So why do I keep repeating myself….God is within us…our healing comes from within…etc??
Well, that is the first thing that one needs to really know, who and where GOD IS, and where healing comes from. Once we get that … and that’s the most challenging, everything else follows.
So let’s discuss this “mind control” thing.
First of all, our mind created our present situation. This “present” situation is really all there is, but our mind is always taking us back into our past or projecting our past into the future. It makes our present reality based on things that happened in the past. It compares things that we are going through to things that happened in the past. It makes a judgment on those things and tells us how it will turn out, and they are mostly negative. That way it can remain in control, and the present reality can stay as it is. It doesn’t want change, and it doesn’t want you to “get better,” because then you won’t need it as much. It surely doesn’t want us to realize that there is something else but it..our Divine self…which is our real Self. Once we know that we don’t need the mind, except for making plans, everyday, mundane decisions, and to keep us breathing. We will never get well until we access our True Selves.
We do that by focusing on ourselves…what do we want…what is our “calling.” I don’t mean selfishly, like what I can get, no matter what happens to other people. It means to ask what is best for me and therefore, all of Creation. That begins to quiet the mind. Have you ever had a new idea, a new inspiration? Did that come from you thinking about it, or did it just appear? That’s our inner selves communicating with us. That’s where healing comes from.
So put the mind back where it should be, in second position. I’m not saying this is an easy task, but, as all Truth, it is very simple. Just begin to think on God. Think on Creation as everything there is. Begin to just watch ourselves think..all the thoughts, fears, guilt and shame that come bubbling up from our subconscious. Just watch them, and then let them go. They are not yours. They are figments and they want to trap us. Just think of everything is as it should be. That will destroy mind control. Our mind traps us into thinking that it should be different. That this situation is not right..someone did us wrong….it their fault. It tells us that we did everything right, so its someone else responsibility to fix our lives. Remember we are totally responsible for where we are, and where we are going. It’s not someone, it’s us!!!!
Do we really have “Free Will?” Well, sort of, but only if we exercise it…and it’s not free. It takes a lot of effort and exercise.
If we think free will is doing “whatever I want,” we are right, but what do we really want? Do we want the money, the toys, the prestige? Does that bring us happiness? Not really…we want the happiness that true free will creates. We limit our free will by thinking that the spiff, the bling… is what we want?
Free will comes from control…self control. Knowing what we want and controlling ourselves to get there, is the ultimate free will. Freedom means free from our controlling mind. Being in our hearts or our God-self is the true freedom. We limit our free will by what we do. There are many forces that are trying to control us, and that is what is taking away our freedom.
The “will” of free will is our attention and intention..what we focus on. That becomes free when we control it. So for all of us control “freaks” this is something to focus our attention on…our will. To have an iron will means that we control our minds..by quieting it, and looking beneath all the advertisers and the media, (for one thing) that are trying to keep us in fear… and start living in love and compassion.
Compassion comes from accepting things just as they are. They may not be as we like them, but they are the way they are. We need to accept the present situation. Once we are not tied up in knots about how everything should change, we might be quiet enough to hear….from our hearts….how WE can change to make the situation better.
So just look at things as are, and quiet down and listen…for the solution..or maybe just the next thing that can be done.
What does it really mean to be in control. Most people think it’s to satisfy every desire…to not have anyone “telling them what to do.”
But it comes down to “who do you listen to.” I think we all are controlled by something….our income, our family, our upbringing and mostly our mind. It’s the way we think that controls us mostly. So are we really in control of anything?
Yes we are! We created the circumstances we are in. We did. Not anyone else. Again, taking full responsibility. The good thing about this is that we can create the life we want by TAKING CONTROL OF OUR MIND. You know that little voice (yeah, right, little) that keeps talking to us all the time. That’s the one us control freaks need to master, and that could occupy us for quite a while.
So instead of trying to control our outer environment, how about controlling the inner one. Stop the chatter, stop the going over and over the past, and stop the fantasy of the future.
Start by admitting that you/I have problems that we can’t solve, so we need to be completely honest about them. State them..truthfully, and say I can’t control my guilt, my shame, my anger and the issues those things bring up….like drinking too much, waiting for the weekend, because we hate our job, or our spouse who is always telling us to do stuff, or exposing our faults. Admit them, and then they will respect you for it….and ask for help from them, from God of the Universe which resides in us.
