I Had an Honest Moment the Other Day

The thought came to me that No One wanted to hear what I have been saying for the past 6 or 7 years!

That I had to admit I was speaking into the wind. And I was not relevant.

It was a very honest and revealing moment…

And it was very depressing…for a couple of days. I searched for answers.

You see, I am trying to “monetize” my thoughts into a coaching business.

My goal is to have my thoughts generate resonance with people that want to “pay” for my thoughts.

Honestly, do people really do that?

Not really.

They pay for things that help them.

So why aren’t the things I have been writing helping people?

Maybe I am coming from the wrong place, because I am not doing what I say…namely realizing that I am Loved, Loving Myself and Finding My Dream!

Maybe when I do that, people will then begin to “listen”

But, by my principles, it doesn’t matter if they listen…or want to pay me for my “wisdom.”

My responsibility and accountability is to Love Myself and to Finding MY Dream!

The question is…How do I keep from starving then?

Somebody once said you can have the best and most wisest content, but if no one knows about it, you will starve!

So can I really say that I have told enough people to find any that resonate with what I am saying.

Obviously not!

I mean, if I am just writing my thoughts for myself…no problem…but who really does that? They say things to others to have an effect…to affect change. But it’s a fine line to effect others and not try to control them.

This is a conundrum!

 

 

 

Some Good Sayings I Saw.

2k a day keeps the J. O. B. away.

Be Yourself…Everyone else is already taken

Are you contributing to civic enlightenment and national harmony?

Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean.

I am keeping busy with my own broom.

Am I waiting for someone else to do what I know to be right?

Is this problem my fault?

How truthful am I?

Is Jesus my answer, or the excuse that I am failing?

Do I truly Love Myself? What feedback do I get when I say, “I Love Myself?” Do I actually listen?

What would happen if I did Love Myself?

Would I still be in the situation I’m in?

What’s the Plan…For Your Life?

Ya…Really…

What is your Plan..Your Dream?

Do you have one?

Have you thought about it?

Maybe you should put some time into thinking about it.

Like how you would want to live.

Not just get up in the morning way before you want to, and go someplace you don’t really like and do things you don’t really want to for someone you don’t really like.

Like really think about it.

What do you want?

Are you afraid of Your Power?

Is that why?

Because if you admit that, you will begin to access things that you can’t even imagine.

Then there’s no one else to blame, and there’s no one else to congratulate when you actually move forward in accomplish it.

If you really think about it, there isn’t anyone out there for you to please, or even could satisfy, so why don’t you try satisfying yourself for once?

I know thins is tough, but that’s what I do.

Teach that You are Loved, You CAN Love Yourself, and Find Your Dream.

Sometimes it takes someone to tell you that in no uncertain terms.

So let’s start with a Plan

Call me…701-850-0560.

And let’s get started!

 

 

Deal With It!

Deal with what?

Whatever is bothering you!

Whatever is holding you back?

“They” are called Traumas by many people.

Why?

Because those are the things that keep you from growing, evolving, ascending…

from Finding Your Dream!!!

So what are Traumas?

They are misinterpretations of experiences, or memories. Those wrong judgements have negative emotions attached to them, and raise a flight, fight or freeze reaction in your primitive brain.

That’s what keeps you Stuck!

The judgement of the experience!

Remember, memory is experienced in the present. You bring it back up and that’s where it affects you. If it stayed in the past…on the shelf…it wouldn’t be a problem.

Our mind keeps bringing them though, because we attached an emotion, an importance to them.

It becomes a Trauma whenfear, guilt and shame become attached to it.

This builds a construct, a matrix, which means it can be looked at, evaluated and even discarded for a new interpretation…which forms a new matrix.

I would like to think that we can live “outside the Matrix,” but we can’t. We need have structure to be able to have tables, chairs, beliefs and the possibility of growth.

So we reconstruct those Traumas into beneficial things we learn from and set back on the shelf, with no emotion tied to them.

It would be nice not to have any emotions, but memories are where emotions come from, so one will always have them, but we can greatly reduce their affects.

We can use the technique of saying, “I know that happened”…or rather…”Thank you for bringing that up again. You brought it up for a reason. What can I learn from it?”

Once you get an intuition why it’s there and what can be learned, you can set it back on the shelf.

You can’t eliminate of memories, so they can only be put back in the database. You do that and lower their importance. If they come up again, it means you can learn more from them. Then they go back and sit there. You just keep doing that over and over.

The process is letting the memories come up, thanking them, learning from them and categorizing their importance.

Most of them happened long ago, and really have nothing to do with the way you are today?

