I am recovering from what I would call an extreme gastronomic event….lol.
Well it wasn’t so funny, actually. I was in the worst pain in years….maybe ever. The chest pain was almost unbearable…and really, my guts didn’t hurt. Luckily my wife knew what the issue was..thru experience and intuition.
I thank you, Deanie, Very Much!
So, I had to restrict my diet severely for several days. I learned that I could survive on much less food.
Also that “being hungry” is just a reaction of my system…which was pretty screwed up. So I didn’t really know when I “needed” sustenance.
Now, I can follow a schedule that makes sense. One that says now it the time to eat…and not give in to the random cravings.
I realize that is the way to Love Myself…to Heal Myself…and to take control of my life.
To only eat when it’s necessary and only “good for me” foods has an immediate effect…because when I don’t get instant feedback…pain!!!
So, sometimes we are shown how to change and grow thru pain…brought on by our decisions…and we need to own that.
Our healing comes from within, as our decisions create the reason we suffer.
We truly grow when we can see both sides… Dealing with our internal selves is both very hard and very freeing!
Loving Oneself is the process of being accountable, and forgiving ourselves.
Once you can become that honest…you can Love Yourself and therefore Find Your Dream!
I wrote about “Love Your Neighbor as Yourself” earlier.
I said it’s hard to love your neighbor if you don’t love yourself…and how to Love Yourself!
Well, I got another inspiration…if you hate your neighbor, do you hate yourself???
Seems like the opposite of that famous comment…so could be true. Some say that we reflect what we don’t like in ourselves onto other people. That’s why you can have an opinion of someone, and I can have the opposite.
So if you are offended or don’t like someone, it might be a pretty good sign that you don’t like yourself either!
Pretty tough to take…huh?
So the saying could be “If you hate your neighbor, you hate yourself…”
Now who thinks they hate them self…not many I would guess…but are you just not satisfied, or angry or guilty???
It might be that you are caught up with the thoughts of what you did wrong. Hard to love yourself then.
So, a few years ago, I “heard” (intuition, still small voice, my higher self…I don’t know…call it what you like) “You are Perfect.”
Well I had a problem with that, because I knew all the things wrong with me, but “it” said, “If you don’t think of yourself as perfect, you will always have the seed of doubt and that will keep you from Finding Your Dream.”
Well, I want my Dream more than my doubts…so I am Perfect!!!
Pretty good way to start Loving Yourself and Finding Your Dream!!!
I just added a bunch of posts from another blog. so I can have all my content in one place. I have another one someplace that I will someday find and put here too. On that blog I reviewed my progress, or evolution in my philosophy or world view.
I’ll let you go back and review them…and tell me what you think about them.
I started out as a Christian explaining the principles of communion with God and needing Jesus to save us.
But then I saw that it made little difference in people’s lives, so I started doing some research. What I found changed my life completely!
What I found was that humans blame things outside themselves for their condition. They use the Jesus “saving” them to give relief, but when things don’t work out the way they want, they blame Him.
That is a big reason why they have trouble, and don’t progress in life.
They are not taught self responsibility..at least I never heard it…and therefore they cannot see within themselves..where all change and success comes from.
So I continued to research what works in achieving a successful life…ones dreams!
I then got the thought of what the saying “love your neighbor as yourself” means…and how it can changed the way people think and act.
The idea of loving yourself so you can love others was the way we can become successful.
I have been developing a personal coaching and business consulting business that encompasses these principles.
So that’s my progression over the past few years.
Future blogs, YouTubes, FaceBooks and other Social Media will be about this, and related issues…like how do you Love Yourself.
This is by Paul Rosenberg from Casey Research. It is a very well done treatise on fear, and how we have changed thru the media and and other things. It also gives good solutions, so read all the through, and make some changes…for the good!