Once we start being honest, we can begin to deal with issue as it manifests. As we let each one go….forgive ourselves, everyone involved and GOD…we can heal. It’s like peeling and onion…never a pleasant job….and it’s layer by layer. The more layers that come off, the more we SEE ourselves, and our power returns. That’s being the best control freak there is!!
Not sure what to write on this entry. Have been learning lots on just writing anyway, and things will come. Deanie said my higher self is here trying to help me write. It’s been slamming doors and moving things around. So maybe I should listen….
First of all….who are we. We are an everlasting spirit that never dies. That brings up some things about Christianity that I have questions about. If we are a spirit, but we have one life to live, what happened(s) to us before we were born and after we die? We must have had an existence somehow, somewhere. Christianity doesn’t allow for that unless it’s heaven or hell, but how can we be in either place before we were born. How could we “accept Christ” before we were born. No one ever said anything about that. So where were we…in heaven or hell? Does that make any sense?
Another thing, since we are an immortal spirit, what have we been doing for 14 billion years, as scientists, and many other religions, say….or even 6000 years…as Creationists say. We will live forever, but really only have less than 100 years of experience. Does that make sense. There is a story in the Bible where Lazarus, in Abraham’s bosom, (What does that mean, and where is it?) is talking to someone suffering in “hell.” So that means there is experience after death, and it’s a lot longer than life here on Earth. Maybe we should spend some time thinking and researching that!
Maybe that’s why some religions say that we reincarnate, or have many lives. Seems to make sense, since we must be doing something. That could also mean that we could be anywhere in the Universe, wouldn’t it. That would be a “life” too. It just isn’t explained very well, and when there are unanswered questions, we begin to wonder and to research…and learn.
Another question is that is if we don’t accept Christ in this life; we spend the rest of our existence in hell. Wow that’s a long time! And what does “accepting Christ” mean. Every denomination has a different definition. Some say you have to be “reborn” and some say you have be baptized, go through some sort of training, and be made a “Christian.” So what really is the answer, and do we decide what it takes, or does Christ?? It says in the Bible that our faith is shown by our works. Well, Christians are not doing so good in that area. They have as many or more divorces, and generally have about the same life, as “non Christians.” So, even most of the Christians are not even “saved,”as shown by their works, and are not going to heaven. So that leaves at least 90% of the all the people that ever lived in hell, or are going to be. Doesn’t sound good for God, does it? Looks like the devil is winning. Is that possible? It says not in the Bible….that in the end God wins. That’s not much of a victory, since they can’t ever leave hell! (as evidenced by the Lazarus story..the man in “hell” could not escape. ..Luke 16:19-31.)
And there’s the unanswered question of what if Christ was never preached to them, how will they know. (Romans 10:14) Someone explained it this way. Everyone has a chance to accept Him, because He will appear to them, and then they have to make a decision. Well there goes the need for a church and teaching and living a good life, because for some Hindu, Christ will appear to them and they just have to decide one way or the other. My head hurts from that logic…or illogic!!!
So this is why I have been doing much research into what is really “true.” Since we have a long time to live, what is our purpose here on Earth, or wherever else we may be before and after? Since we have God living on the inside of us (The Bible says the Kingdom of God is within us, Luke 17:21.), wouldn’t a better way to think about it is that we are here to learn about realizing more of God in us…and the more we learn, the more God grows within us. God might be “out there,” but what difference does that make since the whole Kingdom is within us! Maybe we should pay more attention to what’s happening inside of us. Maybe should be totally responsible for our lives, and our “salvation.” Maybe we should be aware of who is trying to control us. There are many forces saying, “My religion is the only way to God.,” and they go out and kill all others who don’t “believe.” (All religions have done this.) That’s their definition of Love, because “God is Love.” It’s like they know God better than God does! Some have said, “We create God in our own image,” instead of the other way around!
So Christianity has some holes in it….it can’t answer all the questions, such as….What really gets us into “heaven,” or 90% of the people in hell…come on!!! These questions have to be answerable, or we walk around in doubt, which is the opposite of faith. That does not work in our lives. We live by faith…having no doubt about our destiny..our “ending.” The questions need to be answered.