I have a very charged memory of spraining my ankle when I was a teenager. It surprised me and hurt so bad. I was running with wet shoes on a guy floor. It was my first experience with intense pain, so a quick and negative emotion was attached to it. I still shudder to this day when it comes back up. I need to see what I can still learn from it. One thing is to be able to deal with surprising and painful experiences, and knowing I will make a judgement about life because of it. I have been living in fear of having new and potentially negative experiences. They could just as easily been positive too, but I judge…construct…my perspective based on that first experience! (I am discovering some of this just by writing about it…a reason to write your thoughts down. They become “concrete” and it’s harder for the memory to assert influence over you, because you have dealt with it.)

The lesson is: “Don’t Do That.” LOL! (The answer for everything!) Also be aware of your environment. Learn the beneficial way to react with it.  Also, that it happened so long ago that it has nothing to do with my present experience, but it surely does affect it.

But it still brings up a shuddering reaction, and I must deal with it on a consistent basis. Maybe just writing this will release it more so that I can look at it every time it comes up, learn from it and consciously release it.

When you truly learn everything you need to know about it, and, then commit to acting differently…being in a different state…taking a different perspective…the Trauma resides.

This must be a big subject since I already wrote 700 words about it.

These emotions…perspectives…developed matrix’s…can be deep seated…like a death or divorce…and can be hard to deal with. Just letting the experience resurface can elicit so much trauma that we can’t do it.

It then just stays beneath the surface…sometimes deeply buried…that we don’t even recognize they are there. Those are the ones affect us the most, but we work on the ones we can.

Once we learn how to deal with Traumas that are at the surface, the deeper ones will be able to come up.

We have to deal with them from the Matrix of I Am Loved, (Nothing can separate me from the Love of God! My parents Love me just like I Love my children…unconditionally!)

And because of that…I can Love Myself. Also, I am a created, eternal spirit by that God that Loves Me…ultimately and unconditionally!

That I am worth it…worthy…deserving…powerful, and able to Deal With It!

So we start from the Point of Love and deal with what comes up from That Construct!

Since Nothing can separate me from Love, I can deal with Pain, Fear…Trauma…anything.

I form my New Reality.

I call it Finding My Dream!

 

 

You Will Never Ascend Until You Deal With Your Stuff!

We all have traumas, fears and guilt that limits our growth.

We all want to ascend or, at least, evolve, grow until we are ready.

We must truly Love Ourselves to let go of all of them, and cannot do it without Love.

I had an experience with a greater power. It put me on the floor, unable to breathe. It said to me, “This is only the slightest movement of my little finger. You cannot handle my power.”

I learned that you must rise up, and become that person that you know you can be!

That entails being accountable, admitting your fears, and dealing with those feelings and experiences that seem to overwhelm you.

You do that by realizing and repeating that you are not those traumas. That you are Loved, and You Love Yourself. You are a created, never ending spirit. That is Your True Self.

Then you rise in Your Power!

 

What DO You Want This New “Normal” to Look Like?

So I’ve been talking about change in this time of crisis.

But many people just want it to back to the way it was. But do they?

They have and will experience a Great Depression as our Grandparents did. It fundamentally changed their mindset. They experienced hardship like we can’t even imagine.

My mother grew up using water from a cistern, and it got pretty rank by the end of the summer. Can you imagine…they had to drink it…and they survived!

Survive is the crucial word here.

I think everyone is now thinking about the next catastrophe, and what they are going to do…have more toilet paper on hand that’s for sure!!

I’ve been saying create the new world, by going inside, realizing You Are Loved, then Loving Yourself and Finding Your Dream.

But what does that Dream look like?

I had to think about it..really think about it.

What would it look like?

Well I have been doing lots of research on various options, but let’s just go back to the general mindset.

It will be…as I said…in the back of everyone’s minds…”When will be the next one, and what will it be like?

Will there be food? Do I have to stay inside again? How about power and water?

We are beginning to think about how do I SURVIVE!

Well I better learn how to grow my own food, get my own source of power and water.

I better learn how to protect myself!!!

And, you know, that life sucking job in a cubicle in front of a computer no longer seems so important.

Actually I kinda liked not having to deal with the traffic, the stress, the long hours with no time for myself and my family!

Maybe I want to think about something I can do for myself and screw the boss…who has been screwing me for the last 20 plus years.

I’m sure there will be some of that….maybe a lot…since there are a lot of people who are beginning to think something is wrong in the matrix.

And it won’t take many to “disconnect” that will fundamentally change this world.

The other thing is that people are going to think twice about going out on the weekends to shop, party and generally spend their paychecks. They are going to become rainy day savers….just in case.