We’re 14 years into a new century, which is typically how long it takes for a century’s unique characteristics to show up. The 20th century, for example, looked a lot like the 19th until 1914; from there on it looked a lot different. So I think this is a good time to take a look at our new century and see how it’s shaping up.
I see two particular things that are defining the mainline culture just now. Let’s go with the easy and obvious one first:
The 24-Hour Fear Cycle
Nothing makes humans easier to manipulate than fear. Get a group of Homo sapiens afraid of something and most of them will run wherever you want them to. Unfortunately, all the manipulators of our time know this and are maximizing their use of it.
On top of that, we have a 24-hour news cycle, and nothing rivets eyeballs to screens like fear. Good news, as we all know, doesn’t sell papers.
There have always been bad things happening on Earth. Take the truly horrifying stories that pop up here and there of women killing their own children. Sadly, these have always been with us, but they weren’t blasted on five or ten news channels 24/7. Likewise, horrifying stories from the Middle East or in Africa; these are very definitely nothing new. What’s new is using these stories as tools… tools to make Homo sapiens run to where you want them.
Here’s the reality:
Violent crime is decreasing, and significantly.
Deaths in fires are dropping:
Disaster losses are falling too:
I could go on, but you get the point. Lots of things are getting better in real life, but no one thinks so because everything’s getting worse on TV. Fear works.
One final example: Here’s a list of events from a year that generally inspires no fear in us—1970:
A bomb being assembled by terrorists explodes, killing three.
47 children are killed by (peacetime) bombs from a neighboring country.
Soldiers kill four American college students.
A huge mob of construction workers in New York attacks protestors.
Police fire on a crowd at a college, killing two and injuring 12.
A bomb explodes at New York police headquarters.
Two canisters of tear gas are thrown into the British House of Commons.
Terrorists take a judge hostage in California, then kill him.
An assassination attempt on the King of Jordan.
Terrorists hijack four airplanes on flights to New York.
Terrorists kidnap a British diplomat.
Terrorists kidnap a Canadian Minister. He is found dead a week later.
Terrorists seize the headquarters of Japan’s defense forces.
An assassination attempt on the Pope.
A major government caves and releases five terrorists.
Spain declares martial law.
A Swiss ambassador is kidnapped.
Martial law is declared in Poland.
These events were accepted in 1970. People thought they were sad, but they didn’t panic over them. I don’t think that would be true in this 21st century. We are living in a fear soup, which is being stirred by the overlords of the age. And it’s working for them.
There’s a great line in the Bible that says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” And that is exactly what we’re being treated to from the mainstream culture right now. This is a second defining characteristic of our new century.
How many of us can answer this question in any positive way?:
Where is Western civilization going?
In this 21st century, we have no vision, no goal, no direction. And that’s a very bad thing.
Lots of modern people want to live healthier and longer, but to what end? So they can eat more fancy food? So they can have sex a few more times? To what great future does that lead?
Millions of 21st-century people want to get rich, but what do they do with their big pile of money? Is it just to look at? To salve their insecurities? To prove their superiority?
Money is a fine tool, a good thing to have, but anyone who thinks it’s going to make them into some kind of superior person has a big surprise coming. The one thing they may get from it is status, but only in the eyes of shallow people.
At one time, the men and women of the West did have goals. At one time, they strove to attain righteousness, to love their neighbors, and to eliminate slavery. (And yes, I’m talking about the early Middle Ages.) Was this universal and perfect? Of course not, but it was quite real and quite effective, no matter what pop history says.
Even during my youth, we had a vision: We were sending men to the moon, then outward from there. However poorly the effort was handled, it was a real goal, and one that positively affected millions of us.
Now there are no goals, no striving, no searching, no becoming. Instead, we have distractions, fears, and stasis.
Humans need goals, and we as a civilization currently have none.
The Current Necessity
So what do we do about this?
The common reflex is to “reform the system,” but I think that’s a tragic mistake. There’s a line from Emerson that goes like this:
We are always getting ready to live, but never living.