I think we plan our lives before we are born. If so, given that I have always spent much time in thinking about what I should do next, I’m sure I planned carefully on the Other Side. I once had an intuition that my growing-up years went just as intended. I wanted to emphasize working hard on academic pursuits and developing the impetus to achieve. Now when I question the advisability of all that, surely some balancing act is taking place.
Here’s is a link to staying healthy by Amy Englemark. I also included the blog post. The link will take you to her blog where you can see other things she is writing. She is in the same niche I am…personal coaching in health and success!!
Imagine you’re 80. Ideally, what type of emotional and spiritual health are you experiencing? Write it down. What has helped you stay healthy? How do you feel? How do you look? Jot down the first things that come to mind.
I’m always learning. I thought you might like to know what so that you can take what you want and leave the rest. There’s more to health than nutrition and exercise. Most of us desire to feel healthy emotionally, spiritually and mentally as well. Here are some of the ways I do this.
Forgive quickly and steer clear of becoming offended. If I harbour negative thoughts towards someone I feel uncomfortable and sour inside. This definately shows up in other ways.
Spend time (ideally first thing in the morning) just being still or talking with Jesus. My spiritual quiet time is precious to me. I savour it like I savour good chocolate or a sunset! If I offended anyone with this last point, I apologize ahead of time!
Choose to seize the day. Really, who knows if today is our last day. If it was, how would you live differently? People in our very own neighbourhoods are struggling with their health. Why are we immune to death or disease? Reminding myself of our inevitable death reminds me to not take time for granted.
Feel emotions and choose to respond using self control and discretion. I’m sure you’ve experienced a disagreement with your spouse, kids or co-worker. This has for sure happened many times in my life. Emotions are great, even anger. It’s how you/I choose to express myself when I’m emotionally charged that makes all the difference.
How about you? What steps are you taking to feel healthier, inside and out? I’d love you to share them.
This is a great blog post from Ling Wong on Firepole Marketing.com. It starts talking about honesty, then gets into fear, which keeps us from being honest. Then it tells us how to cure the fear. I like the last point about talking to it…thanking it for protecting me, and then telling it to do something positive…like get out there and do it. Which I am going to do RIGHT NOW!!!
Leave a comment here or on the blog. We’d like to know what you think!
Recently I came across several blog posts, articles, podcasts, and videos talking about “being honest” and “finding you inner voice” in content creation and marketing communication.
It’s actually refreshing to find posts like these, because many online marketers have a reputation for being sleazy, manipulative, and only after a quick buck.
And it’s true – there are people online who are all of those things. They give everyone a sour taste in their mouths, and they give those of us who are trying to build honest online businesses a bad rap. But despite their sleazy tactics and “buy it now!” marketing copy, it’s all too easy to fall into using that same kind of hype in our own marketing.
Why do we do this? If we want to build trusting, honest, profitable relationships with our clients, why aren’t we doing more of it? Why are most of us still stuck in cutting and pasting sleazy copy from some cookie-cutter templates, then feel “yuck” about it but keep doing it anyway? How can we get off the hamster wheel?
It’s Time to Own Our Vulnerability
To write content that is honest and truthful, we need to own up to our vulnerability – be human, show some emotions (in a constructive way), and be passionate to make meaningful connections.
Putting ourselves out there in such a “straight up” manner requires that we have complete trust in ourselves and our message.
When we take the leap to be raw and upfront, parts of us freak out. We have all been hurt from saying what we mean. We have been rejected for giving voice to what’s true for us. We have been told to shut up. We have been ridiculed for “TMI.”
Those experiences make us feel unsafe to speak our mind, so we hide behind “other people’s stuff” in our content and marketing so we don’t feel the “rejection” when things don’t work.
Our subconscious mind uses fears to keep us from doing things that we *know* we need to do to progress our businesses, leading to what most identify as “self-sabotaging behaviors.”
The key to breaking the cycle of sleazy, cookie-cutter copywriting is to examine these fears and over come them. Or at the very least, to know when they occur, and when they’re interfering with your ability to produce honest marketing!
Exploring the Fear Factor
Fear is part of our human nature. Back in the caveman days, it kicked in when we felt unsafe and was therefore a very handy thing to prevent us from being eaten by the saber-tooth tiger.
However, in the modern days when the feeling of “unsafe” mostly comes from mental and emotional triggers, rather than the physical environment (i.e. we won’t die), fear can hold us back from taking actions that our subconscious mind interprets as “risky” or “unsafe” – such as putting ourselves out there and risk being rejected.