Suddenly, all the trinkets, bright lights and flashing signs won’t have the intended effect. They will buy what they need, probably meet with friends and go home and think about ways to prepare!!!

Some will really think and believe where we have been lied to…get up go to work and don’t think about anything.

New ways of doing things will emerge. New energy sources, and the expanding of alternate ones will manifest. It will bring in the greatest invention and innovation ever seen.

Yes the latest iPhone doesn’t seem so important now, does it? How about that 60 inch TV, or new game, or the latest fashion, or doing things to make other people like you?…probably not!

Learning how to plant a garden, have some chickens, dig a well, and buy that generator now come to the top of the list.

Gathering your family around you now seems important. Your children come back to live with you or in the home town and start to work doing things that matter…like fix infrastructure, return local manufacturing and power generation.

It will be a new world!!!

Think about how you would really like it?

What “job” you would really like?

What you would really like to create?

How you would want to “Pursue Happiness!”

What you can do to experience greater Love?

And we can go down the Rabbit Hole from Here!

A New Paradigm!

Doug Casey, an anarcho-capitalist, says that the State is a “Parasite on Society.”

The members of society are becoming less individually responsible, and, therefore, the country has to be held by force.

That is the basis for government to take more and more control…the lack of self responsibility!!!

Once people are responsible for themselves, government becomes mostly unnecessary.

The only thing government is good for is protect You from coercion within inside the countries borders and from other countries…the police and the military…and a court system to adjudicate disputes without resorting to coercion…which might include arbitration.

The current system is only marginally competent in providing these services, and tries to do almost everything else conceivable!

That is why I keep talking about Loving Yourself. If you Love Yourself, you will become honest with yourself and others. Your main concern is your self growth…becoming accountable.

It’s the way to Finding Your Dream!

 

Current Event Questions???

So what is all the fuss about?

50,000 people die of the “flu” every year. Many more of opioids,  benzodiazepines…Xanax…and other “drugs!”

Yes, maybe this could be dangerous, but where does it come from? There is  evidence it came from a lab, and it was engineered! Then it could be something to be prepared for, but are the right measures being taken, or is this for control!

We give up our rights when we are in fear just to “feel safe!”…It happened after 911!

There is some talk of the “powers that be” trying to complete their takeover of the world.

But others say the good guys are using this to wrest control away from them.

Who knows?

I think it comes down to US…to You….I! Each one of us can/will determine the outcome. It’s time for us to look inside, to see the best person we can be!

That’s why I always talk about knowing that You Are Loved, therefore You Can Love Yourself, and Find Your Dream!!!

There is great Opportunity in this crisis.

Make the most of it!

We can form the world that we want…not the one that is!!!

15 Questions You might have about the Bible and Christianity

I’ve always had questions about my Christian faith over the years, but I just accepted what was being taught…until a few years ago.

Then I really began to search for some answers. That lead me into other questions I didn’t even know. They were there, but just under the surface.

Here are some of the questions:

Maybe you have some of the same ones…So let’s get started.

1. The first one was in Genesis where the word “we” was used when God talked about “himself.”

How many Gods where there then?

It was always explained as the Trinity was talking, but that does not set well with me. The Trinity means 3 in 1, so why use the plural when it’s really One.

It just leaves an uncomfortable feeling in me.

There are lots of other explanations…and we might get into them, but they come from outside the Bible and Christianity…so let’s leave that one alone for awhile.

2.  Why where these Gods so afraid of our potential that they destroyed the Tower of Babel?

They said we could become like them…something to remember.

It just doesn’t seem like a “God” to me.

3. Then we get into all the rules about cleaning your body and house. It only entailed washing and then having the priest inspect it.

So didn’t they have some other kinds of treatments? Like herbs or prayer?

Probably…but could it have been a “priest power” thing? Just Asking???

They had the power to kick you of the city and destroy your house if you were unclean!

4. I always wondered about the statement, It was spring, the time Kings went out to war.” Does that mean God wants us to be in war?

Then it says King David stayed at home from war and because of that he got into trouble too. That’s the Bathsheba story. He committed adultery and then tried to cover it up by murdering a man. He lost his son as a result. This is because he didn’t go to war??? Hmmm…

5. This is the one the really gets me questioning. When the Israelites came back from Egypt, they were commanded to “kill every man, woman and child, every animal and every living thing, so not to “contaminate” the Jewish bloodline! This has implications throughout history. Who would command that? It doesn’t matter for what reason!

6. Then it says that we should have no other gods before him. What other gods? I thought there was only one. Baal was “defeated” by Elijah at an altar. So Baal was another god? Hmmm…are we talking about gods…or GOD here? Some say that money, or food, or drugs can be your god. We are equating bad habits with Creator of the Universe!!!??? They can supplant the “real” God!!! I don’t get it.

