A Follow-Up to the “Gentle Reply” Post

I’ve so many requests to add more substance to the A “Gentle” Reply to How to Love Yourself.

The Gentle Persuasion to “Love Yourself” is a good technique, because it is not an easy thing to do.

But just asking if it is “better to Love Yourself than hate yourself” is an easily answered question….Of Course!

So let’s run with that…why is it so hard to Love Oneself?

Because we have done so many “wrong” things…and people have let us know about it…many times.

So if you think about what they said to you, was it reality, or did you have a different perspective on it.

I would say most of the time you did.

That means that they weren’t inside your head…they were inside theirs…and judging you from there.

So if they don’t know your motivations and reasons why you acted in a certain way, why did you give any credence to their criticism?

The answer is, “I don’t know. Hmmmm.”

The second reason why it’s so hard to Love Yourself is that Your MIND is telling you “bad” things. Just listen to it for awhile…Like:

  • Boy you didn’t sleep very well last night. You are tired.
  • Why are you are hungry? You so fat and useless.
  • Why don’t you get up and do something?

Those are just some examples from my Mind?

Yours are probably similar…or worse!

So, how about using the same technique as listening to others?

Your mind is coming from a different perspective than you are!!!

Wait, my mind is me!!!

Is it? Do you agree with what it is saying?

I don’t really accept that I am Fat and Useless!

So your mind is not really You!!!

You are separate from it.

So what is YOU?

You are a “Spiritual Creator with a Spark of Divinity.”

That’s the REAL You, and the best reason to Love Yourself!!!

Blessings

Vince

PS. Please let me know if this helps. I have much more inside of me bursting to get out. LOL!

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Lots of engagement lately

Someone seems to have gotten ahold of this blog lately and told their friends, because there have been an almost overwhelming number of comments lately.

They comment but never respond to my replies, and the English is rather strange, but I’ll take it.

Now is the time to watch my pride. In other words to begin to believe what other people say about me.

They can put you on a pedestal, and make you seem bigger than you are.

It’s really hard to see who you are then, and you begin to Love Yourself because of what others say about you.

That’s not true self love. A lot of famous people get caught up in it, and end up on drugs or dead.

So there are different kinds of Loving Yourself.

Do the good kind.

And if you need help…respond to this post or at vsalzer@vincesalzer.com!

Thanks

Vince

Well…”We’ll Just Have to Wait and See!”

That is what I am seeing from people I talk to.

Wait and See???

They are abdicating any ability to do anything about what is happening.

They are also giving up their power.

It’s time to take back our innate ability to co-create our future! How do you see your future.

Look there first!

Then see the world as you want after that!

It ain’t going back to the way it was.

There is very little need for restaurants, airplanes, Targets, Walmarts and “fluffy stuff.”

What there is a need of is survival skills, plumbers, electrician, construction workers, and people who know how to grow their own food, make their own shelter and generate their own power.

When it comes down to it…what else is there?

I mean if you had those 3 things, what else would you need?

You would need socializing with others and creating things…and those things can happen much easier after you have your basic needs covered!

So let’s put the important before the urgent.

Look out into the future to see what you really want.

And if you need help with that…Finding Your Dream…

Let’s talk…

vsalzer@vincesalzer.com

Blessings,

Vince

I Had an Honest Moment the Other Day

The thought came to me that No One wanted to hear what I have been saying for the past 6 or 7 years!

That I had to admit I was speaking into the wind. And I was not relevant.

It was a very honest and revealing moment…

And it was very depressing…for a couple of days. I searched for answers.

You see, I am trying to “monetize” my thoughts into a coaching business.

My goal is to have my thoughts generate resonance with people that want to “pay” for my thoughts.

Honestly, do people really do that?

Not really.

They pay for things that help them.

So why aren’t the things I have been writing helping people?

Maybe I am coming from the wrong place, because I am not doing what I say…namely realizing that I am Loved, Loving Myself and Finding My Dream!

Maybe when I do that, people will then begin to “listen”

But, by my principles, it doesn’t matter if they listen…or want to pay me for my “wisdom.”

My responsibility and accountability is to Love Myself and to Finding MY Dream!

The question is…How do I keep from starving then?

Somebody once said you can have the best and most wisest content, but if no one knows about it, you will starve!

So can I really say that I have told enough people to find any that resonate with what I am saying.

Obviously not!