And that’s precisely what the usual path will get you. Always “gonna live soon” but never actually living.
“Things will change as soon as we get X out of office.” “They’ll change as soon as we get Y into office.” “As soon as we change the Supreme Court!”
You can chase these rainbows for decades, but it ends up making no real difference. One day you’ll wake up and realize that you’re old and nearing the finish line… and that the system still sucks.
So, I recommend that you dump all of that and get busy changing the world directly. Forget the visionless 21st-century culture and start creating your own vision. Read, learn, choose! And get busy doing.
Without a vision, we stagnate, we walk in circles… we perish.
Don’t live in that trap.
A Free-Man’s Take is written by adventure capitalist, author, and freedom advocate Paul Rosenberg.
Here’s is a link to staying healthy by Amy Englemark. I also included the blog post. The link will take you to her blog where you can see other things she is writing. She is in the same niche I am…personal coaching in health and success!!
Imagine you’re 80. Ideally, what type of emotional and spiritual health are you experiencing? Write it down. What has helped you stay healthy? How do you feel? How do you look? Jot down the first things that come to mind.
I’m always learning. I thought you might like to know what so that you can take what you want and leave the rest. There’s more to health than nutrition and exercise. Most of us desire to feel healthy emotionally, spiritually and mentally as well. Here are some of the ways I do this.
Forgive quickly and steer clear of becoming offended. If I harbour negative thoughts towards someone I feel uncomfortable and sour inside. This definately shows up in other ways.
Spend time (ideally first thing in the morning) just being still or talking with Jesus. My spiritual quiet time is precious to me. I savour it like I savour good chocolate or a sunset! If I offended anyone with this last point, I apologize ahead of time!
Choose to seize the day. Really, who knows if today is our last day. If it was, how would you live differently? People in our very own neighbourhoods are struggling with their health. Why are we immune to death or disease? Reminding myself of our inevitable death reminds me to not take time for granted.
Feel emotions and choose to respond using self control and discretion. I’m sure you’ve experienced a disagreement with your spouse, kids or co-worker. This has for sure happened many times in my life. Emotions are great, even anger. It’s how you/I choose to express myself when I’m emotionally charged that makes all the difference.
How about you? What steps are you taking to feel healthier, inside and out? I’d love you to share them.
Starting to blog again. Hopefully this will turn into video to post.
I have been looking into Loving Yourself…as referenced in the Bible verse “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
I just look at the verse and ask what does it mean…or how can I do it? So it says to love my neighbor…how much??? As much as I love myself. So in order to love my neighbor I have to first love myself. It’s like turning it around…and that’s the way many good truths are stated. They put the result first, and the necessary action first…and probably the hard part also.
So what is harder, loving yourself or your neighbor….good question. Doesn’t seem like either is “easy” or that we even want to do it. Loving our noise making, property crossing, and dirty neighbor is not something we want to do…and sitting down and seeing what we love about ourselves is not something we care to take the time to do. Maybe we are afraid of what we will find…maybe we will realize that there isn’t much there to love.
We might find that we are liars and unaccountable in almost everything we do…and that is not easy to deal with. And we are very good at seeing all the other negative things which doesn’t lend itself to Loving Oneself either.
But we need to learn to Love Ourselves, because we need to deal positively with the world…our neighbors. Otherwise we end up in frustration, despair and resentment which doesn’t end well.
So how do you learn how to Love Yourself? Well, its probably doing things you don’t enjoy doing…initially. Once you get started, though, you will find that the release and freedom that are the result will bring you back for more.
Imagine working through your inconsistencies….your self lies… and no longer being subconsciously burdened by them. Imagine being able you hold your head up in front of your family and friends, because you have dealt with your “issues,” and can now come from an honest and open place….meaning that you recognize and admit you failings, are making amends and making great strides in improving yourself.
Do you think you could love the “unlovable” brother in law better then? Would it make your life and maybe even his better?