7. Then there is the commandment Thou shalt not murder! But, spring was the time kings went out to war. Isn’t that murder, especially if you were the aggressor. I think there is a contradiction here.

8. Then the stories of the kings. When they followed God they flourished, but when they didn’t God Punished Them. So it’s God sending bad things on us when the king was bad? Just doesn’t sound like a god of Love! Kinda sounds like God made in our image instead of the reverse.

9. What was Job all about?  God and the accuser talked. Who is the accuser, and how does he get to talk to God? He’s a very bad person I hear. Wish I could get to talk to God, as I gotta be better than the accuser. And then God let’s him take everything away from Job, even though he was an upright man. Doesn’t sound fair. Ya, I know that happens here on Earth, but does it originate in Heaven? I shutter to think even about that. I know it could be taken as an illustrative story, but it never said that’s what it is was. It was told like it really happened. And how long did they talk about why Job was taken down….pages and pages. It’s a major event as far as Bible stories go. But I don’t get it.

10. Did you know there is no mention of the Jews in Egypt, including Moses or Joseph or about the 3 million people that left, or the parting of the waters, or evidence of 40 years in the desert. There is no mountain in the Sinai, but there could be one in Saudi Arabia, but the Israelites would have had to walked 45 miles a day to stick to the timeline described. They had to cross the Gulf of Aqaba, Not the Red Sea to get there. There is some unconfirmed evidence of some chariots remains there, but the Gulf is over a 1000 meters deep at that point! So it would be a major effort to gather it. It must have been a really great miracle to stop a thousand meters of water over 5 km wide for the Jews to cross. Also  Solomon’s temple has not been discovered, even though Jerusalem is the most excavated and researched area in the world!!! Actually Israel did not have Any large cities when all this happened…around 1000 to 1200 BC.  200 to 300 years later there were cities, but no evidence of kings or big empires. Nothing that was said in the Bible about David, Solomon, Abraham, or Moses can be found. They can’t even find evidence of the Jews back then. There is one carving  of a king’s name in Northern Israel (Samaria) that also has a one sentence reference in the Bible. That is hardly evidence. Shouldn’t the greatest empire of the time be written about. Where is the evidence of Solomon’s riches and kingdom?

There are no records in Babylon either. There are a lot of records from that time, so if the Israelites were “big”, it should have been recorded somewhere. The closest they can come is Ezra writing the “history” of the Jewish people when they returned from Babylon. The Bible says he was a writer and historian, but where did he get his information from?

I was amazed to hear this…the general consensus is that the Patriarchs  didn’t exist. I still find this hard to believe. This is the bedrock of our faith…and it’s a myth…a lie!!!????

Now I am getting angry. We have been told a “story,” a lie, for thousands of years. What is going on?

11. Anyway, let’s move on. What is a wheel within a wheel in Ezekiel, and how did Elijah, and others get caught up into heaven. Pretty strange. I think this is something we should be studying and emulating…

12. In the New Testament Jesus was an entirely different person than what Paul talked about. He never said he was the “Savior of the world.” In fact he didn’t allow anyone to bow down to him. He referred to himself as the “Son of Man,” and only once did he say he was the “Son of God.” What does “Son of Man” mean. I find no explanation. He did talk about his Father in Heaven, but he never called him God.

What did he mean when he said, “I am the way the truth and the light. No one comes to the Father, but through me?” He’s not here anymore, so how can we go through him? You could take that symbolically, but He said he was going back to the Father, and sending the Holy Spirit, which was going to “reveal” all things! How many Christians have that focus on what Jesus said…I was always told to worship Jesus, something he said not to do!!!

13. Paul said Jesus came to do away with the Law in Romans, but Jesus never said that. He did say that he came to reveal a new law…the law of Love (hence my focus on Knowing that You are Loved, therefore You Can Love Yourself, and Find Your Dream.) Jesus did miracles, taught Love and told the Jewish religious rulers they were evil. He said we could be healed by our own faith, but when we didn’t have much faith he could not do many miracles. He said strange things like, Is it better to heal on the Sabbath or to forgive sin? I ask, how did he forgive sin? Doesn’t say…. I think that’s critical, how did he forgive sin? To me it’s central to Christianity???

He also said “Neither do I condemn you, go and sin no more.” What…God doesn’t condemn us? Wow! And we can live perfectly. Well he said, “Be ye perfect even as your Father in Heaven is perfect.” We are supposed be like the Father…perfect!!!???