I mean, if I am just writing my thoughts for myself…no problem…but who really does that? They say things to others to have an effect…to affect change. But it’s a fine line to effect others and not try to control them.

This is a conundrum!

 

 

 

Some Good Sayings I Saw.

2k a day keeps the J. O. B. away.

Be Yourself…Everyone else is already taken

Are you contributing to civic enlightenment and national harmony?

Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean.

I am keeping busy with my own broom.

Am I waiting for someone else to do what I know to be right?

Is this problem my fault?

How truthful am I?

Is Jesus my answer, or the excuse that I am failing?

Do I truly Love Myself? What feedback do I get when I say, “I Love Myself?” Do I actually listen?

What would happen if I did Love Myself?

Would I still be in the situation I’m in?

What’s the Plan…For Your Life?

Ya…Really…

What is your Plan..Your Dream?

Do you have one?

Have you thought about it?

Maybe you should put some time into thinking about it.

Like how you would want to live.

Not just get up in the morning way before you want to, and go someplace you don’t really like and do things you don’t really want to for someone you don’t really like.

Like really think about it.

What do you want?

Are you afraid of Your Power?

Is that why?

Because if you admit that, you will begin to access things that you can’t even imagine.

Then there’s no one else to blame, and there’s no one else to congratulate when you actually move forward in accomplish it.

If you really think about it, there isn’t anyone out there for you to please, or even could satisfy, so why don’t you try satisfying yourself for once?

I know thins is tough, but that’s what I do.

Teach that You are Loved, You CAN Love Yourself, and Find Your Dream.

Sometimes it takes someone to tell you that in no uncertain terms.

So let’s start with a Plan

Call me…701-850-0560.

And let’s get started!

 

 

Deal With It!

Deal with what?

Whatever is bothering you!

Whatever is holding you back?

“They” are called Traumas by many people.

Why?

Because those are the things that keep you from growing, evolving, ascending…

from Finding Your Dream!!!

So what are Traumas?

They are misinterpretations of experiences, or memories. Those wrong judgements have negative emotions attached to them, and raise a flight, fight or freeze reaction in your primitive brain.

That’s what keeps you Stuck!

The judgement of the experience!

Remember, memory is experienced in the present. You bring it back up and that’s where it affects you. If it stayed in the past…on the shelf…it wouldn’t be a problem.

Our mind keeps bringing them though, because we attached an emotion, an importance to them.

It becomes a Trauma whenfear, guilt and shame become attached to it.

This builds a construct, a matrix, which means it can be looked at, evaluated and even discarded for a new interpretation…which forms a new matrix.

I would like to think that we can live “outside the Matrix,” but we can’t. We need have structure to be able to have tables, chairs, beliefs and the possibility of growth.

So we reconstruct those Traumas into beneficial things we learn from and set back on the shelf, with no emotion tied to them.

It would be nice not to have any emotions, but memories are where emotions come from, so one will always have them, but we can greatly reduce their affects.

We can use the technique of saying, “I know that happened”…or rather…”Thank you for bringing that up again. You brought it up for a reason. What can I learn from it?”

Once you get an intuition why it’s there and what can be learned, you can set it back on the shelf.

You can’t eliminate of memories, so they can only be put back in the database. You do that and lower their importance. If they come up again, it means you can learn more from them. Then they go back and sit there. You just keep doing that over and over.

The process is letting the memories come up, thanking them, learning from them and categorizing their importance.

Most of them happened long ago, and really have nothing to do with the way you are today?

I have a very charged memory of spraining my ankle when I was a teenager. It surprised me and hurt so bad. I was running with wet shoes on a guy floor. It was my first experience with intense pain, so a quick and negative emotion was attached to it. I still shudder to this day when it comes back up. I need to see what I can still learn from it. One thing is to be able to deal with surprising and painful experiences, and knowing I will make a judgement about life because of it. I have been living in fear of having new and potentially negative experiences. They could just as easily been positive too, but I judge…construct…my perspective based on that first experience! (I am discovering some of this just by writing about it…a reason to write your thoughts down. They become “concrete” and it’s harder for the memory to assert influence over you, because you have dealt with it.)

The lesson is: “Don’t Do That.” LOL! (The answer for everything!) Also be aware of your environment. Learn the beneficial way to react with it.  Also, that it happened so long ago that it has nothing to do with my present experience, but it surely does affect it.

