Why should You Love Yourself?

Ya, really, why?

Simple, what’s the alternative…Hate yourself!

I submit you already do that. Your mind send you thoughts all day long on how stupid, idiotic and generally bad you are. And somehow you believe it.

So how about start believing that you are good, worthy, and that God Loves You, so maybe You should too!

All the great and successful people talk about it too, although they don’t necessarily use those words. I am hearing them more and more though.

They use words like, you are worthy, you have value, know who you are, you matter, you are a spiritual creature, and lots of other things.

So this Shaman friend of mine told me that being comes from doing. That’s opposite of what I believe, but maybe it’s that who you are is because of what you do.

So you ask, “What should I do, then?”

Ok, first go to a mirror and say I love you {your name}.

Then say it to yourself all day long. You might start to believe it!

Third thing to do is meditate. Well maybe just thinking…for a minute. You have time. Watch your thoughts, what you are thinking. It’s called becoming the Observer. Also watch your breath, how it goes in and out.

You become aware of yourself.

Next, make a video of yourself saying, “I love you.” over and over. Also just talk about how you feel, angry, tired, and maybe even happy.

You can do it. It only takes a couple of minutes, and if you keep doing it you will be able to talk to yourself for longer and longer.

Then send the video to me. That changes everything, doesn’t it?

Well the first thing is to Love Yourself and then to Love Your Neighbor.

I am Your Neighbor!

Send it!

Talk to you again!

 

 

Consciousness and Loving Yourself

The more Conscious you are, the more you Love Yourself!

Yeah, that’s right!

Let’s get into it.

I am getting this from a talk I recently saw, but I’m going to put my own intuition into it.

Consciousness is me thinking about something, being aware of it. Duh!

But I am the conscious one, not the thing I am being aware of..I know, bad grammar.

So if I am aware of my hand, that doesn’t mean that it is aware of me! Now that’s a Wow!

In fact, I have no idea if it is, and I submit, that it isn’t. How can my hand be conscious of me?

You might say that everything is conscious. So what! What difference does it make…to me…if my hand is aware of me? I can’t know anything about That consciousness. My consciousness is all that matters!!!

Get it?

Now for the hard part.

So I am conscious of You, but I can’t know the consciousness of you? It’s the same as I can’t know the consciousness of my hand…

So you to me is the same as my hand to me. It doesn’t matter what my hand/you “thinks,” because I can never know it.

The same goes for you. You can never know what I am aware of.

So why are you so worried about it?

You say, I’m not worried about you, but, be honest, what do you think about all day long? You are thinking about the consciousness of other people.

As one armchair psychologist once said, “Stop it!” That was his advice for everything. Pretty funny but very true.

Just Stop it!

You can’t know what I am thinking about, or what I am aware of.

So what’s left? Could it to focus on You? Like learning to Love Yourself!

You have plenty of time to do it now that you can’t know anything about what others are thinking.

What if you just thought about what You are thinking about…all the time?

Do you think there would be an improvement?

Do you think you would begin to sort out some things in your life?

Maybe you would begin to appreciate some good things about you.

Maybe you would change what you think about…like good things!

Do you think it would change your life?

I know you are thinking, “There’s got to be more than that.”

Nope, that’s it. If you only focus on you, and not judge what I am doing, you would not be offended by anything I do, cuz you don’t know why I am doing it.

And if you are “unoffendable,” then, soon, you will offend no one else.

Can you think of a life like that?

I can…and am working towards it.

As they say…contact me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com for more info…

But it’s more like, “Come join me on the journey of Consciousness and Loving Yourself.

It leads you to Find Your Dream.

(Had to put that in there for SEO.) :>)

 

 

Neither Do I Condemn You…Go and Sin No More!

I have read this Scripture many times and others like it. Jesus said many times, “Go and Sin No More!”

But let us start with some background for those of you who haven’t read the Bible 30 plus times…like me..

Not only that…but have “studied” it…like thought about it…asking what does this mean?

Well, I got some intuition about it.

The part I am talking about was when a women was caught in adultery, and the religious leaders were about to stone her…like kill her…by throwing stones at her…

As the Law said!

What a way to die…and whoever devised that punishment is…what…insane!

But anyway, the religious leaders asked Jesus what they should do.

He bent down, starting writing in the dirt and said,

“Let him who is without sin, Throw the First Stone!

He continued writing in the dirt….wonder what he was writing?

Maybe all their sins….who knows…doesn’t say…but…

One by one they leave, because they feel guilty.

Finally there are only Jesus and the “guilty” women.

He says to her “Who is left to condemn you?

She says, “NO one!”

He then says,”Neither do I…

Go and Sin NO More!”

What does this all mean?