These sorts of unsafe fears are often rooted in experiences from our childhood. For example, a child who touches a hot stove learns not to touch a hot stove again. In the same way, we learn about emotional or mental fears based on how others reaction to our childhood selves.
In order to overcome these fears, we have to get a handle on what they are and how they come about. Below are 6 primary fears I have identified to cause us to sabotage ourselves when we try to put all of ourselves honestly into our communications.
We may not be exhibiting the “extreme” version of these fears. But trust me: we all have them and they do rear their ugly heads as we strive to create authentic, honest relationships with our subscribers.
The Fear of Inadequacy (Not Being Good Enough)
The fear of not being good enough comes from struggling to live up to other people’s expectations as a child. At some point, someone in authority told us or made us believe that we weren’t good enough. This fear can block us from taking risks if we think we won’t be good enough to handle the challenge.
Those driven by this fear tend to stay in the background, as it feels very uncomfortable to step fully into their gifts and messages. This fear can manifest as self-deprecation and self-effacement wherein they diminish their abilities and accomplishments.
Our belief that our own voice isn’t good enough can cause us to think what comes from others (i.e “gurus”) are always better than what we have within ourselves. This fear also makes us hide behind templates and checklists, so if something doesn’t work we don’t have to own up to the failure, which can be interpreted as evidence that we are indeed not good enough (which can be the most scary of all!)
I work with many coaches who hold themselves back from being fully “out there” because of this fear. Some feel they need to take that one more training, or have more certifications or acronyms after their names, before they can claim their expertise and work with clients. This fear has tremendously delayed their progress and the growth of their businesses.
Some would buy a lot of “done-for-you” content without considering how to add their own voice and adapt these materials to support their big message. I have worked with clients who got completely sidetracked by doing the busywork of implementing other people’s stuff but completely abandoned the reason they went into business in the first place!
The Fear of Losing Control
This fear comes from experiencing alternating periods of abuse and neglect in childhood. This fear blocks us from self-acceptance and makes us self-critical.
This fear can be very difficult to recognize from the outside. Those driven by this fear may appear that they “have it all together.” They tend to have tightly managed behaviors, routines and environment, creating the illusion that they are taking charge.
This need for complete control over the environment and outcomes of our actions can hold us back from being honest in our relationships with others – whether it’s personal or business.
Being open and vulnerable in a relationship means two-way communication. Since we can’t control what others may say or do in reaction to our content, putting ourselves out there can mean relinquishing control over how we are perceived.
I have seen people giving up on opportunities to share their opinions because they feel that they could not control the comments and feedback posted in response to their content. As a lot of us have learned from the Audience Business Masterclass, guest posting and commenting is an essential part of the audience business building process and this fear can definitely slow down our progress.
The Fear of Change
The fear of not being prepared for changes comes from feeling unprepared for a sudden major change that happened in childhood. This fear can make us resist doing things differently, even if logically we understand why it’s a change for the better.
Those driven by this fear can be very stubborn and set on the way they do things. They are afraid that change will result in disaster.
Standing up for your vision can mean breaking out of the mold and doing things differently. It can mean deviating from the status quo (or what you have been told to be “proven” systems). This can be scary because even if things are not working perfectly, we are surviving, and change introduces the possibility that we will not survive. This means that our caveman brain is gonna fight this one!
Many people I have worked with don’t even know they have this fear because their perspective is so dead-set on one way of doing things. Having someone who plays devil’s advocate and challenge our perspectives can help us cultivate awareness to our resistance – and this is the first step of making positive changes.
The Fear of Not Having Enough
The fear of not having enough comes from being given stuff instead of love in childhood. This fear can block us from contentment and compassion. This drive to have more and more blocks us from feeling much compassion or empathy for others since the focus is on amassing for ourselves.
Those driven by this fear struggle to acquire more of what they seek as an attempt to fill a hole that can never be filled. It is never enough and losing whatever they are seeking (money, attention, love etc.) can be devastating and therefore to be avoided at all costs.
Obviously, the lack of compassion can make it challenging for us to communicate to our audience in a relatable manner. It can hold us back from creating deeper personal connections because of the focus we put on what we want to amass.