I think we got it wrong someplace. Paul says we were born in sin, then Jesus saved us from sin, and now we can be perfect. So we were never perfect before, and if so, how can we get there? Jesus said these things when he was alive, BEFORE he died on the cross and rose from the dead and saved us! Something is wrong!!!

14. What is this thing about Communion? Do this in remembrance of me. Drink my blood and eat my flesh? A commemoration, but really kinda gross, isn’t it. And why would we do that? What good does it do, but to remember him maybe as a symbol??? I don’t know, but maybe as an example to be followed.

15. The last thing…for now…I think I will be writing about this more…is the complete lack of difference in Christian character in the world. There is very little difference in Christian and non-Christian divorce, crime and many other statistics.

What???

I am astounded the lack of evidence for many of the Old Testament stories, and evidence for Jesus actually being a historical figure (Only 1 historian says anything about him. One would think that a man who changed the world would have corroborating sources outside the Bible.)

Also the removal and total suppression of books from the Bible in 300 AD that the leaders did not like. What are we missing?

I wouldn’t mind or question that decision, but with all the other things listed above, I have grave concerns!

I have lived my life as a Christian, and now it is upended, in doubt and basically destroyed.

So what does one do now? I have been researching and studying for more than 5 years. It’s called going “down the rabbit hole!”  It’s lead to many strange and wonderful places…and I will be writing about them in future blogs!

Stay tuned!

 

 

 

How Can You Love Yourself

In a previous post, I talked about the “Why.”

Now it’s time to address the “How.”

If you have not internalized the Why, go back to the post here and review it.

I did talk a little about the How in that post too, but let’s go it again, with more Gusto!

Number 1:  This is an ongoing learning and growing process. You are always becoming a different person! Your past is no longer relevant to who you are today

Number 2:  As you grow, things come up. You could ignore them by focusing on the Present, and overwhelming them with the positive, like repeating I Love You {your name}, telling yourself that all day long, listen to this YouTube here, make a video of you saying it over and over, and send it to me!

Yes, send it to me! It makes it REAL when you involve someone else!

Number 3: When some things persist, so you need a way to respond to them.

They will manifest as an accusation. “You can’t do this. Look at all the things you did.” Even things like, “I don’t know how. It’s too much. I don’t have time.”

The response is: Yes that’s true, that happened, but I’m not that person anymore. I Love Myself.

Then your mind will resort to send you thoughts just to make you feel bad. Insane things that don’t make sense, but your response is, “Yes, I know that, but I Love Myself.”

Then wait for a response. Most likely there won’t be any. Just think if you responded that way to your friends. They wouldn’t know what to say. Think about what you would say if they said that to you!

So the mind “leaves you for awhile” to go conjure up some new memories or situations to accuse you. It will say, “No you don’t,” and then flash scenes in your mind, or just “talk in your ear.”

The response is: Do you want me to hate myself? Make it either Love or Hate! If the answer is Hate, there is a big problem. It is an entity, not the real you. The real you would never actually say that.

Number 4:  Know that “Being comes from Doing,” as my Shaman friend says.

The more you do it, the more you will believe it, and the more you will become it!

Number 5:  Know that you want to Love Yourself! You certainly don’t want to Hate yourself!!! It’s innate. It helps us survive, keeps us from suicide, and keeps us creating  and growing!

Number 6:  Actions and Being are 2 Different Things!  What you have done is not you. You are the Being in the Present! Separate your actions, which are only in the past, from who you are in the Present…the REAL You!

Your actions are always creating a New You all the time! That’s a great response to past accusations. “I’m a new me, Now!”

Number 7:  Some of these memories and accusations will be pretty emotional, so when after you are confident in Your Love for Yourself, you can take on the “Big One,” It’s called Forgiveness. 

You have to be ready to admit your “wrongs,” be sorry for them, and willing to go to who you have wronged and apologize. Then offer to make amends. It’s hard, but so freeing.

You will be surprised that most people don’t even remember the situation, or have already let it go. I wrote about that here. I was so surprised when they said that’s all in the past.

The other thing that could happen is that they won’t accept your apology no matter what you do, but you can’t do anything about that. Just know you did your part.

So let’s wrap this up by recapping How You Can Love Yourself.

  1. You are growing and becoming a new person all the time.
  2. Repeat “I Love You” in as many different ways and as many times as possible.
  3. Learn the responses to all the accusations. …I Love Myself Anyway. Then wait for the response. There won’t be one, but it so keep saying Yes, I know, I Love Myself!
  4. Being come From Doing
  5. You WANT to Love Yourself! Ask the question, Do you want me to hate myself?
  6. Who you Are and what you Do are separate.
  7. The Big One is most Freeing!

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