First of all we condemn ourselves…

Second, God does not condemn us…

So in his Eyes we are Not Guilty!!!

Think about that..WE are Not Guilty!

Love Yourself!

Third we are supposed to “Go and Sin No More!!!”

That means we can live a “Sinless Life!!!”

Wow…how does that work?

I think it has to do with the Big Picture.

It’s like it all works out…and we should live as if IT does…

Then we really don’t live under condemnation and guilt.

That’s the part that matters.

It goes back to the “Love Yourself then Love Your Neighbor” post I wrote a while back…

So if you want to change your perspective on guilt and fear,

and learn How To Love Yourself on Your Journey to Finding Your Dream…

Reply to this post, or email me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com, or message me at https://www.facebook.com/vsalzer.

Thanks…I love You, as much as I Love Myself!

 

I Had Dream!!!

Yes just like Martin Luther King…Don’t you all have Dreams…like at night, I mean.

Do you remember them? Probably not many.

But this one was…memorable.

It terrified me!

I was crying and very depressed.

I kept saying over and over…”I’m sorry…I’m sorry…I’M SORRY!!!

FOR EVERYTHING I HAVE DONE!”

That was it, but it was so powerful!

I felt so guilty and shameful, and I was in great fear!

I’ve had this Dream many times, but never knew why.

A question came to me after I woke up. It asked, “What are you SORRY for?”

I could not say anything. I didn’t know!

I didn’t know What I was sorry for!

What are you Sorry for?

Do you know?

Then it came to me…the guilt, shame and fear are not real…They just come to you and accuse you…with nothing to back it up.

That’s the lesson…Quit being so Guilty…and living in Fear.

I am NOT Guilty…and neither are YOU!!!

Yes, but you might say, “I have done many things wrong.” What things???

Tell me…what things?

Yes if you have wronged someone. Go to them and apologize and offer to make things right but if it happened years ago…how can you do that….or if you did, would they accept it, or even remember it.

That just happened to me recently…

An old friend…after many years…connected with me. I apologized to him for things I did.

He amazingly said he forgiven all and put it behind him. I was shocked.

What a lesson!

So forgive and move on…so You can Live Guilt Free!!!

It is the way You Love Yourself!

On Your way to Finding Your Dream!

And if you have found this helpful and want further assistance in Your Journey to Find Your Dream..

Reply to this post, email me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com, or message on FaceBook at https://www.facebook.com/vsalzer

 

What I’ve Learned from Being Sick

Wow…it’s taken awhile to recover.

I think the one thing I learned from this “sickness” was to be consistent. In other words, to keep doing what you love no matter how you feel. Otherwise you lose momentum. 

Also, just sitting down with no idea what you are going to write about, and just trust that intuition and inspiration will come.

And it does!

This goes for everything in life.

Let’s say that you want to start Loving Yourself more. One way to do that is to look in the mirror and enjoy what you see. Doesn’t seem like much, but if you just do it…no matter how you feel…you will notice a difference…that gets bigger every day.

That creates room for more things to come to you.

It builds up so you can begin to make more and more changes. But remember the being come from the doing…and the being comes from within…from being the Observer…watching what you are thinking.

I have been watching my thoughts…and do I think about some strange things. Memories and the result of them are the worst. I have learned remove myself from them as soon as I notice them.

I just take some time to watch myself before I go to sleep and when I wake up. That really helps during the day.  I can “feel” what I want to be doing, and not the fear or anxiety blocking me from doing it.

It’s a breakthrough! The feeling of accomplishing my Dream is incredible. Better than any other feeling!!!

If you need help implementing this…reply to this post, or write me at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com or contact me at https://www.facebook.com/vsalzer

 

 

Relating Loving Yourself and Your Neighbor

The question is how can you Love Yourself without it involving your neighbor???

I have researched trading in the financial markets, online marketing, selling actual products and services and many other ways to become a Success….to Find Your Dream…

They all entail you becoming an expert at doing something that benefits yourself, like having money, time and Freedom!

The only way that happens is by benefiting others…either by teaching or by providing something others want and are willing to exchange something for it…like money.

We are tied to others in pursuit of Finding Our Dream.

We can only achieve what we want when we give others what they want.

It’s called Loving our Neighbor as Ourselves.

So it’s first Loving Ourselves and knowing the way to do it is to Love our Neighbor!

Let’s take the opposite of Love Your Neighbor

I wrote about “Love Your Neighbor as Yourself” earlier.

I said it’s hard to love your neighbor if you don’t love yourself…and how to Love Yourself!

Well, I got another inspiration…if you hate your neighbor, do you hate yourself???