This fear also make us stick with the “tried-and true” because what we have achieved so far (with the cookie-cutter stuff) may not be all that we want but that voice in our head may be saying, “What if I don’t follow those ‘templates’ and I lose what I already have?”
The Fear of Being Vulnerable
This fear comes from being criticized or ridiculed in childhood. It can block us from fully opening up and relating to others. It can push us to act as if we know it all, can do it all or bear it all.
Those driven by this fear may avoid asking legitimate questions for fear of looking like they don’t know something. This fear can manifest as arrogance or as becoming “small” so as not to be seen as a way to avoid criticism or ridicule.
To avoid being scrutinized and criticized, we may hide behind exaggerated claims, big words and jargons to “puff up” to avoid being criticized. We stay aloof and avoid connecting deeply so not to be “hurt” – and that is the opposite of building a trusting relationships!
I don’t know about you, but I have definitely seen my share of these “puffing up” behaviors in those bold red headlines and yellow highlighted sales pages. These pages also tend to diminish the readers in an attempt to put the seller on a pedestal.
How do you feel about such copy? They may get you to buy because they pulled the “fear of not good enough” trigger, but do you feel good about it? Do you feel they are making a connection with you? Are they making you buy out of trust?
The Fear of Missing Out
This fear comes from feeling particularly disappointed after not being allowed to do something as a child. This fear results in the feeling that “the grass is always greener” over there and often manifests as impatience.
More and more of us are driven by this fear in this age of instant gratification. We can compare everything and everyone, and this comparison trap makes us not want to miss out on anything that others have. The internet allows us to look around as much as we want. Unfortunately, if we are spending all our time looking at what others have, or what others are doing, we are not focusing on where we want to be heading.
This fear can make us think, “Everyone is following this formula or that template. If I don’t, I am going to miss out.” “Everyone is saying these things, I better do so as well so I don’t lose my customers.” (Hmm, if everyone thinks this way, and sticks to the “what is” even though nobody believes in it… isn’t that twisted?!)
To help my clients get refocused on their goals instead of being afraid of missing out, I put them on three “diets” – the social media diet, the newsletter diet and the group program diet so they can dig out of the comparison trap and start to find their true voice for their actions and communications.
How To Overcome Your Fears
Now that we’ve talked about the six fears that are holding you back from developing honest copywriting – and honest relationships – let’s talk about how to overcome your fears.
First of all, we need to acknowledge that it’s ok, and even human, to have fears. This is not the time to beat yourself up.
Next, you want to cultivate awareness and be intentional in your business and marketing activities. When choosing a certain marketing strategy, be sure that it fuels your big picture, reinforce your uniqueness and is true to how you roll. If you are tempted to use tactics not aligned with your value and how you want to express yourself, then it’s time to see if one or more of these fears are kicking in.
When you know how to identify your fears, they no long have a grip on you. When you become more aware, you cannot do things that don’t serve you.
Below is a 5-minute process to help you deal with your fear from a different perspective. You will be able to address it and move onto doing what you need to do without having one foot on the gas and one foot on the break.
Step #1: Visualize It
Visualize your fear in your body. Where is it? What color is it? What shape is it? What is the texture? Is it big or small? Does it make a sound? Does it move?
(Once, I had a fear that looked like a blue Sponge Bob. Go for it – if it’s something ridiculous, that’s even better because you won’t be able to take it seriously!)
Step #2: Objectify It
See if you can take it out of your body and hold it in your hands. Examine it, see if it shows or tells you anything. By doing steps 1 and 2, you are taking the fear out of your body and identifying it as something outside of you, so you can deal with it from an objective perspective instead of taking it personally.
Step #3: Name It
Now look at this fear – either outside or inside of your body, and say 3 times (aloud or in your head): “This is just my fear of ________.” Naming it heightens the awareness that your feelings and emotions are being triggered by the fear, which is now no longer part of you.
Step #4: Frame It
With this fear as an object that is separate from you, look at it again and declare 3 times: “I am NOT my fear.” Framing your fear allows you to deal with it from an objective perspective.
Step #5: Have a Chat With It
Then ask the fear: “What do you want to tell me?” Listen. Then ask: “What do you want me to do, and why?” The fear may tell you to do things that it *thinks* will protect you from harm (or at least, something that worked in the past but no longer does) yet does not serve you or what you want to achieve.
