yourself, because You Are Loved!

Remember Love Yourself as You Love Your Neighbor? I turned it around, but the meaning is the same.

So Love Yourself first, so You can have Compassion and Love for Others!!!

It also turns the narrative around from outward to inward looking. That way all the junk going on outside is in the background. Besides what can you do about all the confusing and unknowable stories out there?

The only thing you can really change is You!!!

And when you change, others have to react…and they do…both positive and negative, but it makes them make a decision. Do they like you or not? Decisions are the basis for growth!

So do you have to go out there and “change the world” or “have an impact?”

That shouldn’t be your main focus.

Loving Yourself develops compassion and empathy for yourself and then others. And then they notice and change happens.

That’s how it works…always!

So let’s change the World by Loving Ourselves!!!

 

A New Paradigm!

Doug Casey, an anarcho-capitalist, says that the State is a “Parasite on Society.”

The members of society are becoming less individually responsible, and, therefore, the country has to be held by force.

That is the basis for government to take more and more control…the lack of self responsibility!!!

Once people are responsible for themselves, government becomes mostly unnecessary.

The only thing government is good for is protect You from coercion within inside the countries borders and from other countries…the police and the military…and a court system to adjudicate disputes without resorting to coercion…which might include arbitration.

The current system is only marginally competent in providing these services, and tries to do almost everything else conceivable!

That is why I keep talking about Loving Yourself. If you Love Yourself, you will become honest with yourself and others. Your main concern is your self growth…becoming accountable.

It’s the way to Finding Your Dream!

 

Current Event Questions???

So what is all the fuss about?

50,000 people die of the “flu” every year. Many more of opioids,  benzodiazepines…Xanax…and other “drugs!”

Yes, maybe this could be dangerous, but where does it come from? There is  evidence it came from a lab, and it was engineered! Then it could be something to be prepared for, but are the right measures being taken, or is this for control!

We give up our rights when we are in fear just to “feel safe!”…It happened after 911!

There is some talk of the “powers that be” trying to complete their takeover of the world.

But others say the good guys are using this to wrest control away from them.

Who knows?

I think it comes down to US…to You….I! Each one of us can/will determine the outcome. It’s time for us to look inside, to see the best person we can be!

That’s why I always talk about knowing that You Are Loved, therefore You Can Love Yourself, and Find Your Dream!!!

There is great Opportunity in this crisis.

Make the most of it!

We can form the world that we want…not the one that is!!!

How Can You Love Yourself

In a previous post, I talked about the “Why.”

Now it’s time to address the “How.”

If you have not internalized the Why, go back to the post here and review it.

I did talk a little about the How in that post too, but let’s go it again, with more Gusto!

Number 1:  This is an ongoing learning and growing process. You are always becoming a different person! Your past is no longer relevant to who you are today

Number 2:  As you grow, things come up. You could ignore them by focusing on the Present, and overwhelming them with the positive, like repeating I Love You {your name}, telling yourself that all day long, listen to this YouTube here, make a video of you saying it over and over, and send it to me!

Yes, send it to me! It makes it REAL when you involve someone else!

Number 3: When some things persist, so you need a way to respond to them.

They will manifest as an accusation. “You can’t do this. Look at all the things you did.” Even things like, “I don’t know how. It’s too much. I don’t have time.”

The response is: Yes that’s true, that happened, but I’m not that person anymore. I Love Myself.

Then your mind will resort to send you thoughts just to make you feel bad. Insane things that don’t make sense, but your response is, “Yes, I know that, but I Love Myself.”

Then wait for a response. Most likely there won’t be any. Just think if you responded that way to your friends. They wouldn’t know what to say. Think about what you would say if they said that to you!

So the mind “leaves you for awhile” to go conjure up some new memories or situations to accuse you. It will say, “No you don’t,” and then flash scenes in your mind, or just “talk in your ear.”

The response is: Do you want me to hate myself? Make it either Love or Hate! If the answer is Hate, there is a big problem. It is an entity, not the real you. The real you would never actually say that.

Number 4:  Know that “Being comes from Doing,” as my Shaman friend says.

The more you do it, the more you will believe it, and the more you will become it!

Number 5:  Know that you want to Love Yourself! You certainly don’t want to Hate yourself!!! It’s innate. It helps us survive, keeps us from suicide, and keeps us creating  and growing!

Number 6:  Actions and Being are 2 Different Things!  What you have done is not you. You are the Being in the Present! Separate your actions, which are only in the past, from who you are in the Present…the REAL You!

Your actions are always creating a New You all the time! That’s a great response to past accusations. “I’m a new me, Now!”

Number 7:  Some of these memories and accusations will be pretty emotional, so when after you are confident in Your Love for Yourself, you can take on the “Big One,” It’s called Forgiveness. 

You have to be ready to admit your “wrongs,” be sorry for them, and willing to go to who you have wronged and apologize. Then offer to make amends. It’s hard, but so freeing.

You will be surprised that most people don’t even remember the situation, or have already let it go. I wrote about that here. I was so surprised when they said that’s all in the past.

The other thing that could happen is that they won’t accept your apology no matter what you do, but you can’t do anything about that. Just know you did your part.

So let’s wrap this up by recapping How You Can Love Yourself.

  1. You are growing and becoming a new person all the time.
  2. Repeat “I Love You” in as many different ways and as many times as possible.
  3. Learn the responses to all the accusations. …I Love Myself Anyway. Then wait for the response. There won’t be one, but it so keep saying Yes, I know, I Love Myself!
  4. Being come From Doing
  5. You WANT to Love Yourself! Ask the question, Do you want me to hate myself?
  6. Who you Are and what you Do are separate.
  7. The Big One is most Freeing!

For more Info on this or any other topic you would to discuss, reply to this message or contact me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com or on Facebook here.

 

A new way to realize that Your Love yourself

I got a new inspiration!

It came from a YouTube that came up in the recommended list. Things come up right when they are supposed to.

It’s called You are Loved!

I meditated on this all last night. It was pretty cool!

It’s the precursor to I Love Myself!

I noticed that so many people have trouble Loving Themselves, but I am hesitant of including anything outside of ourselves to help us, because too many people blame that outside force as the reason why they fail. But it could be viewed as we are loved by our Spirit, or our True and Higher Self., so that’s still “US.”

The main thing is to realize that You Are Loved…

Unconditionally, and Compassionately!!!

You are Loved because You are YOU! That’s it.

Now all you have to do is Accept It!

That seems easier than trying to convince yourself of your own worth, when you have all those memories and programming that are controlling you.

So I have added a step to the process: You Are Loved so You can Love Yourself, and that will Find Your Dream!

This is not a new concept. Actually I have seen it bring people to tears. It was a profound spiritual experience!

As you accept that you are Loved, you will be able to develop Self Love.

And remember you can only Love someone else as much as you Love Yourself! So it’s crucial that you accept as much Love as you can, because it will  make you “Bigger on the Inside,” and therefore, capable of Loving Others more, and becoming a Success!

I still have a question about Loving Others. Should that be a goal? Or should your goal be self realization. I think people that think they should help others end up disappointed or controlling, because they think that people should change, because of how good They are, and when they don’t they either get depressed or more aggressive. Also when you get the accolades, you get the pride and side effects…such as drugs and suicide. So I tend to stay away from the serving others thing.

I just think you develop yourself, and then tell others what you are receiving and let them decide. If they like you will be a success…in your own Spirit!