Why Visualizing Doesn’t Work!!

That’s right visualization doesn’t work. It demotivates you, rather than empowers you. Keep reading to find out why!!

Joel F. Wade writes a great column in the Oxford Club called “beyondWEALTH, THE ROADMAP TO RICHES.” In the latest issue, “The Shift in Focus That Can Turn a Wish Into a Triumph,” he talks about the scientific reasons “visualization” doesn’t work.

Gabriele Oettingen, professor of psychology at New Your University found that when we ONLY Dream about reaching our Goals, it is Relaxing and Comforting, but when we run up against the actual work it takes to even get started, we “Lose the Dream.” You see, Dreaming doesn’t account for the struggle, the effort, it takes to do anything. And every Dream or Goal takes Work and Time, and when you realize that, you become disheartened and lose the Intense Desire and Focus that the Dream gave You.

Gabriele found a technique called “Mental Contrasting” that gives you Huge Leverage in Accomplishing Your Dreams. She asked people to Dream of Their Success, and then immediately confronted them with the Obstacles, they would become energized and ready to dive into the Tasks! She found that You need to START with a Dream, but it has to be grounded in Reality. You need to shift Your Focus and go right into the Challenges and what needs to be Done. Doing so connects the Future with the Present and Motivates You to Get Started. Every task and every obstacle then becomes The Dream!

When Olympians do not focus on winning a Gold Metal, but on performing at their highest level, and what it takes to get there, they have a much better chance of Winning.

That shift in Focus will make the difference between a Wish and a Triumph!

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Decide What You Want, Set Your Goals and YOU WILL SUCCEED!

In the latest email from Learning Strategies, a personal development site 
they discuss “Decide what you want, Set your goals and YOU WILL SUCCEED?”
Number One is Define the Purpose of Your Life. Now that might seem like an impossible task. You might ask yourself, “How can I know my Purpose?” How about we start with…”To be the Best Person I can be.” Or “To be the Happiest Person I can be.” Aren’t we all here to be happy and fulfill our destiny. Some might say, “Do we have a specific destiny?” Of course, to be Happy!!!!
So what makes you happy? There’s your Purpose! Simple isn’t it??
Now you might say skiing or surfing makes you happy. That could be, but for how long. Skiing every day can get pretty boring after awhile. So you must look deeper. What gives you that deep feeling of happiness? Could be great relationships.  Or solving a problem that could help you and the world.
Number Two is Be Clear About What You Want. So do some soul searching on the way to work, to get exactly what  you want….money, success, spirituality…doesn’t matter, just be clear about it.
Number Three is Wire It Into Your Brain. In other words, think about it all the time. On the way to and from work, on your breaks, while you are watching TV, while playing with your kids or talking to your wife (Yes, you can do both at the same time!)
Number Four is Get Going and Make It Real! What’s the first thing that comes to mind that would make you happy. Do it!!!! Why…cuz you will be Happy! That is 1 on a 1 to 10 scale, which means you are not at 0! You are on your way!!
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