How Grieving helps to reevaluate life…which moved me into the Metaphysical.

All these thoughts on grieving have helped me to reevaluate my life. It has given me a Purpose…to pass on my family traditions and values. It has also brought me think about the metaphysical and “God.”

I specifically have been thinking about how existence could have begun.

I really like the theory that in the beginning there was just “One.” There was no time or space, because everything was One…like all together…at the same time.

Then that One wanted to realize itself, so it created “Two,” which created the Universe…and here we are. Simple right…well getting to Two was, but after that…will take more analysis.

It is said that if you try to randomly solve a Rubik’s cute, it will take billions of years, but if you have only one feedback after every try…whether it was right or wrong…a 1 or a 0…it will only take hours.

So that is how the Universe went from Two to today. There was feedback…meaning the every action had a reaction…and someone kept track. We can call that Source, or God…what it has been traditionally called.

Some call the One as nothing…like zero…i.e. atheists and some scientists, but that does not make sense logically, or mathematically, or have any meaning in physics…at least to me.

Maybe some scientist can explain it, but it would have to make a lot of sense, and not be too complicated. Mathematics…the language of science…has problems with zero. It can’t be manipulated. So to start with zero creates a problem. Zero multiplied or divided by anything is undefined. So to divide nothing into something…like 2/0 doesn’t make sense.

So I think we have decided that it has to be One. That’s what all the religions and mystery schools have told us too. Also that is a confluence between Science and Faith.

To know oneself is a basic teaching of metaphysics. It’s also called self-awareness…I call it the God Quality in each of us. We can think about ourselves…referring to the past and the future. We understand there is something bigger that us. We can judge our actions by the result they created. That is the same way God operates…always seeing the result…in an ultimate way.

Now I have a question about the feedback of the result of each move of the Rubik’s Cube. I said that each move will have a 1 or 0 feedback…right or wrong. Well, who knows what is right or wrong, unless you know the outcome… the completed Rubik’s Cube. So one must have solved it at least once to know if each move is moving towards the goal.

Hmmm. Then I thought about God. How does He know what is right or wrong unless He has been through all of Existence already? So he started as One…became self-aware by becoming Two…and then what?

It says in the Bible, that He knows the end from the beginning. That must be why He is God. That is way over my head!

To know right and wrong…ultimately…means you know the outcome. Wow! That is True Self-Awareness!

So how does this work for Us? In the same way we must realize…visualize… an outcome, and then we can judge our performance against reaching that Goal. That is what is called How to Find Our Dream!

First we must access that God Part of us that knows our Outcome…our Dream…and then start taking steps to create it.

Ahhh…another thing…create it. What does that mean?

It is the result of self-awareness and free will. They change our decisions and actions based on feedback and our Dream! And that creates a new reality!

So what is Reality anyway? It follows that it is the sum total of our results. As is said, change our actions, which create results, which changes how we perceive and interact with the feedback. That’s why a positive outlook is the best way to view the results, because it allows for seeing the possibilities in Finding Our Dream.

And it always starts with the first thing we do. It’s called the Next Right Thing. We really don’t know if it’s right until we do it, and the feedback gives us the answer.

So if the result took us away from our Dream…some would call it failure…we know we must make a change. It doesn’t mean we abandon our Dream. We change how we react, or our strategy, and do the Next Right Thing. It might be doing the same thing, with modifications, over and over, until we are shown another Next Thing.

So failure, or the “wrong” result, isn’t really a big thing. It’s just showing us how and where we need to change.

That should help overcome fear…what other people say…and procrastination.

Just as in solving the Rubik’s cube, the awareness of ourselves creates a path that we can follow through feedback.

Feedback from other people is crucial, as we can sometimes get too caught up in our own reality, and then cannot see the “obvious.”

That’s where I come in. Using my tips, techniques, strategies and intuition developed over 40 years of business, coaching and consulting, I can help you find Your Next Right Thing and show you How to Find Your Dream.

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More Thoughts on Grieving.

So what are we connected to in our family and our ancestry? Are we connected to the person…like mom…or do we want the connection to the memory…the roots of who we are. We will miss the person…and that is good… but they are no longer here. So we have to distinguish between the person and the thing that we should hold on to.

We talked a lot about the family and any memories we had. A new one that came up was that my maternal great grandmother was a moonshiner. She had the “stil” under the chicken coop, and the Feds could never find it. Pretty funny…huh!

So it’s really not about the person, it’s about the actions and the memories that keep us rooted. Knowing what the family did, where they came from and what they stood for gives us that needed grounding.

It is imperative we think that way, so we can process our grief, and move on in life. Associating the person with the memory will disassociate us from the pain and grief of missing them in person. Realizing that the family will continue helps us to see the big picture…that we a part of a larger family…a tradition…something to be passed on. Then it becomes a torch we can carry, as we are the next generation. We pass the traditions and memories to our children.

When we realize that there is purpose (passing on traditions and memories) to our lives we feel more secure, and we can look to the future with the hope of making a difference and contributing to humanity.

The other thing is that we realize…as many have said…that it is relationships that matter more than accomplishments and money.

So get to know as much about your family as you can, because one day the next generation will ask you questions about the family’s past. And then you will be able to tell them funny stories like having a moonshiner in the family!

It will be great fun and will keep the continuity and connection going!

Thoughts on My Mother’s Passing

Yesterday, I said I was going to write about my Mother’s passing. Well, here goes…

As you can imagine, it was a difficult time, although not unexpected. My mother had been in failing health for some time, due to a weak heart. She was on oxygen for 2 years, and her quality of life was just not very good.

So I expected it. She never went into a nursing home and died in the hospital in fairly good spirits. It’s the way I would want to go.

I had some grieving time where I felt my “roots” had been taken away…as my Dad died in 1996. Living in Ecuador disconnects one from family, and I had to deal with the possibility that I would not be seeing my siblings much in the future.

I had this overwhelming feeling of “I don’t know.” It was like everything that I valued was being questioned. It was very traumatic. Did you ever get that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, when you don’t know what is going to happen? Well, this one was much bigger than I ever felt before.

I went through a couple of days of when people asked me how I was doing…all I could say was, “I don’t know.” It was very unsettling.

Then things began to get better. It helped when my sister said she really wanted to keep the family together by meeting once a year. Then my brother said we were all invited to his place for Christmas. We talked about other places we could meet too. It was very reassuring.

So I guess I am over the worst of the grieving process. I learned that family is very important, and that being connected is crucial.

So if you are going through the same thing right now…or will be… keep the connection you have with your family.

If there are any further insights that I get through this process, I will be sure to let you know…so you can be better prepared for the inevitable.

Thanks for listening!!!