Seems like the opposite of that famous comment…so could be true. Some say that we reflect what we don’t like in ourselves onto other people. That’s why you can have an opinion of someone, and I can have the opposite.

So if you are offended or don’t like someone, it might be a pretty good sign that you don’t like yourself either!

Pretty tough to take…huh?

So the saying could be “If you hate your neighbor, you hate yourself…”

Now who thinks they hate them self…not many I would guess…but are you just not satisfied, or angry or guilty???

It might be that you are caught up with the thoughts of what you did wrong. Hard to love yourself then.

So, a few years ago, I “heard” (intuition, still small voice, my higher self…I don’t know…call it what you like) “You are Perfect.”

Well I had a problem with that, because I knew all the things wrong with me, but “it” said, “If you don’t think of yourself as perfect, you will always have the seed of doubt and that will keep you from Finding Your Dream.”

Well, I want my Dream more than my doubts…so I am Perfect!!!

Pretty good way to start Loving Yourself and Finding Your Dream!!!

I added some New Posts

I just added a bunch of posts from another blog. so I can have all my content in one place. I have another one someplace that I will someday find and put here too. On that blog I reviewed my progress, or evolution in my philosophy or world view.

 

I’ll let you go back and review them…and tell me what you think about them.

I started out as a Christian explaining the principles of communion with God and needing Jesus to save us.

But then I saw that it made little difference in people’s lives, so I started doing some research. What I found changed my life completely!

What I found was that humans blame things outside themselves for their condition. They use the Jesus “saving” them to give relief, but when things don’t work out the way they want, they blame Him.

That is a big reason why they have trouble, and don’t progress in life.

They are not taught self responsibility..at least I never heard it…and therefore they cannot see within themselves..where all change and success comes from.

So I continued to research what works in achieving a successful life… and I found that ones dreams are a critical part of it!

I then got the thought of what the saying “love your neighbor as yourself” means…and how it can changed the way people think and act.

The idea of loving yourself so you can love others was the way we can become successful.

I have been developing a personal coaching and business consulting business that encompasses these principles.

So that’s my progression over the past few years.

Future blogs, YouTubes, FaceBooks and other Social Media will be about this, and related issues…like how do you Love Yourself.

So stay tuned for more of my musings…

 

Another look at fear!

This is by Paul Rosenberg from Casey Research. It is a very well done treatise on fear, and how we have changed thru the media and and other things. It also gives good solutions, so  read all the through, and make some changes…for the good!

y of the 21st Century: Going Nowhere While Very, Very Frightened

We’re 14 years into a new century, which is typically how long it takes for a century’s unique characteristics to show up. The 20th century, for example, looked a lot like the 19th until 1914; from there on it looked a lot different. So I think this is a good time to take a look at our new century and see how it’s shaping up.

I see two particular things that are defining the mainline culture just now. Let’s go with the easy and obvious one first:

The 24-Hour Fear Cycle

Nothing makes humans easier to manipulate than fear. Get a group of Homo sapiens afraid of something and most of them will run wherever you want them to. Unfortunately, all the manipulators of our time know this and are maximizing their use of it.

On top of that, we have a 24-hour news cycle, and nothing rivets eyeballs to screens like fear. Good news, as we all know, doesn’t sell papers.

There have always been bad things happening on Earth. Take the truly horrifying stories that pop up here and there of women killing their own children. Sadly, these have always been with us, but they weren’t blasted on five or ten news channels 24/7. Likewise, horrifying stories from the Middle East or in Africa; these are very definitely nothing new. What’s new is using these stories as tools… tools to make Homo sapiens run to where you want them.

Here’s the reality:

Violent crime is decreasing, and significantly.

Deaths in fires are dropping:

Disaster losses are falling too:

I could go on, but you get the point. Lots of things are getting better in real life, but no one thinks so because everything’s getting worse on TV. Fear works.

One final example: Here’s a list of events from a year that generally inspires no fear in us—1970:

March 6A bomb being assembled by terrorists explodes, killing three.
April 847 children are killed by (peacetime) bombs from a neighboring country.
May 4Soldiers kill four American college students.
May 8A huge mob of construction workers in New York attacks protestors.
May 14Police fire on a crowd at a college, killing two and injuring 12.
June 9A bomb explodes at New York police headquarters.
July 12Two canisters of tear gas are thrown into the British House of Commons.
Aug. 7Terrorists take a judge hostage in California, then kill him.
Sept. 1An assassination attempt on the King of Jordan.
Sept. 6Terrorists hijack four airplanes on flights to New York.
Oct. 5Terrorists kidnap a British diplomat.
Oct. 10Terrorists kidnap a Canadian Minister. He is found dead a week later.
Nov. 25Terrorists seize the headquarters of Japan’s defense forces.
Nov. 27An assassination attempt on the Pope.
Dec. 3A major government caves and releases five terrorists.
Dec. 4Spain declares martial law.
Dec. 7A Swiss ambassador is kidnapped.
Dec. 13Martial law is declared in Poland.