Thank your fear, tell it that it’s been heard and you appreciate the concern. But you are a “big boy/girl” now (a lot of our fears came from our childhood) and you are going to go ahead and take the action.
Step #6: Tame It
Repeat your empowering mantra* 3 times, aloud or in your head.
* You will need to come up with an empowering mantra that works for you. You can have multiple mantras based on the different fears you experience. Here are a few examples:
For the Fear of Inadequacy: I know enough and I am good enough as I am right now.
For the Fear of Change: I am confident in my ability to ride the wave of change.
For the Fear of Being Vulnerable: I find strength in my vulnerability. Living my truth frees me from the opinion of others.
Being Honest Doesn’t Mean It’s Easy… But It’s Worth It
Putting your ideas, content and products out there means you will face rejection. “Unsubscribes,” “un-likes,” and “un-follows” are par for the course. But these are good signs – they indicate you are actually standing up for something that matters!
When your content is honest and personal, you are being vulnerable with your audience in order to establish a relationship with them. And when you care about someone, and want them to understand you, any rejection of that message is going to hurt.
But it doesn’t mean you have to deny the feeling, or hide away from that type of marketing. Because the truth is that no matter how honest you are, some people just won’t connect with you – and that’s ok. You want to focus on the connections you do make with your readers, and grow those connections into a set of relationships that sustains and grows your business.
There are days when sitting down at the computer and writing your guts out hurts. Lean into it, write, then hit “publish” anyway. That’s what being different from sleazy marketers and turning pro is all about.
Which of the fears listed here is holding you back from being honest and truthful, and fully express yourself in your content and marketing? How does this fear manifest itself in your business? Share your insights and experience in the comments below… I will write back.
I was just thinking about a problem I was having with someone. They were stuck, basically just reading and posting on Facebook and WhatsApp all day long. No they didn’t have a job or a business, they just were on their phone, every spare minute they had. They were failing in life!!!
I thought how can they be happy?
Then my inner voice, said how can I be happy failing at what I am doing? (I always start by thinking about someone else’s fault, and the voice begins to ask me the same question.) Well, I am not happy failing. Then the voice said, “You will only be truly happy when you are happy when you are failing!!!! (Lots of when’s, I know, but don’t know how else to say it. My inner voice does not tell me how to write it, it just tells me.)
So, I need to be happy failing, because that is what I am doing right now, specifically, I have been learning how to trade the Forex market, and failing!!! My voice said I needed to be happy losing trades in order to start winning trades. WOW!!!
Why??? It said I can only learn from my losing trades, by being happy I lost. Weird! If I am not happy about them, I block the information that is needed to gain the insight to trade positively.
I think I need to change my thinking, which has been a limiting belief.
Now how about you? Are you happy, or are you angry about the things in your life that aren’t working? How about being happy that they aren’t working, and see what you begin to learn.
There is a concept about being in the present, the NOW. You know, that’s where God is. And, that’s where you are Right Now, and you are failing. That’s a fact, right? So why is failing such a bad thing? That’s where God is. So if God is in your failing, maybe it’s really not failing. Maybe it’s succeeding, unless you believe God is against you, but how can that be? God is everything, in everything, everywhere, all the time. And if he wanted you to fail, all His creation would fall apart. Everything must progress, to part of creation. So is there really failure…not really….can’t be!!!
Oh, you can have lots of arguments against what I just said, but what good would it do you? You can think I am failing and God is against me, or you can think that all the failures are there, so I can learn how to succeed!!
You pick which way you want to view things!!!
But I am going to be happy failing, and see what happens. There’s another thing, when I get an inspiration, I usually implement it. It’s called taking Action, and the first Action is changing one’s mind.
In the latest email from Learning Strategies, a personal development site they discuss “Decide what you want, Set your goals and YOU WILL SUCCEED?”
Number One is Define the Purpose of Your Life. Now that might seem like an impossible task. You might ask yourself, “How can I know my Purpose?”
How about we start with…”To be the Best Person I can be.” Or “To be the Happiest Person I can be.” Aren’t we all here to be happy and fulfill our destiny. Some might say, “Do we have a specific destiny?” Of course, to be Happy!!!!So what makes you happy? There’s your Purpose! Simple isn’t it??