But it still brings up a shuddering reaction, and I must deal with it on a consistent basis. Maybe just writing this will release it more so that I can look at it every time it comes up, learn from it and consciously release it.

When you truly learn everything you need to know about it, and, then commit to acting differently…being in a different state…taking a different perspective…the Trauma resides.

This must be a big subject since I already wrote 700 words about it.

These emotions…perspectives…developed matrix’s…can be deep seated…like a death or divorce…and can be hard to deal with. Just letting the experience resurface can elicit so much trauma that we can’t do it.

It then just stays beneath the surface…sometimes deeply buried…that we don’t even recognize they are there. Those are the ones affect us the most, but we work on the ones we can.

Once we learn how to deal with Traumas that are at the surface, the deeper ones will be able to come up.

We have to deal with them from the Matrix of I Am Loved, (Nothing can separate me from the Love of God! My parents Love me just like I Love my children…unconditionally!)

And because of that…I can Love Myself. Also, I am a created, eternal spirit by that God that Loves Me…ultimately and unconditionally!

That I am worth it…worthy…deserving…powerful, and able to Deal With It!

So we start from the Point of Love and deal with what comes up from That Construct!

Since Nothing can separate me from Love, I can deal with Pain, Fear…Trauma…anything.

I form my New Reality.

I call it Finding My Dream!

 

 

You Will Never Ascend Until You Deal With Your Stuff!

We all have traumas, fears and guilt that limits our growth.

We all want to ascend or, at least, evolve, grow until we are ready.

We must truly Love Ourselves to let go of all of them, and cannot do it without Love.

I had an experience with a greater power. It put me on the floor, unable to breathe. It said to me, “This is only the slightest movement of my little finger. You cannot handle my power.”

I learned that you must rise up, and become that person that you know you can be!

That entails being accountable, admitting your fears, and dealing with those feelings and experiences that seem to overwhelm you.

You do that by realizing and repeating that you are not those traumas. That you are Loved, and You Love Yourself. You are a created, never ending spirit. That is Your True Self.

Then you rise in Your Power!

 

New Thoughts on Current Situation

So what are your latest thoughts???

Has anything changed in your thinking?

Are you buying the narrative…from either side?

What statistics can you believe? Is this really a virus? If not, how come people are dying, and what are they dying from?

Does quinine or hydroxychloroquine really work? And is it safe?

Lots of questions here, and fake news too!

So who do you believe?

May I posit a solution?

Believe yourself!!!

But in order to do that, you must know yourself first. Otherwise your mind will “make up things.” It goes round and round and usually ends up opposite of what would be good for you!

And how do you know yourself???

By Learning that You are Loved.

How about this quote from a major religious text:

Nothing can separate you from the Love of God! Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow… No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God

Pretty clear isn’t it?

Next step, you have the right and ability to Love Yourself, because You Are Loved!

Remember Love Yourself as You Love Your Neighbor? I turned it around, but the meaning is the same.

So Love Yourself first, so You can have Compassion and Love for Others!!!

It also turns the narrative around from outward to inward looking. That way all the junk going on outside is in the background. Besides what can you do about all the confusing and unknowable stories out there?

The only thing you can really change is You!!!

And when you change, others have to react…and they do…both positive and negative, but it makes them make a decision. Do they like you or not? Decisions are the basis for growth!

So do you have to go out there and “change the world” or “have an impact?”

That shouldn’t be your main focus.

Loving Yourself develops compassion and empathy for yourself and then others. And then they notice and change happens.

That’s how it works…always!

So let’s change the World by Loving Ourselves!!!

 

Current Event Questions???

So what is all the fuss about?

50,000 people die of the “flu” every year. Many more of opioids,  benzodiazepines…Xanax…and other “drugs!”

Yes, maybe this could be dangerous, but where does it come from? There is  evidence it came from a lab, and it was engineered! Then it could be something to be prepared for, but are the right measures being taken, or is this for control!

We give up our rights when we are in fear just to “feel safe!”…It happened after 911!

There is some talk of the “powers that be” trying to complete their takeover of the world.

But others say the good guys are using this to wrest control away from them.

Who knows?

I think it comes down to US…to You….I! Each one of us can/will determine the outcome. It’s time for us to look inside, to see the best person we can be!

That’s why I always talk about knowing that You Are Loved, therefore You Can Love Yourself, and Find Your Dream!!!

There is great Opportunity in this crisis.

Make the most of it!

We can form the world that we want…not the one that is!!!