These events were accepted in 1970. People thought they were sad, but they didn’t panic over them. I don’t think that would be true in this 21st century. We are living in a fear soup, which is being stirred by the overlords of the age. And it’s working for them.

Going Nowhere

There’s a great line in the Bible that says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” And that is exactly what we’re being treated to from the mainstream culture right now. This is a second defining characteristic of our new century.

How many of us can answer this question in any positive way?:

Where is Western civilization going?

In this 21st century, we have no vision, no goal, no direction. And that’s a very bad thing.

Lots of modern people want to live healthier and longer, but to what end? So they can eat more fancy food? So they can have sex a few more times? To what great future does that lead?

Millions of 21st-century people want to get rich, but what do they do with their big pile of money? Is it just to look at? To salve their insecurities? To prove their superiority?

Money is a fine tool, a good thing to have, but anyone who thinks it’s going to make them into some kind of superior person has a big surprise coming. The one thing they may get from it is status, but only in the eyes of shallow people.

At one time, the men and women of the West did have goals. At one time, they strove to attain righteousness, to love their neighbors, and to eliminate slavery. (And yes, I’m talking about the early Middle Ages.) Was this universal and perfect? Of course not, but it was quite real and quite effective, no matter what pop history says.

Even during my youth, we had a vision: We were sending men to the moon, then outward from there. However poorly the effort was handled, it was a real goal, and one that positively affected millions of us.

Now there are no goals, no striving, no searching, no becoming. Instead, we have distractions, fears, and stasis.

Humans need goals, and we as a civilization currently have none.

The Current Necessity

So what do we do about this?

The common reflex is to “reform the system,” but I think that’s a tragic mistake. There’s a line from Emerson that goes like this:

We are always getting ready to live, but never living.

And that’s precisely what the usual path will get you. Always “gonna live soon” but never actually living.

“Things will change as soon as we get X out of office.” “They’ll change as soon as we get Y into office.” “As soon as we change the Supreme Court!”

You can chase these rainbows for decades, but it ends up making no real difference. One day you’ll wake up and realize that you’re old and nearing the finish line… and that the system still sucks.

So, I recommend that you dump all of that and get busy changing the world directly. Forget the visionless 21st-century culture and start creating your own vision. Read, learn, choose! And get busy doing.

Without a vision, we stagnate, we walk in circles… we perish.

Don’t live in that trap.

A Free-Man’s Take is written by adventure capitalist, author, and freedom advocate Paul Rosenberg. 

Top 4 Ways I Stay Emotionally and Spiritually Healthy

Here’s is a link to staying healthy by Amy Englemark. I also included the blog post. The link will take you to her blog where you can see other things she is writing. She is in the same niche I am…personal coaching in health and success!!

Enjoy

Vince

posted by Amy Englemark on Feb 18, 2015

Top 4 Ways I Stay Emotionally and Spiritually Healthy

Grab a pen and paper:

Imagine you’re 80.  Ideally, what type of emotional and spiritual health are you experiencing?  Write it down.  What has helped you stay healthy?  How do you feel?  How do you look?  Jot down the first things that come to mind.

Me Personally

I’m always learning.  I thought you might like to know what so that you can take what you want and leave the rest.  There’s more to health than nutrition and exercise.  Most of us desire to feel healthy emotionally, spiritually and mentally as well.  Here are some of the ways I do this.

  • Forgive quickly and steer clear of becoming offended.  If I harbour negative thoughts towards someone I feel uncomfortable and sour inside.  This definately shows up in other ways.
  • Spend time (ideally first thing in the morning) just being still or talking with Jesus. My spiritual quiet time is precious to me.  I savour it like I savour good chocolate or a sunset!  If I offended anyone with this last point, I apologize ahead of time!
  • Choose to seize the day.  Really, who knows if today is our last day.  If it was, how would you live differently?  People in our very own neighbourhoods are struggling with their health.  Why are we immune to death or disease?  Reminding myself of our inevitable death reminds me to not take time for granted.
  • Feel emotions and choose to respond using self control and discretion.  I’m sure you’ve experienced a disagreement with your spouse, kids or co-worker.  This has for sure happened many times in my life.  Emotions are great, even anger.  It’s how you/I choose to express myself when I’m emotionally charged that makes all the difference.

How about you?  What steps are you taking to feel healthier, inside and out?  I’d love you to share them.  

Have a healthy day!

Amy