Now you might say skiing or surfing makes you happy. That could be, but for how long. Skiing every day can get pretty boring after awhile. So you must look deeper. What gives you that deep feeling of happiness? Could be great relationships. Or solving a problem that could help you and the world.
Number Two is Be Clear About What You Want. So do some soul searching on the way to work, to get exactly what you want….money, success, spirituality…doesn’t matter, just be clear about it.
Number Three is Wire It Into Your Brain. In other words, think about it all the time. On the way to and from work, on your breaks, while you are watching TV, while playing with your kids or talking to your wife (Yes, you can do both at the same time!) Number Four is Get Going and Make It Real! What’s the first thing that comes to mind that would make you happy. Do it!!!! Why…cuz you will be Happy! That is 1 on a 1 to 10 scale, which means you are not at 0! You are on your way!!
To find out more on How To Be Happy, and Find Your Dreams, respond to this blog or PM me on my FaceBook Page. It’s worth a Free Consult!!
Regarding my missives of yesterday, they were an overview of what I have been thinking about lately. Maybe today’s thoughts might be a little less foolish, as I will try to explain and elucidate the ones from yesterday.
I will start from the end of yesterday’s thoughts, and go to the beginning to get a perspective of how I am thinking, and how it can benefit you in Finding Your Dream.
The concept of connectivity is crucial to Finding Your Dream. How can you ever be in touch with yourself, if you don’t realize how you fit in? If you don’t, going to work, or running a business is all you can even conceptualize. You might be saying that you are Finding Your Dream in your present situation, you might be “happy” there, but the world is always creating, and you will soon have an inkling that there is something more. Sooner or later, you begin to realize that you are stuck in the rat race, knowing something is wrong, but have no idea what it is, or how to escape. You will begin to know your potential isn’t being even remotely fulfilled So finding that deep inner spiritual connection…going within.. is the first step. You must get to the point where you are comfortable with yourself and your circumstances…so you know where you are…so you can begin to see that you could even have a Dream. That unfulfilled potential is your Dream, and accessing it is the goal and the process of Finding Your Dream.
So what distracts you from knowing who we are and where we fit in. Thinking about all the social problems in the world, and how “someone” should fix them, is a big one. That’s why I talked about the role of government in our lives. If we can think about ways we can control ourselves… i.e. personal responsibility…less control is needed from the “outside.” Learning that anything outside ourselves is only a perception, and it keeps you from concentrating on what is important to you…YOUR Dream.
Another big distraction is the current political climate. Being all caught up in the Bernie or Trump issue is really intoxicating. Someone is going to do something!!!…and I am going to support them…again, abdicating self-responsibility, which keep you from focusing on what makes you happy and fulfilled. You might say that your support of one candidate is fulfilling and necessary..it might be…but how much have you thought of yourself while you are fighting for you candidate? It’s your mind’s way of keeping you safe and secure, which is its job.
So how does talking about the political arena relate to Your Dream. Well, if you spend an inordinate amount of time participating in the irrelevant…in my view…discussions and distortions, you are taken away from focusing on yourself…what you want….which is, like I said, a peaceful life. So if we focus on that…the ideas behind all the rhetoric….dreams can come forth. Realizing that we are in this together gives you a perspective on how you relate and connect to everyone else, and, therefore, how you can contribute to the whole….humanity.
So how do you go about finding how you are connected? I have been studying some courses, like A Course in Miracles. It teaches you that the things you see and thoughts you think are meaningless, and you give them all attention that they deserve. Once that barrier is broken, real “reality” begins to show itself for what it is….a construct…that we construct…so now our Dream begins to become possible.
Another unique and powerful course is Crack Your Egg. In it you learn that your reality is your Egg and you need to ]Crack it to see your potential…to Find Your Dream. Your Egg is deeply planted; it pervades your reality and distorts your perception. It is a complete course on getting to your core beliefs, and changing them so actually having your Dream becomes not only possible but inevitable!! You can access the free introductory book here: https://se123.isrefer.com/go/heart/salzer/ and, after that, the introduction series, here: https://se123.isrefer.com/go/aseries/salzer/ They are quite comprehensive and will give a good introduction into what you will experience in the course. It completely changed my perception, and my reality, once I realized the Egg I was in. I highly recommend it.
From these courses, and others that I will discuss in future missives, and my own research and experience, you can realize that Finding Your Dream is in your grasp!
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